[Callers] Re: Tony Parkes 1949-2024

[Tina Fields via Contra Callers]

Hi everyone,
I, too, will join in calling a dance in Tony's honor this weekend, one he wrote 
or possibly a medley of them. I appreciate Neil Schlein's way of introducing a 
memorial dance - thanks for that. Can you also please share the dance Empty 
Shoes here?
I only got to meet Tony once, at RPDLW, and thought his reputation well 
deserved: he was one of the finest callers I'd ever heard to date, and a truly 
nice person to boot. My condolences to all who loved him. Hail the Goer! 

warmly, 
Tina Fields

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[Callers] Re: Tony Parkes 1949-2024

[Neal Schlein via Contra Callers]

Actually, I don’t think I can give details.  Sorry.

I’m not the author of Empty Shoes and can’t claim I have permission to
share the full choreography widely. It was written by a musician/caller
(Rodney Barnes?) after his father died, and I first learned it from him at
one of the last Folk Fellowship dance camps. Those were invitation-only
groups and the notes were printed in the syllabus/yearbook, which is what I
refer to every time we need it. (Which I regretfully have to do soon, as we
just lost one of our longest-term dancers. I’ve only taught it five or six
times in the last 15 years.)

While I assume it would probably be fine for me to share the details, I’ve
never seen the dance posted online anywhere and I don’t know the author
that well. I would prefer not to violate his copyrights on something that
could still be sensitive.

However, I will say that it require a fairly large number of people,
because it is a circular contra with a definite ECD feel and rather more
intricate than the typical contra dance.  If I recall correctly, it has a
setting-type balance and a 2-hand turn in it.

Neal Schlein
Librarian, MSLIS


On Wed, May 8, 2024 at 4:21 PM Patricia Campbell @gmail.com> wrote:

> Would you please describe the dance Empty Shoes?
>
> Thanks!
>
> Patricia
>
> Patricia Campbell
> southern Maine
>
>
> *Celebrating Community Through Traditional Dance and Music*
>
>
>
> On Wed, May 8, 2024 at 5:23 PM Neal Schlein via Contra Callers <
> contracallers@lists.sharedweight.net> wrote:
>
>> One of the rather idiosyncratic dance groups that I belong to has a
>> specific dance that we do in memory of a recently deceased member, as well
>> as all the other dancers who came and left before. We also do it at camps
>> to remember anyone who can’t join us for whatever reason. The dance is
>> named Empty Shoes.
>>
>> At a more open dance, if it is recent and the person is locally known I
>> might post a note at the front table with a brief obituary and let the
>> volunteers know that a dance will be dedicated at some point in the night.
>>
>> From the microphone, I would make the announcement one dance ahead so
>> people have the chance to step out. Then keep it brief, basically to the
>> extent of, “Some of you may not have heard, but XYZ person passed away
>> recently.  They were a valuable part of our/the national dance community
>> for many years and will be missed. The next dance is one that they
>> wrote/particularly enjoyed, and I want to share it with you in their
>> memory.”
>>
>> Neal Schlein
>> Librarian, MSLIS
>>
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[Callers] Re: Tony Parkes 1949-2024

[Joe Harrington via Contra Callers]

And, sorry, that should have been...

--jh--
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Organizer, Orlando Contra Dance
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On Wed, May 8, 2024 at 7:06 PM Joe Harrington 
wrote:

> I've given a lot of thought to obituary dances recently, as we've had so
> many...Kim, Christine, now Tony...and, well, we're a graying community
> (though Christine proved you don't have to be to leave this earth).  Many
> of us have danced a silent contra in memory at dance camps with a certain
> caller.
>
> I think what you do really depends on both who is in the room and who died.
>
> For example, Kim Yerton was well known to me and I played a lot of Bear
> music at Orlando dances.  Our dance started just two years ago and used
> recorded music for most of its first year, until we got some sponsors.
> However, nearly everyone at the dance was new and learned to dance in our
> community, post-pandemic.  Only perhaps three people had ever met Kim,
> including me.  When I put on a Bear tune in her memory, the main effect was
> that people came to me afterward and offered condolences for my lost
> friend.  Not the effect I had hoped to have.  I wanted to honor Kim, not
> get sympathy.
>
> But, a local dance angel died last year, Al Rogers.  As part of his last
> wishes, he encouraged people to contribute to local dances in lieu of
> flowers, and many performers did one or more gigs for free.  When someone
> said they were calling for free in honor of Al, the dancers really
> appreciated it, even though, again, most had never met him.  So, that made
> a much bigger impression.  And, more importantly, it was a positive, happy
> vibe, which is tough to achieve in a memorial situation.  And, we knew it
> was what Al wanted, because he told us.
>
> Another concern is, if a prominent local or national figure passes and
> gets remembered, and then someone of perhaps lesser stature passes, you
> have the possibility of offending some if they are not recognized, or even
> if they are and the community response isn't as deep.
>
> Claire already mentioned the worry of people dropping out or breaking down.
>
> And finally, in most cases, people are at a dance for joy, an upbeat
> time.  If they are not feeling personally down about the death, perhaps
> because they don't know the person, then being brought down or having
> everyone around them brought down is not what they came for.
>
> I don't have a single recipe, but I lean toward minimal recognition at the
> mic, only of people really important to the dancers present, real
> elephant-in-the-room situations.  Warn ahead, as was mentioned.  Otherwise,
> a sign and flowers or a photo on a table or someplace visible but not
> obtrusive should work for most, and allows people to manage their own
> emotional state in their own way and not on the dance floor.  It can even
> be pointed out from the mic (before the break, please, not before a dance).
> It gives recognition and allows for personal grief without breaking the
> happy vibe of the whole dance.
>
> --jh--
>
>
> On Wed, May 8, 2024 at 6:21 PM Patricia Campbell via Contra Callers <
> contracallers@lists.sharedweight.net> wrote:
>
>> Would you please describe the dance Empty Shoes?
>>
>> Thanks!
>>
>> Patricia
>>
>> Patricia Campbell
>> southern Maine
>>
>>
>> *Celebrating Community Through Traditional Dance and Music*
>>
>>
>>
>> On Wed, May 8, 2024 at 5:23 PM Neal Schlein via Contra Callers <
>> contracallers@lists.sharedweight.net> wrote:
>>
>>> One of the rather idiosyncratic dance groups that I belong to has a
>>> specific dance that we do in memory of a recently deceased member, as well
>>> as all the other dancers who came and left before. We also do it at camps
>>> to remember anyone who can’t join us for whatever reason. The dance is
>>> named Empty Shoes.
>>>
>>> At a more open dance, if it is recent and the person is locally known I
>>> might post a note at the front table with a brief obituary and let the
>>> volunteers know that a dance will be dedicated at some point in the night.
>>>
>>> From the microphone, I would make the announcement one dance ahead so
>>> people have the chance to step out. Then keep it brief, basically to the
>>> extent of, “Some of you may not have heard, but XYZ person passed away
>>> recently.  They were a valuable part of our/the national dance community
>>> for many years and will be missed. The next dance is one that they
>>> wrote/particularly enjoyed, and I want to share it with you in their
>>> memory.”
>>>
>>> Neal Schlein
>>> Librarian, MSLIS
>>>
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[Callers] Re: Tony Parkes 1949-2024

[Joe Harrington via Contra Callers]

I've given a lot of thought to obituary dances recently, as we've had so
many...Kim, Christine, now Tony...and, well, we're a graying community
(though Christine proved you don't have to be to leave this earth).  Many
of us have danced a silent contra in memory at dance camps with a certain
caller.

I think what you do really depends on both who is in the room and who died.

For example, Kim Yerton was well known to me and I played a lot of Bear
music at Orlando dances.  Our dance started just two years ago and used
recorded music for most of its first year, until we got some sponsors.
However, nearly everyone at the dance was new and learned to dance in our
community, post-pandemic.  Only perhaps three people had ever met Kim,
including me.  When I put on a Bear tune in her memory, the main effect was
that people came to me afterward and offered condolences for my lost
friend.  Not the effect I had hoped to have.  I wanted to honor Kim, not
get sympathy.

But, a local dance angel died last year, Al Rogers.  As part of his last
wishes, he encouraged people to contribute to local dances in lieu of
flowers, and many performers did one or more gigs for free.  When someone
said they were calling for free in honor of Al, the dancers really
appreciated it, even though, again, most had never met him.  So, that made
a much bigger impression.  And, more importantly, it was a positive, happy
vibe, which is tough to achieve in a memorial situation.  And, we knew it
was what Al wanted, because he told us.

Another concern is, if a prominent local or national figure passes and gets
remembered, and then someone of perhaps lesser stature passes, you have the
possibility of offending some if they are not recognized, or even if they
are and the community response isn't as deep.

Claire already mentioned the worry of people dropping out or breaking down.

And finally, in most cases, people are at a dance for joy, an upbeat time.
If they are not feeling personally down about the death, perhaps because
they don't know the person, then being brought down or having everyone
around them brought down is not what they came for.

I don't have a single recipe, but I lean toward minimal recognition at the
mic, only of people really important to the dancers present, real
elephant-in-the-room situations.  Warn ahead, as was mentioned.  Otherwise,
a sign and flowers or a photo on a table or someplace visible but not
obtrusive should work for most, and allows people to manage their own
emotional state in their own way and not on the dance floor.  It can even
be pointed out from the mic (before the break, please, not before a dance).
It gives recognition and allows for personal grief without breaking the
happy vibe of the whole dance.

