[FairfieldLife] RE: RE: RE: RE: RE: RE: RE: RE: RE: RE: RE: RE: RE: RE: RE: RE: RE: RE: The Vivid and Present Threat of Hooliganism on Fairfield Life.
Feste, You. Still. Do. Not. Have. A. Clue. Are you familiar with the term false equivalency? What a hypocrite you are. Not to mention a male chauvinist. It's perfectly OK with you for Barry to beat up on people he doesn't like with far, far worse nastiness than I could ever dream of managing. Including your precious Share. Remember his SHUT THE FUCK UP post to her? (Do you remember that Ann, Emily, and I tried to get her to stand up for herself instead of continuing to let him maul her?) And then that he actually repeated it just recently? I don't recall a word from you about either of those posts (do remind me if I'm wrong). Or any others of Barry's many hundreds of sadistic attacks, for that matter. Not to mention the unending lies in those attacks. Barry's gross and slanderous dishonesty is not a fake issue. You don't have a damn thing to say to me until you open your eyes, get your head on straight, and see who's doing the real damage to this forum. I'm a piker compared to Barry. And you are a coward. ---In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, no_re...@yahoogroups.com wrote: You are as responsible as anyone else for creating an atmosphere of mutual disrespect. Do you behave like this in your real, day-to-day life? Is that how you talk to people? I don't think so. The real dishonesty, the real lie, comes from you. I think you are dishonest with yourself. I suspect that the truth, as I mentioned a couple of weeks ago, is that you enjoy being mean. You enjoy hitting out at other people. My guess is that doing so assuages some of the anger that you feel and gives you some kind of safety valve that you find satisfying. You concoct this fake issue of dishonesty and pretend to yourself that you are the virtuous one, standing up for what is right. Unfortunately, the reality is that you are a person in the grip of some very deep-rooted obsessions that make you very difficult and unpleasant to deal with. Your behavior toward Share is a disgrace. It amounts to harassment, and I don't think this forum should put up with it. You wouldn't be able to do it on Facebook, yet you think you can do it here. You should either change your behavior or unsubscribe. ---In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, authfriend@... wrote: So you think lying is fine too? As I've said before, most folks here are honest. But there are still several Bad Apples (fortunately some of the worst ones have left) who have no inhibitions about lying--in particular, about other FFL members they don't like--and I think that is terribly destructive. It's the essence of unkindness. And it's hardly a matter of old grudges when it continues to this day. I have never been on a Web forum where lying was so complacently tolerated. But it breeds mutual disrespect and lowers standards of civility generally. I would be willing to bet that if there were less tolerance for lying, there would be a lot less unkindness overall. As I've said many times before, life is tough enough when everyone is doing their absolute damndest to be as honest as they possibly can. There's no excuse for making it tougher. IMHO, of course. ---In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, no_re...@yahoogroups.com wrote: I think people are pretty honest here. The only person who obsesses about lying is you. Your question to Buck is of course just a way of sidestepping the issue of perpetual unkindness. I can see why you would want to do that, since you are the principal purveyor of it. You need to let go of all these old grudges and obsessions. They are negative attachments that do not serve you well. ---In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, authfriend@... wrote: How about the lying? You never mention the lying, Buck. Does that mean you think it's OK to lie? Buck huffed: You can't even hardly invite any civilized person to visit here to FFL with what perpetual unkindness has taken over here on this yahoo-group. It is simply appalling that this culture of low meanness and unkindness has got going here. It is no good to have in our house, But I fear most now for the very life of this entire list if this culture of unkindness is not checked. -Buck
[FairfieldLife] RE: RE: RE: RE: RE: RE: RE: RE: RE: RE: RE: RE: RE: RE: RE: RE: RE: RE: The Vivid and Present Threat of Hooliganism on Fairfield Life.
Dear Feste, this is an example of a letter, you as a good friend, should have addressed to Share, IMHO. Switch out the name Share for Judy or Ann, and you've got a letter to deliver to your friend Share. Stated gently with loving kindness and concern for her well-being as a human being, of course. All you said about her vile post to Ann was something like (and I paraphrase)I didn't particularly care for it, but she's a friend of mine and I am loyal to my friends. Really? I gave Ravi a bigger ration of shit than that and he gave me one as well. And, I've only met him once. Personally, I depend on my friends that I know in the flesh to tell me the truth and I do the same with them, and we respect and love and trust each other enough to do it and work on owning our own shit. Blind loyalty is a waste of time. ---In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, no_re...@yahoogroups.com wrote: You are as responsible as anyone else for creating an atmosphere of mutual disrespect. Do you behave like this in your real, day-to-day life? Is that how you talk to people? I don't think so. The real dishonesty, the real lie, comes from you. I think you are dishonest with yourself. I suspect that the truth, as I mentioned a couple of weeks ago, is that you enjoy being mean. You enjoy hitting out at other people. My guess is that doing so assuages some of the anger that you feel and gives you some kind of safety valve that you find satisfying. You concoct this fake issue of dishonesty and pretend to yourself that you are the virtuous one, standing up for what is right. Unfortunately, the reality is that you are a person in the grip of some very deep-rooted obsessions that make you very difficult and unpleasant to deal with. Your behavior toward Share is a disgrace. It amounts to harassment, and I don't think this forum should put up with it. You wouldn't be able to do it on Facebook, yet you think you can do it here. You should either change your behavior or unsubscribe. ---In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, authfriend@... wrote: So you think lying is fine too? As I've said before, most folks here are honest. But there are still several Bad Apples (fortunately some of the worst ones have left) who have no inhibitions about lying--in particular, about other FFL members they don't like--and I think that is terribly destructive. It's the essence of unkindness. And it's hardly a matter of old grudges when it continues to this day. I have never been on a Web forum where lying was so complacently tolerated. But it breeds mutual disrespect and lowers standards of civility generally. I would be willing to bet that if there were less tolerance for lying, there would be a lot less unkindness overall. As I've said many times before, life is tough enough when everyone is doing their absolute damndest to be as honest as they possibly can. There's no excuse for making it tougher. IMHO, of course. ---In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, no_re...@yahoogroups.com wrote: I think people are pretty honest here. The only person who obsesses about lying is you. Your question to Buck is of course just a way of sidestepping the issue of perpetual unkindness. I can see why you would want to do that, since you are the principal purveyor of it. You need to let go of all these old grudges and obsessions. They are negative attachments that do not serve you well. ---In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, authfriend@... wrote: How about the lying? You never mention the lying, Buck. Does that mean you think it's OK to lie? Buck huffed: You can't even hardly invite any civilized person to visit here to FFL with what perpetual unkindness has taken over here on this yahoo-group. It is simply appalling that this culture of low meanness and unkindness has got going here. It is no good to have in our house, But I fear most now for the very life of this entire list if this culture of unkindness is not checked. -Buck
