Re: [AI] . Re: my curiosity, Are normal people interested in marrying blind partners?
of course, avinash.. rightly so.. -Original Message- From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf Of avinash shahi Sent: Thursday, July 03, 2014 9:20 PM To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning the disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my curiosity, Are normal people interested in marrying blind partners? Rajesh sir this particular mail of yours encourages to read. Amartya Sen and Martha C Nusbaum again and again... Right to demand fareness. and state has a duty to enhance capabilities of persons with disabilities because they are unequal by birth or become late in life... On 7/3/14, Asudani, Rajesh wrote: > getting upset? > again what we call in psychology, the intentional fallacy! > > You had yourself writtten if I remember correctly that you are yet to figure > out what is this thing called love!!! > I am not being personal, just giving cross references and pointing out > contradictions... > > So, I maintain that love is not unconditional, and it has to be > operationally defined. > I think Avinash had asked me in sayeverything convention this question and I > could not reply due to time constraints. > > So, a blind spouse does put some additional liabilities on the non-blind > partner, which is but fair only. > Of course, we cannot and should not depend for all visual matters on our > non-blind partner, but as he/she is our life partner, we have every right to > expect a lion's share when it comes to visual tasks. > > I don't know why all this fuss is made about being equal and all. > We are blind, so are not equal. > We have every right to demand ffairness, our blindness relevantly > considered. > But, why do we expect super average performance from a blind person, be it > in marriage or otherwise? > A blind person has a right to be an average person, me thinks. > Both the blind partners Marrying each other, requires a great courage, which > is fortunately not lacking either, and my own two elder blind sisters have > shown it, as have countless other couples. > But, mobility, money, social support and a host of other factors take on a > much significant role then. > > > -Original Message- > From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf > Of Preeti Monga > Sent: Thursday, July 03, 2014 1:24 PM > To: 'AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning > the disabled.' > Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my curiosity, Are normal people interested in > marrying blind partners? > > I love my second husband so I make sure I provide all the services to him > unconditionally and so does he! I did not ultimately love my first husband, > for we did not share similar values, so I refused to provide any service to > him and left him after trying to make all amends for 11 years. > And it is very interesting that you are getting all upset about this > discussion. Don't as you will read George has summed up in a very fine > manner, there is no perfect recipie for marriage. We just have to see what > works for us! > Warmly > Preeti > > Preeti Monga > Director > > > > Mobile: +91 9871701646 > Landline: 011 22781446 > E-mail: preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in > Website: www.silver-linings.co.in ; www.silver-linings.org > Our Services: Executive Search - Specializing in Head Hunting. Training > -Motivation; Stress Management; Soft Skill; Behavioral. Gifting - Corporate > ; Promotional; Events. End to end CSR Advisory; including demystifying > workshops and counseling. Printing Solutions, Incentive Travel and > Marketing Data Mining / Refining.. > > We assure high quality service marked with excellence and complete > customer centricity, forming Synergies as we go along. > > > > -Original Message- > From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf > Of Asudani, Rajesh > Sent: Thursday, July 03, 2014 12:54 PM > To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning > the disabled. > Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my curiosity, Are normal people interested in > marrying blind partners? > > Marrying a service provider? > yes, we all want life partners, but it is also the bitter truth that love is > not unconditional. > You yourself had written that you make sure that your husband has proper > meals. > So, isn't it service providing? > if you want to term works done by spouses for one another and family, as > providing service, then fine. > everybody needs service providers. > If one of the spouses is blind, services provided by other spouse would > surely be much more. > If both are blind, they will have to invariably hire many serv
Re: [AI] . Re: my curiosity, Are normal people interested in marrying blind partners?
don't generalise things by seeing one normal buy killing his blind wife. good and bad people coexists in all kinds of communities irrespective off blind or normal. its in our hands to understand and choose right partners. On 7/4/14, B. R. Nautial wrote: > Of course! The topic is important in terms of our life but most of the > people have already shared different views on the matter, so it's better to > form a new group for all these issues instead of discussing on this forum, > which was created to discuss accessibility, technical issues etc. > > -Original Message- > From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf > Of Ganesh Babu > Sent: Thursday, July 3, 2014 11:15 PM > To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues > concerningthe disabled. > Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my curiosity, Are normal people interested in > marrying blind partners? > > Dear madam/sir > I am glad to share my thought to accessindian, if you want marry to > sighted pl understand their mentality, because they will be having > their comfort. I will share important matter to accessindia, saying > that one girl got married to sighted person in karnataka, that guy is > sighted, after leading 1 year life he killed blind girl. her name is > tulsi. she was working jss. if you want marry sighted person pl be > educated first. it is easy to get marry sighted but after leading life > they dnt understand blind problem. > With regards Ganesh > > > > Register at the dedicated AccessIndia list for discussing accessibility of > mobile phones / Tabs on: > http://mail.accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/mobile.accessindia_accessind > ia.org.in > > > Search for old postings at: > http://www.mail-archive.com/accessindia@accessindia.org.in/ > > To unsubscribe send a message to > accessindia-requ...@accessindia.org.in > with the subject unsubscribe. > > To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, > please > visit the list home page at > http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in > > > Disclaimer: > 1. Contents of the mails, factual, or otherwise, reflect the thinking of > the > person sending the mail and AI in no way relates itself to its veracity; > > 2. AI cannot be held liable for any commission/omission based on the mails > sent through this mailing list.. > > > > > Register at the dedicated AccessIndia list for discussing accessibility of > mobile phones / Tabs on: > http://mail.accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/mobile.accessindia_accessindia.org.in > > > Search for old postings at: > http://www.mail-archive.com/accessindia@accessindia.org.in/ > > To unsubscribe send a message to > accessindia-requ...@accessindia.org.in > with the subject unsubscribe. > > To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, please > visit the list home page at > http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in > > > Disclaimer: > 1. Contents of the mails, factual, or otherwise, reflect the thinking of the > person sending the mail and AI in no way relates itself to its veracity; > > 2. AI cannot be held liable for any commission/omission based on the mails > sent through this mailing list.. > -- nothing is difficult unless you make it appear so. r. aravind, D R O in bank of baroda, mobile no: +91 9940369593, email id : aravind_...@yahoo.com, aravind.andhrab...@gmail.com. Register at the dedicated AccessIndia list for discussing accessibility of mobile phones / Tabs on: http://mail.accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/mobile.accessindia_accessindia.org.in Search for old postings at: http://www.mail-archive.com/accessindia@accessindia.org.in/ To unsubscribe send a message to accessindia-requ...@accessindia.org.in with the subject unsubscribe. To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, please visit the list home page at http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in Disclaimer: 1. Contents of the mails, factual, or otherwise, reflect the thinking of the person sending the mail and AI in no way relates itself to its veracity; 2. AI cannot be held liable for any commission/omission based on the mails sent through this mailing list..
