g_b Reminder: Bombay Dost Sunday High Film screenings: 22 Feb 2009
*Sun Feb 22* *Bombay Dost Sunday High movies* The next Sunday High features two films on gay author Truman Capote's investigation of the murder of a Kansas family, quite dissimilar in tone and tenor, despite being based on essentially the same sequence of events. *Capote (2005)* 114min, English Directed by Bennett Miller Starring: Philip Seymour Hoffman, Catherine Keener, Clifton Collins Jr., Chris Cooper, Bruce Greenwood and Mark Pellegrino *Capote* is a biographical film about Truman Capote on a writing assignment for *The New Yorker*. Philip Seymour Hoffman won several awards, including the Academy Award for Best Actor, for his critically acclaimed portrayal of the title role. The movie itself was based on the 1988 biography called *Capote* by Gerald Clarke. In 1959, Capote, learns about the horrific and senseless murder of a family of four in Holcomb, Kansas. Inspired by the story material, Capote and his partner, Harper Lee, travel to the town to research for an article. However, as Capote digs deeper into the story, he is inspired to expand the project into what would be his greatest work, *In Cold Blood*. To that end, he arranges extensive interviews with the prisoners, especially with Perry Smith, a quiet and articulate man with a troubled history. As he works on his book, Capote feels some compassion for Perry which in part prompts him to help the prisoners to some degree. However, that feeling deeply conflicts with his need for closure for his book which only an execution can provide. That conflict and the mixed motives for both interviewer and subject make for a troubling experience that would produce an literary account that would redefine modern non-fiction. (IMDB) *Infamous (2006)* 110min, English Directed by Douglas McGrath. Starring: Toby Jones, Sandra Bullock, Daniel Craig, Jeff Daniels *Infamous* is based on the 1997 book *Capote: In Which Various Friends, Enemies, Acquaintances and Detractors Recall His Turbulent Career* by George Plimpton, covers the period from the late 1950s through the mid-1960s during which Truman Capote researched and wrote his bestseller *In Cold Blood*. *Infamous* is far kinder to Capote than the earlier film, portraying him as quite clearly enamored of the killer Perry Smith (an ardor fully requited by Smith) and deeply anguished when Smith is executed. *Capote* depicts the author as more conniving, manipulative and disingenuous, willing to say or do anything to get Smith to spill his story, and withholding of possible interventions he - Capote - might have made to further delay or avert the executions of Smith and his accomplice. In *Capote* the author's erotic attraction to Smith is more muted, hinted at, not acted upon. Indeed, *Infamous* is in general more explicit and direct in its portrayals, often more graphic if you will, than *Capote.* There are other differences, for example, Capote's bid to establish rapport with the local Sheriff, Alvin Dewey, is depicted as much more problematic in *Infamous* than in *Capote*. A plus for *Infamous* is its attention to Capote's relationships with a covey of New York society women known as his "swans" (delightfully played by Sigourney Weaver, Juliet Stevenson, Hope Davis and Isabella Rossellini), their adulation of him, his ability to coax them into sharing their secrets for his later use as gossip fodder. Daniel Craig gives a forceful performance as the killer, Perry Smith. So we have two versions of the story of Capote's adventures in Kansas: both strong films, well cast, worthwhile. (IMDB) Log on to http://bombay-dost.pbwiki.com to track event info. *IV Floor, Municipal Transit (Municipal Market) Building, Nehru Road, Near Raheja Point, Vakola, Santa Cruz (E)* Nearest station Santa Cruz (WR & CR Harbour) Nearest bus stop Vakola pipeline. Screening time: 4.30pm-8.30pm with one ~15-minute break
g_b GB Sunday Meet at Thane on 22 February 2009
The GayBombay Sunday Meet at THANE on 22 February 2009 Day & Date: Sunday, 22 February 2009 Time: 6:00 PM - 6:30 PM. (Note the changed timings) Venue: Café Coffee Day, Panchpkhadi, Thane (West). Cover: Free Entry to the Sunday Meet. The Café Coffee Day at Panchpakhadi, Thane, remains the place we gather at before proceeding to someone's place not far off for another round of chatar patar catching up on each others lives or just bitch about nothing :-) We would be at the Cafe Coffee day for approx 30 min from 6.00pm We will be watching the 2:55 pm show of the Oscar nominated gay film Milk at Big Cinema, R-Mall, Mulund earlier in the day. Details at www.gaybombay.org/eventman/display-item.php?eventid=121 Directions: For those coming by trains: the place is just a 5 minute ride from the Station and you can ask for `Pizza Hut, Panchpakhadi, near Hari Niwas Circle', For those coming by Highway: turn in towards Thane City at Teen Hath Naka (opposite Eternity Mall) and take a left turn just before Hari Niwas Circle. There is a series of outlets for Pizza Hut, Dominos, etc where you can find the Café. Note : 1. Do get your friends along to help them gain access to a group especially if they are not netizens. 2. You do not have to be "out" to the world to attend. This is a discreet event being held as a clean, safe & social get-together of a non-sexual nature. Hardly any of those attending are "out" as such. 3. You need to be at least 18 years of age to attend. 4. There may be many who will prefer being discreet or may be still be coming to terms with themselves hence a request that all be sensitive to this and act and dress accordingly. 5. To identify the group look out for someone wearing a black cap See you all on Sunday. This event is organised by: http://www.gaybombay.org Right of admission reserved.