--jh--


On Wed, May 8, 2024 at 6:21 PM Patricia Campbell via Contra Callers <
contracallers@lists.sharedweight.net> wrote:

> Would you please describe the dance Empty Shoes?
>
> Thanks!
>
> Patricia
>
> Patricia Campbell
> southern Maine
>
>
> *Celebrating Community Through Traditional Dance and Music*
>
>
>
> On Wed, May 8, 2024 at 5:23 PM Neal Schlein via Contra Callers <
> contracallers@lists.sharedweight.net> wrote:
>
>> One of the rather idiosyncratic dance groups that I belong to has a
>> specific dance that we do in memory of a recently deceased member, as well
>> as all the other dancers who came and left before. We also do it at camps
>> to remember anyone who can’t join us for whatever reason. The dance is
>> named Empty Shoes.
>>
>> At a more open dance, if it is recent and the person is locally known I
>> might post a note at the front table with a brief obituary and let the
>> volunteers know that a dance will be dedicated at some point in the night.
>>
>> From the microphone, I would make the announcement one dance ahead so
>> people have the chance to step out. Then keep it brief, basically to the
>> extent of, “Some of you may not have heard, but XYZ person passed away
>> recently.  They were a valuable part of our/the national dance community
>> for many years and will be missed. The next dance is one that they
>> wrote/particularly enjoyed, and I want to share it with you in their
>> memory.”
>>
>> Neal Schlein
>> Librarian, MSLIS
>>
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[Callers] Re: Tony Parkes 1949-2024

[Patricia Campbell via Contra Callers]

Would you please describe the dance Empty Shoes?

Thanks!

Patricia

Patricia Campbell
southern Maine


*Celebrating Community Through Traditional Dance and Music*



On Wed, May 8, 2024 at 5:23 PM Neal Schlein via Contra Callers <
contracallers@lists.sharedweight.net> wrote:

> One of the rather idiosyncratic dance groups that I belong to has a
> specific dance that we do in memory of a recently deceased member, as well
> as all the other dancers who came and left before. We also do it at camps
> to remember anyone who can’t join us for whatever reason. The dance is
> named Empty Shoes.
>
> At a more open dance, if it is recent and the person is locally known I
> might post a note at the front table with a brief obituary and let the
> volunteers know that a dance will be dedicated at some point in the night.
>
> From the microphone, I would make the announcement one dance ahead so
> people have the chance to step out. Then keep it brief, basically to the
> extent of, “Some of you may not have heard, but XYZ person passed away
> recently.  They were a valuable part of our/the national dance community
> for many years and will be missed. The next dance is one that they
> wrote/particularly enjoyed, and I want to share it with you in their
> memory.”
>
> Neal Schlein
> Librarian, MSLIS
>
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[Callers] Re: Tony Parkes 1949-2024

[Neal Schlein via Contra Callers]

One of the rather idiosyncratic dance groups that I belong to has a
specific dance that we do in memory of a recently deceased member, as well
as all the other dancers who came and left before. We also do it at camps
to remember anyone who can’t join us for whatever reason. The dance is
named Empty Shoes.

At a more open dance, if it is recent and the person is locally known I
might post a note at the front table with a brief obituary and let the
volunteers know that a dance will be dedicated at some point in the night.

>From the microphone, I would make the announcement one dance ahead so
people have the chance to step out. Then keep it brief, basically to the
extent of, “Some of you may not have heard, but XYZ person passed away
recently.  They were a valuable part of our/the national dance community
for many years and will be missed. The next dance is one that they
wrote/particularly enjoyed, and I want to share it with you in their
memory.”

Neal Schlein
Librarian, MSLIS
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[Callers] Re: Tony Parkes 1949-2024

[Amy Wimmer via Contra Callers]

Claire,

A dear friend, neighbor, long time dancer, and volunteer passed in
November. This was not a sudden death, but many people lost contact during
the pandemic, and those who've returned (in our community ) are largely
younger, and might not know this person.

When she was sick I put out messages to the local dance groups to let folks
know how they could help. There's only so much we can do to get the word
out, and some will just not hear before what feels like a sudden public
announcement.

I put out more messages about the memorial gathering and again some folks
didn't hear, didn't get to the gathering, and were sad about that, too.
This was not a caller, band member, or prominent person, so I don't think
there were announcements made at the dances.

At any rate, I think it's really hard to reach everyone before a very
public announcement. I can't think how best to  get the word out. I tried
to let people know one-on-one, but I don't see everyone. I'm interested in
hearing what others might have to say about this.