Re: [AI] . Re: my curiosity, Are normal people interested in marrying blind partners?
Of course! The topic is important in terms of our life but most of the people have already shared different views on the matter, so it's better to form a new group for all these issues instead of discussing on this forum, which was created to discuss accessibility, technical issues etc. -Original Message- From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf Of Ganesh Babu Sent: Thursday, July 3, 2014 11:15 PM To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerningthe disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my curiosity, Are normal people interested in marrying blind partners? Dear madam/sir I am glad to share my thought to accessindian, if you want marry to sighted pl understand their mentality, because they will be having their comfort. I will share important matter to accessindia, saying that one girl got married to sighted person in karnataka, that guy is sighted, after leading 1 year life he killed blind girl. her name is tulsi. she was working jss. if you want marry sighted person pl be educated first. it is easy to get marry sighted but after leading life they dnt understand blind problem. With regards Ganesh Register at the dedicated AccessIndia list for discussing accessibility of mobile phones / Tabs on: http://mail.accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/mobile.accessindia_accessind ia.org.in Search for old postings at: http://www.mail-archive.com/accessindia@accessindia.org.in/ To unsubscribe send a message to accessindia-requ...@accessindia.org.in with the subject unsubscribe. To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, please visit the list home page at http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in Disclaimer: 1. Contents of the mails, factual, or otherwise, reflect the thinking of the person sending the mail and AI in no way relates itself to its veracity; 2. AI cannot be held liable for any commission/omission based on the mails sent through this mailing list.. Register at the dedicated AccessIndia list for discussing accessibility of mobile phones / Tabs on: http://mail.accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/mobile.accessindia_accessindia.org.in Search for old postings at: http://www.mail-archive.com/accessindia@accessindia.org.in/ To unsubscribe send a message to accessindia-requ...@accessindia.org.in with the subject unsubscribe. To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, please visit the list home page at http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in Disclaimer: 1. Contents of the mails, factual, or otherwise, reflect the thinking of the person sending the mail and AI in no way relates itself to its veracity; 2. AI cannot be held liable for any commission/omission based on the mails sent through this mailing list..
Re: [AI] . Re: my curiosity, Are normal people interested in marrying blind partners?
Dear madam/sir I am glad to share my thought to accessindian, if you want marry to sighted pl understand their mentality, because they will be having their comfort. I will share important matter to accessindia, saying that one girl got married to sighted person in karnataka, that guy is sighted, after leading 1 year life he killed blind girl. her name is tulsi. she was working jss. if you want marry sighted person pl be educated first. it is easy to get marry sighted but after leading life they dnt understand blind problem. With regards Ganesh Register at the dedicated AccessIndia list for discussing accessibility of mobile phones / Tabs on: http://mail.accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/mobile.accessindia_accessindia.org.in Search for old postings at: http://www.mail-archive.com/accessindia@accessindia.org.in/ To unsubscribe send a message to accessindia-requ...@accessindia.org.in with the subject unsubscribe. To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, please visit the list home page at http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in Disclaimer: 1. Contents of the mails, factual, or otherwise, reflect the thinking of the person sending the mail and AI in no way relates itself to its veracity; 2. AI cannot be held liable for any commission/omission based on the mails sent through this mailing list..
Re: [AI] . Re: my curiosity, Are normal people interested in marrying blind partners?