RE: g_b Alone...Well not exactly
Hey dude ur right on. We do meet a lot of people. We dissapoint some many dissapoint us, but we should learn from all our experiences and take caution in our current life so as to always be happy in the 'present' right here right now and the one to come. Life does knock on our doors and we should listen to its music and let the magic in. I did and am a very happy person today! I know life sucks, so how do we deal with it and enjoy it is up to us. Never regret and never cry. parth_earth2005 wrote: > Hi Guys > Dunno how many of you can identify with what I have to say..But I d > like to assume that most of you do > I am 26..(from the last 2 years) Actually Gay but Socially believe > that I am BiSexual...an Entrepreneur. .rather a struggling entrepreneur > living with family in Mumbai Suburbs.. > Been through stages in life...Fell and love...believed that its > bliss...Broke off...and was sure that love sucks...Fell in love > again...found fuck buddies...decided to be a saint...decided to non > gay ( this one takes the cake) but none of it really workedGot > dumped by guys...dumped guys...created illusions of love...got > illusionised by what was not love...Loads of ups and down..but > strangely this quest of finding solace in a man is still on...and that > where this post comes from > About me : M 26..a bottom...5'10" Fair...Clnshvn. ..working to a good > body...not too bad right now...Lover of arts and craft...and > travelling is my biggest passion...Love reading as well... > I look..what u can say is worth a second look...atleast Id like to > think that way... > Have some exceptional traits in me...(BF's and to be's have been > raving about it) and I am a let down..( Ex BF's and turn off's have > been complaining about it) > Why dont u help me decide. > (I am over and done with sharing g4m profiles and discussing my sexual > likes and dislikes. Pics i have plenty but whether to share them or > not is different... .) >
g_b Operation Flood launches! (+ a Milk Memoir)
Operation Flood launches! (+ a Milk Memoir) We've had an excellent response to Operation Flood. It seems to have caught on as a viral campaign, because just hours after I send out the first mail, I was getting it back from people I hadn't sent it to! After pink chaddis, it looks like some pink power can be shown here. Actually, what I feel really good about is that a lot of the enthusiasm seems to be coming from my straight friends. I expected the queer community would watch (those that hadn't already seen it on pirated DVDs), but its good to see such enthusiasm from straight supporters. So now just in case any closeted guys were worried about being seen as gay if you went to see Milk, don't worry because so many straight people are going too! GB is planning to meet this Friday at Metro in town at 8.10 pm, on Saturday at Glamour in Bandra at 10.30 pm (these will be slightly cheaper tickets) and on Sunday at 2.55 at R.Mall in Mulund. We aren't booking in advance, since tickets won't be a problem, so if you're coming for these shows just book yourself or land up and buy and look out for us! If you can't make it for these shows I'm putting the list of shows and timings down here. These details have been got directly from the distributor so are more accurate than the ad that's coming in the papers. Please do try and make it for one (or more!) and take along friends and family. And as a final inducement, I'm pasting my latest TimeOut column which offers a glimpse of the time and place the film is set in by Sri Lankan activist Rosanna Flamer-Caldera. She is well known to us as a leader of the queer rights movement in Asia, but many don't know that was a young dyke just coming out in the San Francisco of Harvey Milk: Milk in Mumbai (all shows pm unless stated) Andheri: Fame Adlabs - 3.20 Fun Republic - 8.20 Bandra: Gem - 1.45 Glamour - 11.30 am, 10.30 Downtown: INOX Nariman Point - 3.15, 11.10 Metro - 12.20, 8.20 Sterling - 11.30 am, 2.30, 7.15 Goregaon: PVR Goregaon - 11.20 am, 1.10, 6.00, 11.10 Kanjurmarg: Huma Adlabs - 5.35 Lower Parel: PVR Phoenix Mills - 10.35 am, 3.40, 8.45, 10.55 Mulund PVR Mulund - 1.10, 6.00, 11.00 R.Mall Adlabs - 2.55 Versova: Cinemax - 10.00 am, 5.30 pm Wadala: IMAX Wadala - 8.20 from TimeOut Mumbai: Queer I Harvey Milk (unedited version) Ally Gator There is a famous photo of Harvey Milk sitting exultant on the back of a car. It was in the middle of the Gay Freedom Day Parade in 1978 when 375,000 people came together for San Francisco's biggest gathering of the decade. It was also the largest queer rights march anywhere in the world till then, and Milk was