-Amy

On Wed, May 8, 2024, 10:19 AM Claire Takemori via Contra Callers <
contracallers@lists.sharedweight.net> wrote:

>  Hello dear callers.
>
> I have a question about when a caller brings up a recent passing during a
> public dance.
>
> When Kim Yerton passed, I heard about it the day before and grieved.  The
> next day the caller dedicated a dance to her and I almost had to leave the
> dance.  Left the line to get away from listening to the words about Kim.  I
> realize this is my own reaction and sensitivity.
>
> Wondering what y’all say on mic about a recent passing and dedication, as
> it could be a surprise to some dancers?
>
> At a recent ECD weekend, the caller dedicated a dance to Christine Robb
> and said to dance it with appreciation and joy as that is what she would’ve
> wanted instead of grief and sorrow.
>
> Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
>
> Claire Takemori (Asheville NC)
>
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> >   2. Re: Tony Parkes 1949-2024 (Mary Collins)
> >   3. Re: Tony Parkes 1949-2024 (Angela DeCarlis)
> >   4. Re: Tony Parkes 1949-2024 (Lisa Greenleaf)
> >   5. Re: Tony Parkes 1949-2024 (Andrew Stout)
> >   6. Re: Tony Parkes 1949-2024 (Luke Donforth)
> >
> >
> > --
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> > Message: 1
> > Date: Tue, 7 May 2024 13:26:02 -0400
> > From: Greenleaf 
> > Subject: [Callers] Tony Parkes 1949-2024
> > To: Trad Callers ,
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> > Content-Type: text/plain;   charset=utf-8
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> > Caller Tony Parkes passed away yesterday with his wife, Beth, at his
> side. He will be missed.
> >
> > At the lovely Tony Parkes tribute at this year’s Neffa Festival, Beth
> spoke of how Tony was touched and surprised that so many people were
> telling him about his impact on their lives. Well, yes, Tony! He was a true
> treasure.
> >
> > Lisa Greenleaf
> >
> > --
> >
> > Message: 2
> > Date: Tue, 7 May 2024 14:00:35 -0400
> > From: Mary Collins 
> > Subject: [Callers] Re: Tony Parkes 1949-2024
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> > Lisa,
> >
> > Thanks for sharing this.  I am calling Friday and will certainly add a
> Tony
> > aspect to the evening.  His insights, support & dance writing will be
> > sorely missed.
> >
> > Mary Collins
> >
> > "And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who
> > couldn't hear the music." - Nietzsche
> >
> > “Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass ... it's about learning
> > to dance in the rain!” ~ unknown
> >
> >
> > On Tue, May 7, 2024 at 1:27

[Callers] Re: Tony Parkes 1949-2024

[Robert Golder via Contra Callers]

Claire: Thank you for sharing the reaction to grief that you experienced on the 
dance floor. Many callers and dancers gave tributes to my late wife, the caller 
Linda Leslie, in the weeks and months following her sudden death. Sometimes I 
was able to fully participate, but at other times I had to limit my 
participation (as you did in regard to Kim Yerton), or be absent. Grief for the 
individual can wax or wane over time, and recovery of one’s equilibrium is not 
a steady-state development. However, as we remain a part of the dance 
community, I think that the dance community as a whole is better able to help 
buffer our individual responses to grief over time. So I think that a brief 
statement on mic about someone’s passing, followed immediately by a dance that 
celebrates the person’s life, is appropriate. All we can do is speak as 
sensitively as possible, recognizing that the announcement will be more 
challenging for some dancers than for others. We should direct attention away 
from ourselves at the mic and toward the deceased’s life and the community’s 
simultaneous experience of loss and celebration, and promptly start the 
celebratory dance. As I said at Linda’s memorial dance, everything ends and 
it’s always sad - but everything begins again, begins anew, and that gives us 
the opportunity for joy. What I meant was that although the individual life 
ended, the life of the dance community continues. Best wishes … Bob

> On May 8, 2024, at 1:19 PM, Claire Takemori via Contra Callers 
>  wrote:
> 
> Hello dear callers. 
> 
> I have a question about when a caller brings up a recent passing during a 
> public dance. 
> 
> When Kim Yerton passed, I heard about it the day before and grieved.  The 
> next day the caller dedicated a dance to her and I almost had to leave the 
> dance.  Left the line to get away from listening to the words about Kim.  I 
> realize this is my own reaction and sensitivity.  
> 
> Wondering what y’all say on mic about a recent passing and dedication, as it 
> could be a surprise to some dancers? 
> 
> At a recent ECD weekend, the caller dedicated a dance to Christine Robb and 
> said to dance it with appreciation and joy as that is what she would’ve 
> wanted instead of grief and sorrow.  
> 
> Thanks for sharing your thoughts. 
> 
> Claire Takemori (Asheville NC) 
> 
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>>  3. Re: Tony Parkes 1949-2024 (Angela DeCarlis)
>>  4. Re: Tony Parkes 1949-2024 (Lisa Greenleaf)
>>  5. Re: Tony Parkes 1949-2024 (Andrew Stout)
>>  6. Re: Tony Parkes 1949-2024 (Luke Donforth)
>> 
>> 
>> --
>> 
>> Message: 1
>> Date: Tue, 7 May 2024 13:26:02 -0400
>> From: Greenleaf 
>> Subject: [Callers] Tony Parkes 1949-2024
>> To: Trad Callers ,
>>  call...@sharedweight.net
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>> Content-Type: text/plain;   charset=utf-8
>> 
>> Caller Tony Parkes passed away yesterday with his wife, Beth, at his side. 
>> He will be missed.
>> 
>> At the lovely Tony Parkes tribute at this year’s Neffa Festival, Beth spoke 
>> of how Tony was touched and surprised that so many people were telling him 
>> about his impact on their lives. Well, yes, Tony! He was a true treasure.
>> 
>> Lisa Greenleaf
>> 
>> --
>> 
>> Message: 2
>> Date: Tue, 7 May 2024 14:00:35 -0400
>> From: Mary Collins 
>> Subject: [Callers] Re: Tony Parkes 1949-2024
>> To: Greenleaf 
>> Cc: Trad Callers ,
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>> 
>> Lisa,
>> 
>> Thanks for sharing this.  I am calling Friday and will certainly add a Tony
>> aspect to the evening.  His insights, support & dance writing will be
>> sorely missed.
>> 
>> Mary Collins
>> 
>> &quo