Rajesh sir this particular mail of yours encourages to read. Amartya Sen and Martha C Nusbaum again and again... Right to demand fareness. and state has a duty to enhance capabilities of persons with disabilities because they are unequal by birth or become late in life... On 7/3/14, Asudani, Rajesh wrote: > getting upset? > again what we call in psychology, the intentional fallacy! > > You had yourself writtten if I remember correctly that you are yet to figure > out what is this thing called love!!! > I am not being personal, just giving cross references and pointing out > contradictions... > > So, I maintain that love is not unconditional, and it has to be > operationally defined. > I think Avinash had asked me in sayeverything convention this question and I > could not reply due to time constraints. > > So, a blind spouse does put some additional liabilities on the non-blind > partner, which is but fair only. > Of course, we cannot and should not depend for all visual matters on our > non-blind partner, but as he/she is our life partner, we have every right to > expect a lion's share when it comes to visual tasks. > > I don't know why all this fuss is made about being equal and all. > We are blind, so are not equal. > We have every right to demand ffairness, our blindness relevantly > considered. > But, why do we expect super average performance from a blind person, be it > in marriage or otherwise? > A blind person has a right to be an average person, me thinks. > Both the blind partners Marrying each other, requires a great courage, which > is fortunately not lacking either, and my own two elder blind sisters have > shown it, as have countless other couples. > But, mobility, money, social support and a host of other factors take on a > much significant role then. > > > -Original Message- > From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf > Of Preeti Monga > Sent: Thursday, July 03, 2014 1:24 PM > To: 'AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning > the disabled.' > Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my curiosity, Are normal people interested in > marrying blind partners? > > I love my second husband so I make sure I provide all the services to him > unconditionally and so does he! I did not ultimately love my first husband, > for we did not share similar values, so I refused to provide any service to > him and left him after trying to make all amends for 11 years. > And it is very interesting that you are getting all upset about this > discussion. Don't as you will read George has summed up in a very fine > manner, there is no perfect recipie for marriage. We just have to see what > works for us! > Warmly > Preeti > > Preeti Monga > Director > > > > Mobile: +91 9871701646 > Landline: 011 22781446 > E-mail: preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in > Website: www.silver-linings.co.in ; www.silver-linings.org > Our Services: Executive Search - Specializing in Head Hunting. Training > -Motivation; Stress Management; Soft Skill; Behavioral. Gifting - Corporate > ; Promotional; Events. End to end CSR Advisory; including demystifying > workshops and counseling. Printing Solutions, Incentive Travel and > Marketing Data Mining / Refining.. > > We assure high quality service marked with excellence and complete > customer centricity, forming Synergies as we go along. > > > > -Original Message- > From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf > Of Asudani, Rajesh > Sent: Thursday, July 03, 2014 12:54 PM > To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning > the disabled. > Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my curiosity, Are normal people interested in > marrying blind partners? > > Marrying a service provider? > yes, we all want life partners, but it is also the bitter truth that love is > not unconditional. > You yourself had written that you make sure that your husband has proper > meals. > So, isn't it service providing? > if you want to term works done by spouses for one another and family, as > providing service, then fine. > everybody needs service providers. > If one of the spouses is blind, services provided by other spouse would > surely be much more. > If both are blind, they will have to invariably hire many services, which a > sighted spouse could have provided free of cost. > So, I always say, as one of my friend puts it, money matters, but it matters > much more for us, the blind... > > > -----Original Message- > From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf > Of Preeti Monga > Sent: Thursday, July 03, 2014 11:36 AM >
Re: [AI] . Re: my curiosity, Are normal people interested in marrying blind partners?
No No I dont get upset.. thank you for participating in this thread, at least a lot of people participated with complete enthu! It is lovely that people like you and me have got the youngsters to at least start talking about this subject! Yes, I do say that I have not yet figured out the meaning of love! But, what I feel for my dear husband is termed as love from my end. Now, you are right about us expectations from the blind! And no matter what we achieve, we still remain poor things, at least that is what is said by the sighted world! Well, as I had mentioned in my earlier mail, we all knowthe present situation and hardships of blind people; I am no different, but yet, where is the harm in geting together and claiming what is ours in the world. It is difficult, but we are all used to difficulty and still succeeding... then why not here? We cannot change the fact that we cant see... but we can start to change the facts and see if we and the sighted society can see things differently! The modrator has requested this thread closed and this will be my last mail here, but we are going to take this subject further via the Fusion platform, where we are trying to get sighted people as well. I once again am taking the liberty of inviting you to come over and add value to the discussion at the next Fusion meet? It will my pleasure and honor to have you there with us. Please do connect with me on my phone number listed in my signature or on my personal email. I would love to speak with you, may I have your phone number? The Fusion meet is on the 3rd August at 2 pm. at the India International Center Anexe Lecture room 2. Thank you all for putting up with my writing. I do hope we all are a lot wiser and smarter now! Warmly Preeti Preeti Monga Director Mobile: +91 9871701646 Landline: 011 22781446 E-mail: preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in Website: www.silver-linings.co.in ; www.silver-linings.org Our Services: Executive Search - Specializing in Head Hunting. Training –Motivation; Stress Management; Soft Skill; Behavioral. Gifting – Corporate ; Promotional; Events. End to end CSR Advisory; including demystifying workshops and counseling. Printing Solutions, Incentive Travel and Marketing Data Mining / Refining.. We assure high quality service marked with excellence and complete customer centricity, forming Synergies as we go along. -Original Message- From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf Of Asudani, Rajesh Sent: Thursday, July 03, 2014 1:46 PM To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning the disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my curiosity, Are normal people interested in marrying blind partners? getting upset? again what we call in psychology, the intentional fallacy! You had yourself writtten if I remember correctly that you are yet to figure out what is this thing called love!!! I am not being personal, just giving cross references and pointing out contradictions... So, I maintain that love is not unconditional, and it has to be operationally defined. I think Avinash had asked me in sayeverything convention this question and I could not reply due to time constraints. So, a blind spouse does put some additional liabilities on the non-blind partner, which is but fair only. Of course, we cannot and should not depend for all visual matters on our non-blind partner, but as he/she is our life partner, we have every right to expect a lion's share when it comes to visual tasks. I don't know why all this fuss is made about being equal and all. We are blind, so are not equal. We have every right to demand ffairness, our blindness relevantly considered. But, why do we expect super average performance from a blind person, be it in marriage or otherwise? A blind person has a right to be an average person, me thinks. Both the blind partners Marrying each other, requires a great courage, which is fortunately not lacking either, and my own two elder blind sisters have shown it, as have countless other couples. But, mobility, money, social support and a host of other factors take on a much significant role then. -Original Message- From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf Of Preeti Monga Sent: Thursday, July 03, 2014 1:24 PM To: 'AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning the disabled.' Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my curiosity, Are normal people interested in marrying blind partners? I love my second husband so I make sure I provide all the services to him unconditionally and so does he! I did not ultimately love my first husband, for we did not share similar values, so I refused to provide any service to him and left him after trying to make all amends for 11 years. And it is very interesting that you are getting all upset about this discussion. Don't as you will read George has
Re: [AI] . Re: my curiosity, Are normal people interested in marrying blind partners?
