g_b Training Helps Gay Families Win Hearts

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Training helps gay families win hearts

Wyatt Buchanan, Chronicle Staff Writer

Monday, January 29, 2007

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Armed with a slick 162-page handbook and coaching from daylong seminars, gay
and lesbian parents across the country are learning to present the most
convincing case that their families are normal, even mainstream.

A national training campaign, started in 2005 by Family Pride in Washington,
D.C., and ramped up in the past few months, prepares gay parents to be
spokespeople and counter critics of the growth in families led by same-sex
couples. About 30 parents and other supporters of gay, lesbian, bisexual and
transgender civil rights -- plus about 15 children -- attended a training
session in San Francisco over the weekend. Los Angeles and San Diego are
next.

The campaign to create a speakers bureau of people available to appear in
the media and before lawmakers is bearing fruit. A Texas couple who were
among the first to complete the training will tell their story on Oprah
Winfrey's talk show today.

"The reason we said we would do this is we want people to see we're like
everyone else. We're like any other family," said Andy Sutherland-Trevino,
37, who has adopted six children with his partner, Mark Sutherland-Trevino.

At least 250,000 children were being reared by two mothers or two fathers in
2000, according to the U.S. census. Activists say this "gayby boom" proves
the ordinariness of families headed by same-sex couples; the challenge now
is showing this reality to the broader public.

At the seminar, parents worked to shape their stories into compelling
appeals for civil rights. They heard about research on gay and lesbian
people who raise children and on the terminology that most appeals to
straight Americans.

"Our families are a real political tool," trainer Trina Olson told the
group, which included people from a spectrum of ages and ethnicities. The
event was a collaboration of multiple family advocacy groups, including the
national Family Pride organization and the Bay Area's Our Family Coalition
and Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere.

Huda Jadallah, 42, attended the seminar with her partner, Deanna Karraa, 44,
and two of their three children. The couple, who live in the Oakland hills,
said they were most concerned about anti-gay taunts and other bullying their
twin sons are experiencing in third grade.

"I came here to learn so I could more effectively speak to other parents,
faculty, to everyone," Jadallah said, adding that being with other gay and
lesbian parents emboldens her.

"It's very isolating when you go out there. There are days when I want
nothing to do with it, but I can't because my kids are out there hearing it
on the playground," she said.

Participants were bombarded with statistics -- some helpful, some
misleading: what share of gay couples have kids (one-fifth), what share of
lesbian couples do (one-third), and that most households are not led by
straight, married couples (but the trainers included all types of
households, including single people; of households where children under 18
live, 70 percent are led by married couples, according to the U.S. census).

They heard about using words and phrases that signal what they have in
common with people around them -- "being a fair person," "in it together"
and "building strong families" -- rather than focusing on gay rights and
sexual orientation.

And they talked to one another. About their personal stories of coming out,
their children, how much it cost to start their families, how their
differences made them alike.

So far, 815 people in 45 states and three countries have volunteered to be
trained and speak on behalf of gay and lesbian families, said Jennifer
Chrisler, executive director of Family Pride.

"Family is something most people in the country can connect to," Chrisler
said. "We're at the point in the battle where we have to pull people
emotionally into what our struggles are."

That may require changing the way gay and lesbian people talk about the
issue.

Instead of appealing for "marriage equality," parents should t

g_b The GB Party on Saturday 27 January 2007 at Velocity!

[gaybombay_moderator]

The GayBombay Party on Saturday 27 January 2007 at Velocity!
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Time: 9 pm - 1 am.
Cover Charge: Rs 400 before and Rs 450 after 10 pm.
Venue: VELOCITY; Bluemoon Ent. Pvt. Ltd.; Film Center, 2nd Floor;
Tardeo; Mumbai 400034.

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Other than the main dance floor which will play a mix of Bollywood 
and English music there will also be a separate lounge, with its own 
DJ, which will play only English music!
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Please note that you have to be above the age of 21 to attend
GayBombay parties. Please carry proof of age with you: a driving
license, college identity card, etc.

YOU WILL NOT BE ADMITTED IF YOU ARE BELOW THE AGE OF 21!
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Directions: Velocity is located between Crossroads and Tardeo AC
Market. The closest train station is Bombay Central.