[Callers] Re: Tony Parkes 1949-2024

[Claire Takemori via Contra Callers]

 Hello dear callers. 

I have a question about when a caller brings up a recent passing during a 
public dance. 

When Kim Yerton passed, I heard about it the day before and grieved.  The next 
day the caller dedicated a dance to her and I almost had to leave the dance.  
Left the line to get away from listening to the words about Kim.  I realize 
this is my own reaction and sensitivity.  

Wondering what y’all say on mic about a recent passing and dedication, as it 
could be a surprise to some dancers? 

At a recent ECD weekend, the caller dedicated a dance to Christine Robb and 
said to dance it with appreciation and joy as that is what she would’ve wanted 
instead of grief and sorrow.  

Thanks for sharing your thoughts. 

Claire Takemori (Asheville NC) 

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>   2. Re: Tony Parkes 1949-2024 (Mary Collins)
>   3. Re: Tony Parkes 1949-2024 (Angela DeCarlis)
>   4. Re: Tony Parkes 1949-2024 (Lisa Greenleaf)
>   5. Re: Tony Parkes 1949-2024 (Andrew Stout)
>   6. Re: Tony Parkes 1949-2024 (Luke Donforth)
> 
> 
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> 
> Message: 1
> Date: Tue, 7 May 2024 13:26:02 -0400
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> Subject: [Callers] Tony Parkes 1949-2024
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> 
> Caller Tony Parkes passed away yesterday with his wife, Beth, at his side. He 
> will be missed.
> 
> At the lovely Tony Parkes tribute at this year’s Neffa Festival, Beth spoke 
> of how Tony was touched and surprised that so many people were telling him 
> about his impact on their lives. Well, yes, Tony! He was a true treasure.
> 
> Lisa Greenleaf
> 
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> Message: 2
> Date: Tue, 7 May 2024 14:00:35 -0400
> From: Mary Collins 
> Subject: [Callers] Re: Tony Parkes 1949-2024
> To: Greenleaf 
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> Lisa,
> 
> Thanks for sharing this.  I am calling Friday and will certainly add a Tony
> aspect to the evening.  His insights, support & dance writing will be
> sorely missed.
> 
> Mary Collins
> 
> "And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who
> couldn't hear the music." - Nietzsche
> 
> “Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass ... it's about learning
> to dance in the rain!” ~ unknown
> 
> 
> On Tue, May 7, 2024 at 1:27 PM Greenleaf via Contra Callers <
> contracallers@lists.sharedweight.net> wrote:
> 
>> Caller Tony Parkes passed away yesterday with his wife, Beth, at his side.
>> He will be missed.
>> 
>> At the lovely Tony Parkes tribute at this year’s Neffa Festival, Beth
>> spoke of how Tony was touched and surprised that so many people were
>> telling him about his impact on their lives. Well, yes, Tony! He was a true
>> treasure.
>> 
>> Lisa Greenleaf
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> Date: Tue, 7 May 2024 18:05:57 -0400
> From: Angela DeCarlis 
> Subject: [Callers] Re: Tony Parkes 1949-2024
> To: Mary Collins 
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> Thank you Lisa for sharing. Sending love out to those who knew Tony better
> than I did — the few interactions I had with him were entirely lovely.
> 
> Like Mary, I'm also calling a dance on Friday. I'd love to call one of
> Tony's dance

[Callers] Re: Tony Parkes 1949-2024

[Jonathan Sivier via Contra Callers]

I won't be calling at our local contra dance until early June, but I intend to 
include some of Tony's dances then.

Jonathan

P.S. - How are you doing Andrew?  I see your mom regularly at our English and 
Scottish dances.  JES

On 5/8/2024 8:21 AM, Joseph Erhard-Hudson via Contra Callers wrote:

Add me to the list of callers honoring Tony this weekend (and next) in our 
programs.

-Joseph

On Tue, May 7, 2024 at 5:08 PM Andrew Stout via Contra Callers 
mailto:contracallers@lists.sharedweight.net>> wrote:

I wasn't able to be at NEFFA for the tribute, but I called a week and a 
half ago and said a few words about Tony. I called May Day Mixer, Monday Night 
Fever, and Shadrack's Delight.