I am 100 percent agree with my friend amit bhat on this. And true rajesh sir, money matters more for us. If we have enough money we would get sighted life partner as service provider. (poor or uneducated) On 7/3/14, Preeti Monga wrote: > I love my second husband so I make sure I provide all the services to him > unconditionally and so does he! I did not ultimately love my first husband, > for we did not share similar values, so I refused to provide any service to > him and left him after trying to make all amends for 11 years. > And it is very interesting that you are getting all upset about this > discussion. Don't as you will read George has summed up in a very fine > manner, there is no perfect recipie for marriage. We just have to see what > works for us! > Warmly > Preeti > > Preeti Monga > Director > > > > Mobile: +91 9871701646 > Landline: 011 22781446 > E-mail: preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in > Website: www.silver-linings.co.in ; www.silver-linings.org > Our Services: Executive Search - Specializing in Head Hunting. Training > –Motivation; Stress Management; Soft Skill; Behavioral. Gifting – Corporate > ; Promotional; Events. End to end CSR Advisory; including demystifying > workshops and counseling. Printing Solutions, Incentive Travel and > Marketing Data Mining / Refining.. > > We assure high quality service marked with excellence and complete > customer centricity, forming Synergies as we go along. > > > > -Original Message- > From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf > Of Asudani, Rajesh > Sent: Thursday, July 03, 2014 12:54 PM > To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning > the disabled. > Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my curiosity, Are normal people interested in > marrying blind partners? > > Marrying a service provider? > yes, we all want life partners, but it is also the bitter truth that love is > not unconditional. > You yourself had written that you make sure that your husband has proper > meals. > So, isn't it service providing? > if you want to term works done by spouses for one another and family, as > providing service, then fine. > everybody needs service providers. > If one of the spouses is blind, services provided by other spouse would > surely be much more. > If both are blind, they will have to invariably hire many services, which a > sighted spouse could have provided free of cost. > So, I always say, as one of my friend puts it, money matters, but it matters > much more for us, the blind... > > > -Original Message- > From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf > Of Preeti Monga > Sent: Thursday, July 03, 2014 11:36 AM > To: 'AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning > the disabled.' > Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my curiosity, Are normal people interested in > marrying blind partners? > > Thank you Sandeep for correcting the subject line! I wanted to do so too, > but replying to the mails blew me off all the time. Thanks for the > kindness! > You are right about the marriage part of your views too. It is a social > thing, but ultimately only the man and woman have to live together! If they > are not managing to pull on, then things can go bad socially too! let us > just undetrstand that we all deserve life partners, that is if we wish to > marry in the first place, and we must look out for them in a more open way. > Let us stop looking at marrying service providers but let us marry partners > for life! > Preeti > > Preeti Monga > Director > > > > Mobile: +91 9871701646 > Landline: 011 22781446 > E-mail: preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in > Website: www.silver-linings.co.in ; www.silver-linings.org > Our Services: Executive Search - Specializing in Head Hunting. Training > –Motivation; Stress Management; Soft Skill; Behavioral. Gifting – Corporate > ; Promotional; Events. End to end CSR Advisory; including demystifying > workshops and counseling. Printing Solutions, Incentive Travel and > Marketing Data Mining / Refining.. > > We assure high quality service marked with excellence and complete > customer centricity, forming Synergies as we go along. > > > > -Original Message----- > From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf > Of Sandeep Gautam > Sent: Thursday, July 03, 2014 11:07 AM > To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning > the disabled. > Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my curiosity, Are normal people interested in > marrying blind partners? > > Dear All, > First of all, unfortunately, so many mails are keep add
Re: [AI] . Re: my curiosity, Are normal people interested in marrying blind partners?
getting upset? again what we call in psychology, the intentional fallacy! You had yourself writtten if I remember correctly that you are yet to figure out what is this thing called love!!! I am not being personal, just giving cross references and pointing out contradictions... So, I maintain that love is not unconditional, and it has to be operationally defined. I think Avinash had asked me in sayeverything convention this question and I could not reply due to time constraints. So, a blind spouse does put some additional liabilities on the non-blind partner, which is but fair only. Of course, we cannot and should not depend for all visual matters on our non-blind partner, but as he/she is our life partner, we have every right to expect a lion's share when it comes to visual tasks. I don't know why all this fuss is made about being equal and all. We are blind, so are not equal. We have every right to demand ffairness, our blindness relevantly considered. But, why do we expect super average performance from a blind person, be it in marriage or otherwise? A blind person has a right to be an average person, me thinks. Both the blind partners Marrying each other, requires a great courage, which is fortunately not lacking either, and my own two elder blind sisters have shown it, as have countless other couples. But, mobility, money, social support and a host of other factors take on a much significant role then. -Original Message- From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf Of Preeti Monga Sent: Thursday, July 03, 2014 1:24 PM To: 'AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning the disabled.' Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my curiosity, Are normal people interested in marrying blind partners? I love my second husband so I make sure I provide all the services to him unconditionally and so does he! I did not ultimately love my first husband, for we did not share similar values, so I refused to provide any service to him and left him after trying to make all amends for 11 years. And it is very interesting that you are getting all upset about this discussion. Don't as you will read George has summed up in a very fine manner, there is no perfect recipie for marriage. We just have to see what works for us! Warmly Preeti Preeti Monga Director Mobile: +91 9871701646 Landline: 011 22781446 E-mail: preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in Website: www.silver-linings.co.in ; www.silver-linings.org Our Services: Executive Search - Specializing in Head Hunting. Training –Motivation; Stress Management; Soft Skill; Behavioral. Gifting – Corporate ; Promotional; Events. End to end CSR Advisory; including demystifying workshops and counseling. Printing Solutions, Incentive Travel and Marketing Data Mining / Refining.. We assure high quality service marked with excellence and complete customer centricity, forming Synergies as we go along. -Original Message- From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf Of Asudani, Rajesh Sent: Thursday, July 03, 2014 12:54 PM To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning the disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my curiosity, Are normal people interested in marrying blind partners? Marrying a service provider? yes, we all want life partners, but it is also the bitter truth that love is not unconditional. You yourself had written that you make sure that your husband has proper meals. So, isn't it service providing? if you want to term works done by spouses for one another and family, as providing service, then fine. everybody needs service providers. If one of the spouses is blind, services provided by other spouse would surely be much more. If both are blind, they will have to invariably hire many services, which a sighted spouse could have provided free of cost. So, I always say, as one of my friend puts it, money matters, but it matters much more for us, the blind... -Original Message- From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf Of Preeti Monga Sent: Thursday, July 03, 2014 11:36 AM To: 'AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning the disabled.' Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my curiosity, Are normal people interested in marrying blind partners? Thank you Sandeep for correcting the subject line! I wanted to do so too, but replying to the mails blew me off all the time. Thanks for the kindness! You are right about the marriage part of your views too. It is a social thing, but ultimately only the man and woman have to live together! If they are not managing to pull on, then things can go bad socially too! let us just undetrstand that we all deserve life partners, that is if we wish to marry in the first place, and we must look out for them in a more open way. Let us stop looking at marrying service providers bu
Re: [AI] . Re: my curiosity, Are normal people interested in marrying blind partners?