If you're driving from the Mahalakshmi Temple or Peddar Road area
make a right turn at the Haji Ali signal. If you're driving from the
suburban, Worli or Mahalakshmi Station area make a left turn at the
Haji Ali signal. Drive straight and past the Heera Panna shopping
centre on your right; Velocity is just after Crossroads/McDonalds on
the same side of the street. If you're driving from the Bombay
Central station, Ganga/Jamuna or Sardar Pao Bhaji area Velocity is on
your left after Tardeo AC Market. Valet parking is available at the
venue.
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The Cover Charge includes: Inhouse DJ and a dance floor;
4 small drinks with mixers, or 2 beer pints, or 4 soft
drinks/mineral water; and snacks like wafers and peanuts.

Extra drinks can be purchased at Rs 100 for 1 small drink with
mixer, or one small beer pint, or one mocktail, or one juice, or one
Bacardi Breezer. Rs 50 will get you either an aerated water or
mineral water. Dinner will not be served.
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- Some don'ts:
` GB, as a support group, has created this comfort/safe space for
gays. Many people at the event may be "newbies" (those still coming to
terms with their sexuality and/or those who have mustered the courage
to come to such an event for the first time). We request you to be
sensitive to the comfort levels of others and to behave and dress
accordingly.
` No dark rooms and no sex on the premises; if found indulging in
any "hanky panky" you shall be asked to leave the party.
` A special REQUEST: During and after the party please DO NOT gather
outside the venue. The management has requested us to ensure that, in
the middle of the night, the peace of the neighbourhood is not
disturbed.
` Right of admission reserved.

- A few dos:
` Have a smashing time.
` Carry your Alcoholic Drinks Permit.

- For further information: www.gaybombay.org
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g_b PLEASE HELP ME ...

[boyone03]

hello everybody,
neither i know u nor ths city. coz i m not from delhi. but i had one 
relation wth delhi. plz take some time to read this how.

last year some1 from delhi came in my life in mnth of apr 2005 n was 
in my life till nov 2005. during this period we were in love each 
other. he told me so and i also loved him so much. but one day 
without saying anything he left me and now i dont know where is he. 
i never saw him nor his any pic. i dnt know his real name also nor 
where he really stays. he was in south delhi that time in defence 
colony. his name was sujal a.k.a. sonu. he passed out on around 
june2005. he told me tht he was topper of tht batch. 

i know u all must be laughing while reading this but its true that 
nobody will trust on such person but i did. i did totally when my 
all friends were saying that he is fake about love. but i listned my 
heart and trusted him completely.

i know its totally unbelievable that how someone can make such 
relation while i was in pune n he was in delhi. but i had faith in 
my destiny. now i dont know where is he. but anybody of u must be 
knowing any such person plz help me. i really need to find him coz 
my parents r deciding my marriage and i have only few mnths in my 
hands. before tht i need to find him. since he left still i m 
thinking about him. i loved him by my true heart and i will till my 
last breath. i am sure that before my death i will meet him one day. 
but now situation is critical in my house and i need him and his 
love.

his cell number at that time was 9312402545 somebody plz check ur 
friend's previous call numbers. it will help me very much. he used 2 
use some urdu words in his talk. one specific word was KHAPAT it 
means bewakuf. i remember his voice still and i can recognise him by 
his voice. coz tht only his identity with me. 

plz plz plz help me. it will be biggest favour for me of my life.

SONU IF U R ALSO READING THIS THEN PLZ REPLY UR LUV... I M STILL 
WAITING FOR U waiting4myluv ...

plz guys plz help me  plz 

g_b calcutta

[a b]

Hi
This ir Jeet 32 years handsome from kolkata looking
for any gd looking friend...

g_b GAY guys need SEX everyday with NEW guy -that is whole fuckin TRUTH

[udai anand]

what ever u guys write -- but the fact is that GAY guys need SEX everyday with 
NEW guy -- that is whole fuckin TRUTH they dont believe in LOVE AND 
RELATIONSHIPS -- they always on HUNT and on the RUN for NEW GUY. we 
cant change them.
   