its motivating force. I haven't yet seen Milk, the Oscar nominated film, but this must be one of its high points. My friend Rosanna Flamer-Caldera was actually there in 1978 at the parade and remembers it as one of the most amazing moments of her life. "I just stood and watched with my mouth open," she says. As a young lesbian who had just come from Sri Lanka, she had never imagined something like this was possible. San Francisco at that time was a beacon for queer people from across the USA, and some from abroad too. Rosanna had gone to San Francisco because she had family there, not for its queer scene, but it certainly helped though when an understanding cousin took her to Maud's, a legendary lesbian bar. "I stepped inside and it was like coming home," she remembers. Rosanna doesn't remember meeting other South Asian queer people there at that time. "I used to hang out with these Filipina lesbians because that was as close as I could get," she says. It's been noted that Milk has relatively few lesbians, but Rosanna remembers that as how it was. "The lesbian scene was low key," she says. "It was only later that women really started getting involved in activism." Rosanna says the film really made her remember things. "I remember Sylvester (a famous drag queen) performing in the Castro (the gay district). And of course I remember seeing Harvey Milk there. He was such an amazing man!" What was remarkable, she recalls, was his ability to build coalitions, like with the Teamsters, the notorious truckers union, which was protesting anti-union policies of beer companies like Coors. Rosanna remembers how Milk got gay bars to boycott Coors, which forced it to sign the union deal. In return the Teamsters started accepting openly gay and lesbian truck drivers. And Rosanna remembers the shock of his assassination. "I was at work when the news came that Mayor Moscone and Harvey had been shot dead. We all left and went down to the Castro, and everyone was standing around, not talking, all sombre." There was a candlelight march after that, which is shown in the documentary The Times of Harvey Milk, which has already won an Oscar, in 1985. There's an incredible moment when the camera slowly pans back and you can see the candles going
g_b Re: A Query
My experience is most of the gays expect only sex and not a friendship. They expect you to be a male-prostitute and expect only sex and nothing else. Naturally if you deny that they immediately end the relationship. Sorry I am too blunt. At young age I got an acidic experience. Your views and experience may differ. Shatru ( Shatrughna) --- In gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com, "boyfriend_pune" wrote: > > hello > following could be the reasons: > - that person when starts friendship may be in good position, but after > few months when there are svere up-downs in his life, so while facing > them he cannot share it with you ( one may take it in wrong way ) > particularly if it is financial or marriage problem. then he is not in > contact with you, or keeps mum. when that phase is over, he may > approach to you, but already u misunderstood him. > - some times he may afraid that the family members will come to know > about his gayness, when he is in contact with you. to avoid > complications better to keep mum. > > - it happend with me. when i joined this grup, i came to know about two > persons. before that i didnt know that they were gay. i started > communicating thr email with them. am afraid, if i will personally meet > them and refer this grup, my family members and scoiety around will > come to know our gayness. neither of us is out. > - many a times am in financial trouble, but if i share it with friends > from the grup they me feel that i want money from them. i have to face > my problem. > - with few members i communicated, but letter not, as our status was > very different. it shuld not happen that they feel that i am seeking > some kind of help from them all the time. > > > - aaj phir jine ki tamanna hai > aaj phir marane ka irada hai > > regards > > --- In gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com, Sanjay Lulla > wrote: > > > > I have a query. I have observed this in gay people that one day the > appear to be best of friends, all ahhs n oh ohs hugs and one fine day > without rhyme or reason they are not your frnds nemore. I am not > talking abt being in relationship or fuck buddies but of > 'friendship'. I say in our community since I personally have > experinced this. My quest is why do they behave like this. One can go > crazy thinking what went wrong? God help them. Any comments? > > >