I love my second husband so I make sure I provide all the services to him unconditionally and so does he! I did not ultimately love my first husband, for we did not share similar values, so I refused to provide any service to him and left him after trying to make all amends for 11 years. And it is very interesting that you are getting all upset about this discussion. Don't as you will read George has summed up in a very fine manner, there is no perfect recipie for marriage. We just have to see what works for us! Warmly Preeti Preeti Monga Director Mobile: +91 9871701646 Landline: 011 22781446 E-mail: preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in Website: www.silver-linings.co.in ; www.silver-linings.org Our Services: Executive Search - Specializing in Head Hunting. Training –Motivation; Stress Management; Soft Skill; Behavioral. Gifting – Corporate ; Promotional; Events. End to end CSR Advisory; including demystifying workshops and counseling. Printing Solutions, Incentive Travel and Marketing Data Mining / Refining.. We assure high quality service marked with excellence and complete customer centricity, forming Synergies as we go along. -Original Message- From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf Of Asudani, Rajesh Sent: Thursday, July 03, 2014 12:54 PM To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning the disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my curiosity, Are normal people interested in marrying blind partners? Marrying a service provider? yes, we all want life partners, but it is also the bitter truth that love is not unconditional. You yourself had written that you make sure that your husband has proper meals. So, isn't it service providing? if you want to term works done by spouses for one another and family, as providing service, then fine. everybody needs service providers. If one of the spouses is blind, services provided by other spouse would surely be much more. If both are blind, they will have to invariably hire many services, which a sighted spouse could have provided free of cost. So, I always say, as one of my friend puts it, money matters, but it matters much more for us, the blind... -Original Message- From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf Of Preeti Monga Sent: Thursday, July 03, 2014 11:36 AM To: 'AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning the disabled.' Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my curiosity, Are normal people interested in marrying blind partners? Thank you Sandeep for correcting the subject line! I wanted to do so too, but replying to the mails blew me off all the time. Thanks for the kindness! You are right about the marriage part of your views too. It is a social thing, but ultimately only the man and woman have to live together! If they are not managing to pull on, then things can go bad socially too! let us just undetrstand that we all deserve life partners, that is if we wish to marry in the first place, and we must look out for them in a more open way. Let us stop looking at marrying service providers but let us marry partners for life! Preeti Preeti Monga Director Mobile: +91 9871701646 Landline: 011 22781446 E-mail: preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in Website: www.silver-linings.co.in ; www.silver-linings.org Our Services: Executive Search - Specializing in Head Hunting. Training –Motivation; Stress Management; Soft Skill; Behavioral. Gifting – Corporate ; Promotional; Events. End to end CSR Advisory; including demystifying workshops and counseling. Printing Solutions, Incentive Travel and Marketing Data Mining / Refining.. We assure high quality service marked with excellence and complete customer centricity, forming Synergies as we go along. -Original Message- From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf Of Sandeep Gautam Sent: Thursday, July 03, 2014 11:07 AM To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning the disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my curiosity, Are normal people interested in marrying blind partners? Dear All, First of all, unfortunately, so many mails are keep adding to this thread daily, but, nobody bother to correct the subject line (means its language and content correctness). I corrected the matter of the subject line and hope this corrected line will continue.. About this issue, I presume, Man/woman is not himself/herself independent to take decision. As we all know, marriage is not an individual issue rather it is a social one. When this marriage age comes, lot of considerations play their role. like, parent concern, social environment, self-comfort, self-ease, long-term successful and loving relationship with partner as wel as with family. My point is that marriage is not just an emotional decision but it is also a rational, practical and irreversable(in normal
Re: [AI] . Re: my curiosity, Are normal people interested in marrying blind partners?