--Andrew

On Tue, May 7, 2024 at 6:18 PM Lisa Greenleaf via Contra Callers 
mailto:contracallers@lists.sharedweight.net>> wrote:

Tony was diagnosed with a stage 4 glio blastoma late last fall. He did 
an initial round of chemo and radiation before entering hospice in early spring.

He was never in pain, and indeed, he and Beth were able to let his 
community know what was going on, so he received lots of love and support.  He 
had many visitors and messages these last few weeks.

Tony was the first to incorporate a square through into a contra dance. 
Friday Night Fever initially had just one balance, followed by four pull bys, 
but it is now widely danced with the two partner balances.

Check out Callers Box database for more ideas.

Lisa

On Tue, May 7, 2024 at 6:06 PM Angela DeCarlis mailto:aedecar...@gmail.com>> wrote:

Thank you Lisa for sharing. Sending love out to those who knew Tony 
better than I did — the few interactions I had with him were entirely lovely.

Like Mary, I'm also calling a dance on Friday. I'd love to call one 
of Tony's dances — what are y'all's favorites?

Best,
Angela

On Tue, May 7, 2024 at 2:01 PM Mary Collins via Contra Callers 
mailto:contracallers@lists.sharedweight.net>> wrote:

Lisa,

Thanks for sharing this.  I am calling Friday and will certainly 
add a Tony aspect to the evening.  His insights, support & dance writing will 
be sorely missed.

Mary Collins

"And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those 
who couldn't hear the music." - Nietzsche

“Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass ... it's 
about learning to dance in the rain!” ~ unknown


On Tue, May 7, 2024 at 1:27 PM Greenleaf via Contra Callers 
mailto:contracallers@lists.sharedweight.net>> wrote:

Caller Tony Parkes passed away yesterday with his wife, 
Beth, at his side. He will be missed.

At the lovely Tony Parkes tribute at this year’s Neffa 
Festival, Beth spoke of how Tony was touched and surprised that so many people 
were telling him about his impact on their lives. Well, yes, Tony! He was a 
true treasure.

Lisa Greenleaf
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[Callers] Re: Tony Parkes 1949-2024

[Joseph Erhard-Hudson via Contra Callers]

Add me to the list of callers honoring Tony this weekend (and next) in our
programs.

-Joseph

On Tue, May 7, 2024 at 5:08 PM Andrew Stout via Contra Callers <
contracallers@lists.sharedweight.net> wrote:

> I wasn't able to be at NEFFA for the tribute, but I called a week and a
> half ago and said a few words about Tony. I called May Day Mixer, Monday
> Night Fever, and Shadrack's Delight.
>
> --Andrew
>
> On Tue, May 7, 2024 at 6:18 PM Lisa Greenleaf via Contra Callers <
> contracallers@lists.sharedweight.net> wrote:
>
>> Tony was diagnosed with a stage 4 glio blastoma late last fall. He did an
>> initial round of chemo and radiation before entering hospice in early
>> spring.
>>
>> He was never in pain, and indeed, he and Beth were able to let his
>> community know what was going on, so he received lots of love and support.
>> He had many visitors and messages these last few weeks.
>>
>> Tony was the first to incorporate a square through into a contra dance.
>> Friday Night Fever initially had just one balance, followed by four pull
>> bys, but it is now widely danced with the two partner balances.
>>
>> Check out Callers Box database for more ideas.
>>
>> Lisa
>>
>> On Tue, May 7, 2024 at 6:06 PM Angela DeCarlis 
>> wrote:
>>
>>> Thank you Lisa for sharing. Sending love out to those who knew Tony
>>> better than I did — the few interactions I had with him were entirely
>>> lovely.
>>>
>>> Like Mary, I'm also calling a dance on Friday. I'd love to call one of
>>> Tony's dances — what are y'all's favorites?
>>>
>>> Best,
>>> Angela
>>>
>>> On Tue, May 7, 2024 at 2:01 PM Mary Collins via Contra Callers <
>>> contracallers@lists.sharedweight.net> wrote:
>>>
 Lisa,

 Thanks for sharing this.  I am calling Friday and will certainly add a
 Tony aspect to the evening.  His insights, support & dance writing will be
 sorely missed.

 Mary Collins

 "And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who
 couldn't hear the music." - Nietzsche

 “Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass ... it's about
 learning to dance in the rain!” ~ unknown


 On Tue, May 7, 2024 at 1:27 PM Greenleaf via Contra Callers <
 contracallers@lists.sharedweight.net> wrote:

> Caller Tony Parkes passed away yesterday with his wife, Beth, at his
> side. He will be missed.
>
> At the lovely Tony Parkes tribute at this year’s Neffa Festival, Beth
> spoke of how Tony was touched and surprised that so many people were
> telling him about his impact on their lives. Well, yes, Tony! He was a 
> true
> treasure.
>
> Lisa Greenleaf
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[Callers] Re: Tony Parkes 1949-2024

[Luke Donforth via Contra Callers]

Will definitely be missed. Thanks for letting us know. Condolences to his
family and the community.

On Tue, May 7, 2024 at 8:08 PM Andrew Stout via Contra Callers <
contracallers@lists.sharedweight.net> wrote:

> I wasn't able to be at NEFFA for the tribute, but I called a week and a
> half ago and said a few words about Tony. I called May Day Mixer, Monday
> Night Fever, and Shadrack's Delight.
>
> --Andrew
>
> On Tue, May 7, 2024 at 6:18 PM Lisa Greenleaf via Contra Callers <
> contracallers@lists.sharedweight.net> wrote:
>
>> Tony was diagnosed with a stage 4 glio blastoma late last fall. He did an
>> initial round of chemo and radiation before entering hospice in early
>> spring.
>>
>> He was never in pain, and indeed, he and Beth were able to let his
>> community know what was going on, so he received lots of love and support.
>> He had many visitors and messages these last few weeks.
>>
>> Tony was the first to incorporate a square through into a contra dance.
>> Friday Night Fever initially had just one balance, followed by four pull
>> bys, but it is now widely danced with the two partner balances.
>>
>> Check out Callers Box database for more ideas.
>>
>> Lisa
>>
>> On Tue, May 7, 2024 at 6:06 PM Angela DeCarlis 
>> wrote:
>>
>>> Thank you Lisa for sharing. Sending love out to those who knew Tony
>>> better than I did — the few interactions I had with him were entirely
>>> lovely.
>>>
>>> Like Mary, I'm also calling a dance on Friday. I'd love to call one of
>>> Tony's dances — what are y'all's favorites?
>>>
>>> Best,
>>> Angela
>>>
>>> On Tue, May 7, 2024 at 2:01 PM Mary Collins via Contra Callers <
>>> contracallers@lists.sharedweight.net> wrote:
>>>
 Lisa,

 Thanks for sharing this.  I am calling Friday and will certainly add a
 Tony aspect to the evening.  His insights, support & dance writing will be
 sorely missed.

 Mary Collins

 "And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who
 couldn't hear the music." - Nietzsche

 “Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass ... it's about
 learning to dance in the rain!” ~ unknown


 On Tue, May 7, 2024 at 1:27 PM Greenleaf via Contra Callers <
 contracallers@lists.sharedweight.net> wrote:

> Caller Tony Parkes passed away yesterday with his wife, Beth, at his
> side. He will be missed.
>
> At the lovely Tony Parkes tribute at this year’s Neffa Festival, Beth
> spoke of how Tony was touched and surprised that so many people were
> telling him about his impact on their lives. Well, yes, Tony! He was a 
> true
> treasure.
>
> Lisa Greenleaf
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[Callers] Re: Tony Parkes 1949-2024

[Andrew Stout via Contra Callers]

I wasn't able to be at NEFFA for the tribute, but I called a week and a
half ago and said a few words about Tony. I called May Day Mixer, Monday
Night Fever, and Shadrack's Delight.

--Andrew

On Tue, May 7, 2024 at 6:18 PM Lisa Greenleaf via Contra Callers <
contracallers@lists.sharedweight.net> wrote:

> Tony was diagnosed with a stage 4 glio blastoma late last fall. He did an
> initial round of chemo and radiation before entering hospice in early
> spring.
>
> He was never in pain, and indeed, he and Beth were able to let his
> community know what was going on, so he received lots of love and support.
> He had many visitors and messages these last few weeks.
>
> Tony was the first to incorporate a square through into a contra dance.
> Friday Night Fever initially had just one balance, followed by four pull
> bys, but it is now widely danced with the two partner balances.
>
> Check out Callers Box database for more ideas.
>
> Lisa
>
> On Tue, May 7, 2024 at 6:06 PM Angela DeCarlis 
> wrote:
>
>> Thank you Lisa for sharing. Sending love out to those who knew Tony
>> better than I did — the few interactions I had with him were entirely
>> lovely.
>>
>> Like Mary, I'm also calling a dance on Friday. I'd love to call one of
>> Tony's dances — what are y'all's favorites?
>>
>> Best,
>> Angela
>>
>> On Tue, May 7, 2024 at 2:01 PM Mary Collins via Contra Callers <
>> contracallers@lists.sharedweight.net> wrote:
>>
>>> Lisa,
>>>
>>> Thanks for sharing this.  I am calling Friday and will certainly add a
>>> Tony aspect to the evening.  His insights, support & dance writing will be
>>> sorely missed.
>>>
>>> Mary Collins
>>>
>>> "And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who
>>> couldn't hear the music." - Nietzsche
>>>
>>> “Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass ... it's about
>>> learning to dance in the rain!” ~ unknown
>>>
>>>
>>> On Tue, May 7, 2024 at 1:27 PM Greenleaf via Contra Callers <
>>> contracallers@lists.sharedweight.net> wrote:
>>>
 Caller Tony Parkes passed away yesterday with his wife, Beth, at his
 side. He will be missed.

 At the lovely Tony Parkes tribute at this year’s Neffa Festival, Beth
 spoke of how Tony was touched and surprised that so many people were
 telling him about his impact on their lives. Well, yes, Tony! He was a true
 treasure.

 Lisa Greenleaf
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[Callers] Re: Tony Parkes 1949-2024

[Lisa Greenleaf via Contra Callers]

Tony was diagnosed with a stage 4 glio blastoma late last fall. He did an
initial round of chemo and radiation before entering hospice in early
spring.

He was never in pain, and indeed, he and Beth were able to let his
community know what was going on, so he received lots of love and support.
He had many visitors and messages these last few weeks.

Tony was the first to incorporate a square through into a contra dance.
Friday Night Fever initially had just one balance, followed by four pull
bys, but it is now widely danced with the two partner balances.

Check out Callers Box database for more ideas.

Lisa

On Tue, May 7, 2024 at 6:06 PM Angela DeCarlis  wrote:

> Thank you Lisa for sharing. Sending love out to those who knew Tony better
> than I did — the few interactions I had with him were entirely lovely.
>
> Like Mary, I'm also calling a dance on Friday. I'd love to call one of
> Tony's dances — what are y'all's favorites?
>
> Best,
> Angela
>
> On Tue, May 7, 2024 at 2:01 PM Mary Collins via Contra Callers <
> contracallers@lists.sharedweight.net> wrote:
>
>> Lisa,
>>
>> Thanks for sharing this.  I am calling Friday and will certainly add a
>> Tony aspect to the evening.  His insights, support & dance writing will be
>> sorely missed.
>>
>> Mary Collins
>>
>> "And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who
>> couldn't hear the music." - Nietzsche
>>
>> “Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass ... it's about learning
>> to dance in the rain!” ~ unknown
>>
>>
>> On Tue, May 7, 2024 at 1:27 PM Greenleaf via Contra Callers <
>> contracallers@lists.sharedweight.net> wrote:
>>
>>> Caller Tony Parkes passed away yesterday with his wife, Beth, at his
>>> side. He will be missed.
>>>
>>> At the lovely Tony Parkes tribute at this year’s Neffa Festival, Beth
>>> spoke of how Tony was touched and surprised that so many people were
>>> telling him about his impact on their lives. Well, yes, Tony! He was a true
>>> treasure.
>>>
>>> Lisa Greenleaf
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[Callers] Re: Tony Parkes 1949-2024

[Angela DeCarlis via Contra Callers]

Thank you Lisa for sharing. Sending love out to those who knew Tony better
than I did — the few interactions I had with him were entirely lovely.

Like Mary, I'm also calling a dance on Friday. I'd love to call one of
Tony's dances — what are y'all's favorites?

Best,
Angela

On Tue, May 7, 2024 at 2:01 PM Mary Collins via Contra Callers <
contracallers@lists.sharedweight.net> wrote:

> Lisa,
>
> Thanks for sharing this.  I am calling Friday and will certainly add a
> Tony aspect to the evening.  His insights, support & dance writing will be
> sorely missed.
>
> Mary Collins
>
> "And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who
> couldn't hear the music." - Nietzsche
>
> “Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass ... it's about learning
> to dance in the rain!” ~ unknown
>
>
> On Tue, May 7, 2024 at 1:27 PM Greenleaf via Contra Callers <
> contracallers@lists.sharedweight.net> wrote:
>
>> Caller Tony Parkes passed away yesterday with his wife, Beth, at his
>> side. He will be missed.
>>
>> At the lovely Tony Parkes tribute at this year’s Neffa Festival, Beth
>> spoke of how Tony was touched and surprised that so many people were
>> telling him about his impact on their lives. Well, yes, Tony! He was a true
>> treasure.
>>
>> Lisa Greenleaf
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[Callers] Re: Tony Parkes 1949-2024

[Mary Collins via Contra Callers]

Lisa,

Thanks for sharing this.  I am calling Friday and will certainly add a Tony
aspect to the evening.  His insights, support & dance writing will be
sorely missed.

Mary Collins

"And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who
couldn't hear the music." - Nietzsche

“Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass ... it's about learning
to dance in the rain!” ~ unknown


On Tue, May 7, 2024 at 1:27 PM Greenleaf via Contra Callers <
contracallers@lists.sharedweight.net> wrote:

> Caller Tony Parkes passed away yesterday with his wife, Beth, at his side.
> He will be missed.
>
> At the lovely Tony Parkes tribute at this year’s Neffa Festival, Beth
> spoke of how Tony was touched and surprised that so many people were
> telling him about his impact on their lives. Well, yes, Tony! He was a true
> treasure.
>
> Lisa Greenleaf
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