This message is from: Heather Baskey cavy_l...@yahoo.com
So very well said, Lois ..
Heather ... who currently plays from the
ground with Henry ... and LOVING it.
From: Lois Berenyi bossm...@atmc.net
To: fjordhorse@angus.mystery.com
Sent:
Friday, January 2, 2009 4:15:49 AM
Subject: Re: not riding (kinda long)
This
message is from: Lois Berenyi bossm...@atmc.net
I agree with what Kate
has said. I owned horses of various breeds and abilities for 30 years but
mostly rode sporadically during the first 10. I realized that I much
preferred them from the ground than from the saddle. Partly it was because I
could see the entire horse, read its expressions and communicate fairly well
from the ground. From the saddle I saw two ears, a neck and a shoulder. I
never developed the physical finesse to read them with my body as the great
riders do. I was somewhat clueless and tended to seize up when a movement
felt wrong into something resembling a fetal position. Years of lessons
improved things a bit and I knew quite a lot in theory I could not transfer
into practice.
For some reason horse and non-horse people can't understand
owning a horse and not riding it. Or, if riding it, not showing it. My
answer has always been that I have dogs who cost me the same per day to feed
and maintain and I don't ride them. I enjoy the horses as I enjoy my dogs.
They are my friends and companions and there are so many ways to enjoy them
without burdening them with my weight or myself with aching muscles and
joints.
I'm 69 and in the last few years thought I was getting too old and
too stiff to keep on going with the farm we had so we sold out. I donated one
of the Fjords who currently is excelling as a therapy horse and the other mare
was sold as a broodmare. I didn't like to ride and it turned out she didn't
really like to be ridden. I think I was wrong to give it up so completely and
talk myself out of something I had loved for so long. Sometimes we take the
negative and/or an entirely too pragmatic approach to what we see as
limitations. After years of being stuck at the farm not being able to find
suitable help, the dirt, the muck, the snowstorms, repairing the fence,
dealing with foundered horses and all the rest I was starting to dream of a
horseless life. So we moved to a beautiful golf course community where it
never snows, someone else mows the grass and I have absolutely nothing
meaningful to start my day. If people think owning horses
without riding them is foolish I beg them to watch golfers spend fortunes
chasing little white balls.
So, Laurie, don't be too discouraged. Think of
how you would feel if Oz was not in your life. What are your first thoughts
in the morning? I bet they include your pony. Give yourself a break.
Meanwhile when I need a fix I go and visit some of my former horses.
Lois
Berenyi
in the Sunny South
- Original Message - From:
katesei...@aol.com
To: fjordhorse@angus.mystery.com
Sent: Thursday,
January 01, 2009 9:32 PM
Subject: Re: not riding (kinda long)
This message
is from: katesei...@aol.com
Laurie - I understand what you're going
through.? At only 48, the combination of arthritis and injury has left me with
pretty much constant pain, and nothing medicine can do (other than drug me
into submission).? If it's really cold, I hurt just walking.? Even on warm
days, I can't spend more than 45 minutes in the saddle before I'm done.? I
have taken a tremendous amount of pleasure in the 101 other things I *can* do
with my horses, including ground work, clicker training, grooming, trick
training, and lately learning to ground drive (for me, walking helps once I
get past the first 5-10 minutes).
Don't put any more pressure on yourself
about what you should be doing.? Do what you can, enjoy it, and find the
pleasure in that (even if it's just sitting in the pasture having dinner with
the ponies)!
Kate
with Joe and Della
-Original Message-
From: crystal...@aol.com
it's become a chronic pain which is now
affecting my daily life and is making me quite depressed.
...it's not that
the knee doesn't work, it's that there is ongoing pain that has begun to make
everything just too much effort.
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