Marrying a service provider? yes, we all want life partners, but it is also the bitter truth that love is not unconditional. You yourself had written that you make sure that your husband has proper meals. So, isn't it service providing? if you want to term works done by spouses for one another and family, as providing service, then fine. everybody needs service providers. If one of the spouses is blind, services provided by other spouse would surely be much more. If both are blind, they will have to invariably hire many services, which a sighted spouse could have provided free of cost. So, I always say, as one of my friend puts it, money matters, but it matters much more for us, the blind... -Original Message- From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf Of Preeti Monga Sent: Thursday, July 03, 2014 11:36 AM To: 'AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning the disabled.' Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my curiosity, Are normal people interested in marrying blind partners? Thank you Sandeep for correcting the subject line! I wanted to do so too, but replying to the mails blew me off all the time. Thanks for the kindness! You are right about the marriage part of your views too. It is a social thing, but ultimately only the man and woman have to live together! If they are not managing to pull on, then things can go bad socially too! let us just undetrstand that we all deserve life partners, that is if we wish to marry in the first place, and we must look out for them in a more open way. Let us stop looking at marrying service providers but let us marry partners for life! Preeti Preeti Monga Director Mobile: +91 9871701646 Landline: 011 22781446 E-mail: preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in Website: www.silver-linings.co.in ; www.silver-linings.org Our Services: Executive Search - Specializing in Head Hunting. Training –Motivation; Stress Management; Soft Skill; Behavioral. Gifting – Corporate ; Promotional; Events. End to end CSR Advisory; including demystifying workshops and counseling. Printing Solutions, Incentive Travel and Marketing Data Mining / Refining.. We assure high quality service marked with excellence and complete customer centricity, forming Synergies as we go along. -Original Message- From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf Of Sandeep Gautam Sent: Thursday, July 03, 2014 11:07 AM To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning the disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my curiosity, Are normal people interested in marrying blind partners? Dear All, First of all, unfortunately, so many mails are keep adding to this thread daily, but, nobody bother to correct the subject line (means its language and content correctness). I corrected the matter of the subject line and hope this corrected line will continue.. About this issue, I presume, Man/woman is not himself/herself independent to take decision. As we all know, marriage is not an individual issue rather it is a social one. When this marriage age comes, lot of considerations play their role. like, parent concern, social environment, self-comfort, self-ease, long-term successful and loving relationship with partner as wel as with family. My point is that marriage is not just an emotional decision but it is also a rational, practical and irreversable(in normal condition) decision. Its true, emotions, love has its prominent place. And, I don't think any reason not to marry with visually-disable person, if a visually-impaired individual loves to other visually-impaired person. It all depends on circumstances and conditions. It is always a wise way to have win-win situation, when both persons feel themselves in winning situation. Sandeep - Original Message - From: Preeti Monga To: 'AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning the disabled.' Sent: Thu, 03 Jul 2014 10:14:03 +0530 (IST) Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my quriyocity are normelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners Dear Prashant, Lovely to see you share your views! How true! Thank you for popping up! Please will you consider being with us on 3rd August for the special Fusion meet at IIC? I wish to have you and Veena share some practicle facts there. Trying to get loads of non disabled people there too, to get the socializing factor going! It is wonderful to say that girls are more open and accomodating, but there are some wonderful visually impaired men as well who have done what you have! And I know they are mostly happy because of their atitudes and not because of their disabiity. Warmly Preeti Preeti Monga Director Mobile: +91 9871701646 Landline: 011 22781446 E-mail: preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in Website: www.silver-linings.co.in ; www.silver-linings.org Our Services: Executive Search - Specializing in Head Hunting
Re: [AI] . Re: my curiosity, Are normal people interested in marrying blind partners?
HI all This enthralling topic of discussion has also obliged me to put my thought across. I am still bachelor though, however, would like to give a few points from my own observation. Well, I think initially the main subject of this discussion was weather a sighted person gets interested to be married with a non-sighted partner? But steadily the theme appears to be divided in two part of the discussion, one is whether sighted prefers a blind partner (what happens in the current scenario) and 2nd, whether a blind person look ahead to seek a sighted partner. Well, undoubtedly people with disabilities, in particular to people with vision impairment have been now equally contributing to the society and today the blind folks are really found smart, active and independent in almost all aspect of the life, be it personal, social or professional life what so ever. However, the another irrefutable fact is that in spite of being on the front in most of the aspects today, people with vision impairment confront a huge hurdle in many areas and marriage is one of the main facets where we people face the challenges while choosing a life partner. Now factually what happens: sighted people happen to be our friends easily and they also join us in most of the time in office or Schools/Colleges but when it comes to marriage, sighted people do not prefer to get married with a blind boy or girl. A bitter truth is that no work is done altruistically in this world and a large number of sighted people understand the disability, specially blindness as a huge Burdon in spite of knowing the abilities of the visually impaired. Tell me, how many private employers employ the blind employees despite of seeing the blind well working in other organizations? This is just an example. There might be several other areas where the people with blindness are not accepted even with good abilities or qualities. Similarly in the matter of marriage, visually challenge guys and girls are not considered by the sighted easily and comprehensively. I would not deject anyone to marry with a sighted partner, even I am also not sure for myself whether I am going to get married with a sighted or blind but what all I can say from my little experience that largely marriage between a blind or sighted is more or less a compromise and negotiation between the two hearts. Call it a luck or whatever may it be, but the fact is that all the smarts, active or self-independent guys or girls do not get the sighted life partner who could be stand equally in professional or social status. I have a wide network of the sighted people, I have done all my schooling and college from the mainstream, I have been working in the corporate sector with my sighted counterparts and, this is what I have experienced in being with the sighted. Some time if the girl or boy is ready to marry with us, their. parents do not allow them to do so. I was working in my previous office where a sighted friend of mine herself expressed her views with me if I can marry to her. Paradoxically I actually do not wanted to marry her and I didn't say or no that time. After couple of days, I had come to know that her parents were not ready for this proposal. Well this is just an example about how parents do not get ready at most of the junctures and a blind person cannot always accept a sighted person as a life partner. Both sighted or non-sighted have their own choices or priorities. If you wish to get married with a sighted one, make the efforts for that, and if you wish to marry with a blind partner, put your efforts for that. It's a matter of your own priority, as simple as that. If some people think that sighted would come and fall in love with us and then get married, well I would again say that even the so called love is not done unselfishly these days. I cannot be persuaded by a very few incomparable and exceptional examples where blind have got a equal sighted life partner who matches with maximum compatibility. Another fact is visually impaired people want to marry with the sighted partner also because of the security and so on. Many of our experts have said here while adding to this discussion that 'we blind people are not lesser than sighted today in all aspect,' I too agree here and this is what I've also written in the above lines, but then my question to those people that why you or a blind person need to seek a sighted life partner when you feel that the visually impaired are no where less significant than the sighted people? Perhaps simply because you or some of us have a small qualm somewhere in the corner of the mind or heart about the capabilities of the blind. Exactly in a similar manner, some time sighted people know our good qualities and they also revere us for that, but do not show that courage to get married with the blind. Well I feel mostly points have been well covered in this topic by many of us. At the end I would just say actually 'marriage is not a thing to do, it is a
Re: [AI] . Re: my curiosity, Are normal people interested in marrying blind partners?