  In western society they have strict rules and law enforcemnent 
   
  by the way is anyone in TORONTO for relationship:):):)

doc cop <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
  mental,homicidal and sexual perversions can be of any extent and 
in any combinations
  predicting them or analysing them is difficult
  hence leaving this story aside the moral and the need of the hour is TO BE 
CAREFUL
avoid casual sex with unknown poeple in shady areas
  cooper

Re: g_b Celebrity Big Brother

[Tintin Mumbai India]

And I am the happiest person to see that...
THAT
RAVI KISHAN was ALSO OUT.
And he was NOT WINNER
and he was NOT Ist Runner Up.

Such a Relief...
I was not the so prominent member of RAVI KISHAN HATE group
Infact I was the one, who was very much interested to see him (since he came
to BB).
But his arrogency, his attitude made me to start hating him.

Though I am sure, he is ONE OF US (The way he was behind AMIT SADH), but...

Anyways, End Well is All Well...
And I think, Rahul Roy was the best person to win the show, and he won.
Abhay.



On 1/25/07, doc cop <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:


   POOR RAKHE is out 

sad!1

she was genuine and a source of entertainment

on the very first few shows i had predicted that ragini or carol will win

i still think carol will

any bets?

cooper

 --
From: *manu nehru <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>*
Reply-To: [EMAIL PROTECTED]
To: [EMAIL PROTECTED]
Subject: *Re: g_b Celebrity Big Brother*
Date: *Wed, 24 Jan 2007 03:54:47 + (GMT)*

  I agree.But unfortunately with his devoted bhojpuri fan following , he
is the one who is most likely to win .They would enblock be voting the other
contestants out.
Manu

*Tintin Mumbai India <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>* wrote:

 Hi Manu,
I generally DONT reply the mails, which match my openion.
But this time, I do so.

Because, I also SALUTE RAKHI, for the reasons you counted on.

I think, she is showing herself, very real, in the SHOW.

In my hate list, other than KASHMIRA, I will also count RAVI KISHAN.

He is WORST in the show, Biggest Hypocrate of the Show.
Abhay.


On 1/19/07, manu nehru <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
>
>I never thought much of Rakhee Sawant till she came on the show. I
> thought she was just another cheap starlet out for publicity at any cost.
> But if u have been watching the show regularly with an open mind, u will get
> a glimpse of a girl who has come up the hard way. It is admirable for her to
> have CLAWED her way to where she is in life today by sheer guts. Most of us
> wouldn't have had the balls to go through what she has. Granted that some
> people may find her cheap.But who are we to call others cheap ? She
> comes from a very poor background, obviously, and is not educated to boot.
> Compare this background to how she presents herself and I am sure anyone can
> see that she is a genuine person.Personally , I am fond of Carol. No
> doubt people think she and Rupali etc are "Classy". But I don't remember
> Rakhee ever massaging anybody's feet . You do not become classy just by
> being rich or having a convent education. Which is why I feel that Rakhee
> ,blunt enough to discuss"farts" et al , is much more a person to be admired
> than the likes of Kashmira (UGH!!) etc.
> Manu
>
> *doc cop <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>* wrote:
>
>   its not a fuss
> she is just too kidisha nd at times cheap
> thats all
> she is there for the entertainment factor
> thats why she came back
> cooper
>
>
>
> --
> From: *"Tintin Mumbai India" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>*
> Reply-To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] ups.com*
> To: [EMAIL PROTECTED]
> Subject: *Re: g_b Celebrity Big Brother*
> Date: *Mon, 15 Jan 2007 12:23:15 +0600 *
>
>   See, I dont know why ppl are making fuss of it...
> But she is very much entertaining...
> She throws tantrum, she cries, but whatever she do, is very natural...
> She shows what she is
> Not Like Ravi Kishan or Rupali...
> Abhay.
>
>
> On 1/15/07, doc cop <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
> >
> >but rakhee sawant on BIG BOSS in india is
> > aweful!
> > cooper
> >
> >
> >
> > --
> > From: *Evan Maxim <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>*
> > Reply-To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] ups.com*
> > To: [EMAIL PROTECTED]
> > CC: [EMAIL PROTECTED] ups.com*
> > Subject: *g_b Celebrity Big Brother*
> > Date: *Wed, 10 Jan 2007 06:48:17 -0800 (PST)*
> >
> >Hi Friends,
> >
> > Our own Shilpa Shetty is really gaining popularity here in western
> > Europe through her participation in reality show Celebrity Big Brother. She
> > is really proud to Indians who live here as she is one among favourites
> > including pop star Ian Watkins. Her charming mannerisms and gentle character
> > (already named as Serene by rest of the housemates) already put impact here
> > and hope she will get as much as vote today and survive an eviction today.
> > We all are voting for her today. Ian who recently came out is also a
> > favourite. He is really charming
> >
> > Who will win?
> >
> >
> > __
> > Do You Yahoo!?
> > Tired of spam? Yahoo! Mail has the best spam protection around
> > http://mail.yahoo.com
> >
> >
> >
> >
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> Entertainment 

Re: g_b R indian hypocrites? Regarding racism in the reality tv show "BIG BROTHER" ?

[Tintin Mumbai India]

Hi Guys,
I think, more than indians, it is British and Other western countries are
making it an issue.
I am following the matter, since it started.
None of the Good Indian TV shows (news channels) considered the issue as
Racism.
Everyone on the channels, who participated the discussion, declared it, as
FOLLOWS:
THE ISSUE SHOULD BE CONSIDERED IN A VERY LIGHT WAY, AS IT IS SIMPLY STUNT.
AND IF THE ISSUE IS CONSIDERED A SERIOUS ONE, THEN IT SOULD NOT BE DISCUSSED
SO LIGHTLY. A SERIOUS MATTER SHOULD BE DISCUSSED SERIOUSLY.

The group, I belong to, I discuss the issues with, has considered the issue,
in same way, just like another publicity stunt.

All the cry came from western world. They and their Govt and their ppl found
it a big hurt to their SO CALLED CIVILISED WORLD.
NONE OF THOSE, tried to see, what happened behind the scene.
EVERYONE joined the CRY WAR... as if, more you cry on such thing, more
civilised, more sophesticated, more concerned you would be considered.


Coming to the matrimonials section, I suppose, everywhere everyone wants
to choose to better half.
I dont remember (Pls ignore my insufficient general awareness) any Celeb,
whose spouse is not equally good.
Unless and until in love, we marry with terms and conditions, or expecting
this or that.

I think I am bit vague, in my views, but, I mean what I said.
So, AGAIN I would like to say, stop crying about INDIAN HYPOCRACY.
Hypocracy is not a character, which just come with indians.
Hypocracy is a common human character.

Abhay.


On 1/29/07, [EMAIL PROTECTED] <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:




Yes ,  Mr. Moderator

This is what I mean --- We back in India do not even
talk of  " Racism " at all in our conversations but , then dont We INDIAN'S
love a FAIR / GORA looking bride ?

The Times of India says it all in it's matrimonaial columns !!

Tapesh

London













> Message Received: Jan 28 2007, 06:36 PM
> From: "lgbtindiagroup"
> To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com
> Cc:
> Subject: g_b R indian hypocrites? Regarding racism in the reality tv
show "BIG BROTHER" ?
>
>

> picked up this question from yahoo questions.
>
> time to introspect?
>
> regards
>
> ===
> R indian hypocrites? Regarding racism in the reality tv show "BIG
> BROTHER" ?
> I think the media and some people are making a mountain out of an ant
> hill regarding this issue. I am from the north-eastern part of
> india,having mogoloid feature.I have faced racist remarks all the
> time in every metropolitan cities of india. Even though,we the north-
> easterner are Indian as any indian can be but because of our mogoliod
> features my fellow countrymen from outside ne states think otherwise.
> Most of the people i met in delhi think i am from nepal to add to
> insult, most of them doesn't even know where my state is .Shouldn't
> the govt do something about the ne people of india, like teaching the
> mailand indian about the ne states of india instead of just helping
> out one shilpa shetty. what an irony? I mean being an indian and not
> being recognised as one. I think we (Indian) should clean our
> backyard before pointing finger to Jade goody or the Britishers.
>
>
>

g_b Get Rich or Die Tryin

[Daisy]

Before I had a lot of money, I was really quite happy," said Oprah Winfrey. 

"And I will tell you this--you may not believe it--
I never would have gotten the money if I wasn't happy to begin with. I never 
would have gotten it."





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