Dear, Its true that manand woman have to live together after marriage. But, it is also true that they will not pass their whole life in a close room or in a vacuum. It is a very old but very relevant quotation, that: "Man is born free but everywhere he is in chains." The jist of my previous mail was that, Nothing is good or bad either marrying sighted or blind partner, rather it all depends on prevailing circumstances, events and context at that time. Some say, we will spent our whole life loving each other in any condition of life despite of having any kind of deprivation. But, my friends, it is an old saying, bhooke pet bhajan na hoye Gopala. So, love and emotions have their own role and other things have their distinct part to play in the life. And, decision about marrying sighted or blind partner cannot be generalized. Rather, it should be left upto personal judgement. Sandeep Original Message - From: Preeti Monga To: 'AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning the disabled.' Sent: Thu, 03 Jul 2014 11:35:46 +0530 (IST) Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my curiosity, Are normal people interested in marrying blind partners? Thank you Sandeep for correcting the subject line! I wanted to do so too, but replying to the mails blew me off all the time. Thanks for the kindness! You are right about the marriage part of your views too. It is a social thing, but ultimately only the man and woman have to live together! If they are not managing to pull on, then things can go bad socially too! let us just undetrstand that we all deserve life partners, that is if we wish to marry in the first place, and we must look out for them in a more open way. Let us stop looking at marrying service providers but let us marry partners for life! Preeti Preeti Monga Director Mobile: +91 9871701646 Landline: 011 22781446 E-mail: preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in Website: www.silver-linings.co.in ; www.silver-linings.org Our Services: Executive Search - Specializing in Head Hunting. Training –Motivation; Stress Management; Soft Skill; Behavioral. Gifting – Corporate ; Promotional; Events. End to end CSR Advisory; including demystifying workshops and counseling. Printing Solutions, Incentive Travel and Marketing Data Mining / Refining.. We assure high quality service marked with excellence and complete customer centricity, forming Synergies as we go along. -Original Message- From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf Of Sandeep Gautam Sent: Thursday, July 03, 2014 11:07 AM To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning the disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my curiosity, Are normal people interested in marrying blind partners? Dear All, First of all, unfortunately, so many mails are keep adding to this thread daily, but, nobody bother to correct the subject line (means its language and content correctness). I corrected the matter of the subject line and hope this corrected line will continue.. About this issue, I presume, Man/woman is not himself/herself independent to take decision. As we all know, marriage is not an individual issue rather it is a social one. When this marriage age comes, lot of considerations play their role. like, parent concern, social environment, self-comfort, self-ease, long-term successful and loving relationship with partner as wel as with family. My point is that marriage is not just an emotional decision but it is also a rational, practical and irreversable(in normal condition) decision. Its true, emotions, love has its prominent place. And, I don't think any reason not to marry with visually-disable person, if a visually-impaired individual loves to other visually-impaired person. It all depends on circumstances and conditions. It is always a wise way to have win-win situation, when both persons feel themselves in winning situation. Sandeep - Original Message - From: Preeti Monga To: 'AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning the disabled.' Sent: Thu, 03 Jul 2014 10:14:03 +0530 (IST) Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my quriyocity are normelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners Dear Prashant, Lovely to see you share your views! How true! Thank you for popping up! Please will you consider being with us on 3rd August for the special Fusion meet at IIC? I wish to have you and Veena share some practicle facts there. Trying to get loads of non disabled people there too, to get the socializing factor going! It is wonderful to say that girls are more open and accomodating, but there are some wonderful visually impaired men as well who have done what you have! And I know they are mostly happy because of their atitudes and not because of their disabiity. Warmly Preeti Preeti Monga Director Mobile: +91 9871701646 Landline: 011 2
Re: [AI] . Re: my curiosity, Are normal people interested in marrying blind partners?
Thank you Sandeep for correcting the subject line! I wanted to do so too, but replying to the mails blew me off all the time. Thanks for the kindness! You are right about the marriage part of your views too. It is a social thing, but ultimately only the man and woman have to live together! If they are not managing to pull on, then things can go bad socially too! let us just undetrstand that we all deserve life partners, that is if we wish to marry in the first place, and we must look out for them in a more open way. Let us stop looking at marrying service providers but let us marry partners for life! Preeti Preeti Monga Director Mobile: +91 9871701646 Landline: 011 22781446 E-mail: preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in Website: www.silver-linings.co.in ; www.silver-linings.org Our Services: Executive Search - Specializing in Head Hunting. Training –Motivation; Stress Management; Soft Skill; Behavioral. Gifting – Corporate ; Promotional; Events. End to end CSR Advisory; including demystifying workshops and counseling. Printing Solutions, Incentive Travel and Marketing Data Mining / Refining.. We assure high quality service marked with excellence and complete customer centricity, forming Synergies as we go along. -Original Message- From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf Of Sandeep Gautam Sent: Thursday, July 03, 2014 11:07 AM To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning the disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my curiosity, Are normal people interested in marrying blind partners? Dear All, First of all, unfortunately, so many mails are keep adding to this thread daily, but, nobody bother to correct the subject line (means its language and content correctness). I corrected the matter of the subject line and hope this corrected line will continue.. About this issue, I presume, Man/woman is not himself/herself independent to take decision. As we all know, marriage is not an individual issue rather it is a social one. When this marriage age comes, lot of considerations play their role. like, parent concern, social environment, self-comfort, self-ease, long-term successful and loving relationship with partner as wel as with family. My point is that marriage is not just an emotional decision but it is also a rational, practical and irreversable(in normal condition) decision. Its true, emotions, love has its prominent place. And, I don't think any reason not to marry with visually-disable person, if a visually-impaired individual loves to other visually-impaired person. It all depends on circumstances and conditions. It is always a wise way to have win-win situation, when both persons feel themselves in winning situation. Sandeep - Original Message - From: Preeti Monga To: 'AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning the disabled.' Sent: Thu, 03 Jul 2014 10:14:03 +0530 (IST) Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my quriyocity are normelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners Dear Prashant, Lovely to see you share your views! How true! Thank you for popping up! Please will you consider being with us on 3rd August for the special Fusion meet at IIC? I wish to have you and Veena share some practicle facts there. Trying to get loads of non disabled people there too, to get the socializing factor going! It is wonderful to say that girls are more open and accomodating, but there are some wonderful visually impaired men as well who have done what you have! And I know they are mostly happy because of their atitudes and not because of their disabiity. Warmly Preeti Preeti Monga Director Mobile: +91 9871701646 Landline: 011 22781446 E-mail: preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in Website: www.silver-linings.co.in ; www.silver-linings.org Our Services: Executive Search - Specializing in Head Hunting. Training –Motivation; Stress Management; Soft Skill; Behavioral. Gifting – Corporate ; Promotional; Events. End to end CSR Advisory; including demystifying workshops and counseling. Printing Solutions, Incentive Travel and Marketing Data Mining / Refining.. We assure high quality service marked with excellence and complete customer centricity, forming Synergies as we go along. -Original Message- From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf Of Prashant Verma Sent: Wednesday, July 02, 2014 9:22 PM To: accessindia@accessindia. in Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my quriyocity are normelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners This discussion has made interesting reading. Knowing that writing anything on this could attract all types of comments, still I am putting down my views. Few people are stating the current situation while few are talking more about what should be the ideal scenario. The only complaint I have with many visually impaired is that they are not willing to marry any visually
Re: [AI] . Re: my curiosity, Are normal people interested in marrying blind partners?
Dear All, First of all, unfortunately, so many mails are keep adding to this thread daily, but, nobody bother to correct the subject line (means its language and content correctness). I corrected the matter of the subject line and hope this corrected line will continue.. About this issue, I presume, Man/woman is not himself/herself independent to take decision. As we all know, marriage is not an individual issue rather it is a social one. When this marriage age comes, lot of considerations play their role. like, parent concern, social environment, self-comfort, self-ease, long-term successful and loving relationship with partner as wel as with family. My point is that marriage is not just an emotional decision but it is also a rational, practical and irreversable(in normal condition) decision. Its true, emotions, love has its prominent place. And, I don't think any reason not to marry with visually-disable person, if a visually-impaired individual loves to other visually-impaired person. It all depends on circumstances and conditions. It is always a wise way to have win-win situation, when both persons feel themselves in winning situation. Sandeep - Original Message - From: Preeti Monga To: 'AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning the disabled.' Sent: Thu, 03 Jul 2014 10:14:03 +0530 (IST) Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my quriyocity are normelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners Dear Prashant, Lovely to see you share your views! How true! Thank you for popping up! Please will you consider being with us on 3rd August for the special Fusion meet at IIC? I wish to have you and Veena share some practicle facts there. Trying to get loads of non disabled people there too, to get the socializing factor going! It is wonderful to say that girls are more open and accomodating, but there are some wonderful visually impaired men as well who have done what you have! And I know they are mostly happy because of their atitudes and not because of their disabiity. Warmly Preeti Preeti Monga Director Mobile: +91 9871701646 Landline: 011 22781446 E-mail: preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in Website: www.silver-linings.co.in ; www.silver-linings.org Our Services: Executive Search - Specializing in Head Hunting. Training –Motivation; Stress Management; Soft Skill; Behavioral. Gifting – Corporate ; Promotional; Events. End to end CSR Advisory; including demystifying workshops and counseling. Printing Solutions, Incentive Travel and Marketing Data Mining / Refining.. We assure high quality service marked with excellence and complete customer centricity, forming Synergies as we go along. -Original Message- From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf Of Prashant Verma Sent: Wednesday, July 02, 2014 9:22 PM To: accessindia@accessindia. in Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my quriyocity are normelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners This discussion has made interesting reading. Knowing that writing anything on this could attract all types of comments, still I am putting down my views. Few people are stating the current situation while few are talking more about what should be the ideal scenario. The only complaint I have with many visually impaired is that they are not willing to marry any visually impaired at all. If they consider themselves useful and productive then they should be ready to accept a visually impaired partner. My understanding is that those who have not been able to master their disability due to various factors desire sighted partners. Some of these factors may be beyond their control. Economic status, upbringing, social pressure etc. are few of the factors. I think the possibility of having visually impaired children is one of the root cause of this desire. It is however not openly accepted. Parents also want someone sighted who can look after their son/daughter after them. What matters is compatibility and understanding. If we get a non-disabled partner then it may help solve few practical problems but then a visually impaired partner also takes care of many other matters. When looking for partners, one should have an open mind. Disability like caste, religion etc should be a secondary consideration. I see so many young talented and well settled visually impaired girls all around here but visually impaired boys even though they are passing the marriageable age are not ready to accept visually impaird partners. Finally they have to make comprimises. Girls sighted or disabled are generally seen to be more open minded and accommodating. It will indeed be great if visually impaired socialize more in the non-disabled community. It will enhance their personality and at the same time will increase chances of finding partners. I am partially sighted and married to a totally blind woman. -Original Message- From: AccessIndia [mailto:
