g_b Re: Thoughts from a married homosexual

2009-04-20 Thread prakash.abhigyan
Dear Mr.Confessions, (perhaps its time to find another alias? :D)

Thanks for your post. Your comments after the story ring true, and although I 
am sure many others have thought the same things, I am glad that you've put 
them down in one place. 

I am closeted, (surprise, surprise), but almost all my friends know about my 
sexuality. They are all straight, and over four years I chose with care the 
time and the situation in which I came out to each one of them. Today all the 
15 guys in my college hostel wing (and others besides) are fine with it to the 
extent that in streets and in restaurants, they point to (what they think are) 
good-looking boys and ask with a wicked smile, "AB.,quick! 3-o-clock! kaisa 
laga? :D"

I am all the more pleased because not all of these friends are city lads; They 
are from small towns and cities from Bihar, UP, Andhra, Rajasthan, and whatnot. 
Perhaps I'll post someday about my experiences in detail. 

But I brought this up because, although at the end of your letter, you say 
"With a little luck and a bit of courage in many hearts, things will pass", 
what we all want is that these "things come to pass" within our own lifetime 
(or even better, youth).

I wanted to let the readers know that if done right, people are far more 
capable of accepting homosexuality than we think, especially if they closely 
know a homosexual themselves. It is in our hands alone to speed up the process 
by which we are accepted within our immediate circle, and thus reach the 
'critical mass' at which a society begins to turn its attitude towards us.






--- In gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com, naughty confessions 
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>
> 
> Thoughts from a married homosexual 
>  
>  I don't know where or when the posting (reproduced below) first appeared, 
> but it is evidently by a man with homosexual yearnings in India. I think it 
> represents the feelings of a lot of people who know they don't belong to the 
> heterosexual world but cannot see any other world. 
> 
> I am a 38 year old guy and have spend a greater part of my life in Delhi, 
> right since I was born, my education, my first job etc.
> I never had any real sexual experience with any guy till my first job, though 
> I always fantasised myself having sex with some of the good looking guys in 
> my class, getting pics from magazines such as Gladrags and shagging in the 
> bathroom looking at those pics. I also spent a good amount of time cruising 
> for guys in Andheri and Bandra railway stations when I was in Mumbai.
> It was a time when the internet had not caught on and you had a very decent 
> crowd coming to these stations, that is now abound with touts. I also allowed 
> myself to be probed by guys in crowded trains. Once the internet came in, 
> then the means changed and the web became a new field for cruising. One thing 
> I did observe in the gay community, whether it was in the stations or in the 
> web, the focus was tremendously on sex. It all boiled down to ASL and stats 
> in 99 % of the cases.
>  
>  
> I also got confused with this approach and the meaningfulness of the same and 
> during the time I was also under pressure to get married. I was with a good 
> organization, was very well qualified and had the advantage of good looks. 
> Even today if I happen to chat, I say am 25 and am able to get along with 
> that. In fact most of the guys I met who were in their mid 20s actually 
> looked much older than me.
>  
> Before I get into something else, let me come back to the issue of marriage 
> that started troubling me. I spent long hours wondering on how to tackle this 
> issue, I never came out in the open to my family. Even today I am not out. I 
> had lengthy discussions with my elder brother on the significance of marriage 
> and what it means to my life. I also had fears of sexual compatibility with 
> my wife and how I intend to do justice to her and my kid in the future. I was 
> also disillusioned with the gay world, not because it was not socially 
> acceptable, but with the hollowness of the whole concept of adopting a gay 
> life.
> I am also an avid reader of the Bhagwad Gita and must say that it's the 
> mother of all books on modern thinking. And I must share with you that it's a 
> book which is very practical today and sends a very powerful message across 
> and the best part is that it does not insist on you following it nor has it 
> anything to do with religion. Its about doing your duty with all the skill 
> and excelling in whichever field you are in.
>  
> This is one thing that was deeply etched in my mind and I started evaluating 
> what is the course of action that best supports my objective of focusing on 
> my skills and that takes me towards excellence. After spending quite some 
> time contemplating of my sexual orientation, I finally agreed to get married. 
> My marriage was arranged and my wife comes from a good family with a 
> professional qualification like mine. The initial month was good in

Re: g_b Ashok Row Kavi says Gender Politics preventing Eunuchs from Voting

2009-04-20 Thread Aditya Bondyopadhyay
One sane voice amongst the drama of the season..
Yes! It is the vote that counts...


On 20/04/2009, myonepe...@aol.com  wrote:
>
> Aditya -
>
> There is who you are...and...what other people think you are..
>
> My chelas all have voters IDs...and hopefully all of them will vote..
>
> In India...there are no?districts that require?people to be of solely one
> specified gender...to vote..
>
> So...I would recommend all eunuchs to vote...no matter what they think that
> other people and organizations?think they are..
>
> It is the vote that counts..
>
> Elizabeth
>
>
>
>
>
>
> -Original Message-
> From: Aditya Bondyopadhyay 
> Sent: Sun, 19 Apr 2009 5:04 pm
> Subject: g_b Ashok Row Kavi says Gender Politics preventing Eunuchs from
> Voting
>
>
>
>
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>
>
> http://www.sott.net/articles/show/182232-India-Eunuchs-avoid-polls-over-third-sex-dilemma
>
> ?
>
> India - Eunuchs avoid polls over 'third sex' dilemma
>
> NineMSN
> Sun, 19 Apr 2009 13:24 UTC
>
> ?
>
> India's one million eunuchs face a unique dilemma every election season -
> do they stand in the men's or women's queue at polling stations or stay away
> altogether?
>
> In the past, eunuchs - the term used for cross-dressers, pre- and
> post-operative transsexuals known here as hijras - have largely abstained
> from casting their ballots because they are unwilling to identify themselves
> as male or female on voter registration forms.
>
> While some eunuchs do vote by listing themselves as female, many are
> pushing for an alternative or "third sex" option on identity cards, after
> being granted the franchise in 1994.
>
> Laxmi Narayan Tripathi, a prominent eunuch activist and founder of NGO
> Astitva, which works with sexual minorities, has never voted and refuses to
> do so until there is a transgender option on identity cards.
>
> "It's the question of the identity of our whole community," she said.
>
> "In spite of so many years of independence we haven't got our own identity,
> our own place in the constitution of India."
>
> Most eunuchs live on the outer fringes of society, ostracized and excluded
> from decent job opportunities and reduced to begging at traffic junctions in
> major cities or working in the sex trade.
>
> Despite the stigma surrounding them, a campaign to recognise eunuchs as a
> third sex has yielded some results.
>
> They can now write "E" for eunuch on passports and on certain government
> forms, but the quest for acceptance at the ballot box - where they have to
> identify themselves as male or female - still eludes them in culturally
> conservative India.
>
> "There has been quite a bit of progress so structurally the only thing that
> comes in is gender politics," said Ashok Row Kavi, chairman of the Humsafar
> Trust, a male sexual health NGO.
>
> Eunuchs who want to contest in elections for greater rights have come up
> against similar problems, even though several have been elected to public
> office as women.
>
> Last month India's election commission denied three eunuchs in the eastern
> state of Orissa permission to run as candidates unless they identified
> themselves as male or female.
>
> Pratap Sahu, president of the All-Orissa Eunuchs Association, which fielded
> the candidates, said the unsuccessful bid had been a form of protest against
> election authorities.
>
> "We wanted to fight the election on the third sex issue. In India nobody
> has fought for this," he said.
>
> The relatively small number of eunuchs, compared to other minority groups,
> means it is unlikely that any party deems them a priority vote bank, said
> Anil Bairwal, national coordinator for the Association of Democratic
> Reforms.
>
> "Whether it will be taken up or not - as far as our political parties are
> concerned, the only language they understand is the language of numbers," he
> said.
>
> Month-long general elections in the world's largest democracy began on
> Thursday, with the last of five phases taking place on May 13. Results are
> expected May 16.
>
> Agency France-Presse
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g_b Humsafar Trust presents the first Marathi musical on homosexuality, ‘Offbeat’, on Sunday, 26 April 2

2009-04-20 Thread nitin . karani

Hello All,

Please feel free to forward/re-post on other groups.

Cheers,
Nitin


'Offfbeat' is the story of Mahesh who ‘comes out' to his grandmother. A  
grandmother who is reluctant to accept him. So, Mahesh convinces her to  
join him and his group, consisting of homosexual men, transsexuals,  
transgenders and hijras, to try to understand their issues. The play is the  
journey of Mahesh and his grandmother exploring sexuality.


Despite the serious subject, the play is a comedy. It uses satire to poke  
fun at patriarchy and society's narrow vision of gender and sexuality.


Zameer Kamble, Pune-based writer-director of the play, says, "For gay  
people, sexual orientation is a vital aspect of their identity. I wrote  
this play in order to bring about a level of acceptance and respect for  
members of the gay community. I hope ‘Offbeat' at least makes people sit up  
and think. Putting it together was in itself a struggle, as I had to find  
some good, brave actors and get the censor certificate, which alone took  
over a year.


"Many gay people either become a laughing stock or face brutal reactions  
and lack of understanding, both at home and in society,” says Kamble. “This  
lowers their self esteem, makes them vulnerable to infections like HIV,  
and, in the extreme, forces them to commit suicide.”


'Offbeat' is also the first Marathi play to speak directly about the  
problems of homosexuals in India, from the social and legal perspective.


Cast: Sagar Lodhi, Satish Sandbhor, Pravin and Sachin.

Date of the show: Sunday, 26 April 2009, at 6 pm

Venue details: Mumbai Marathi Sahitya Sangh, Dr.Bhalerao Marg, Khetwadi,  
Mumbai – 400 004. Nearest railway station: Charni Road (East) Landmark: St  
Teresa High School; 5 minutes walk from Charni Road station. Phone:  
022-23856303, 022-23876158


Ticket rates: Rs 150, Rs 100, Rs 50. Tickets available from 24 April 2009  
at the venue (Mumbai Marathi Sahitya Sangh -- see address above).


g_b Thoughts from a married homosexual

2009-04-20 Thread naughty confessions

Thoughts from a married homosexual 
 
 I don't know where or when the posting (reproduced below) first appeared, but 
it is evidently by a man with homosexual yearnings in India. I think it 
represents the feelings of a lot of people who know they don't belong to the 
heterosexual world but cannot see any other world. 

I am a 38 year old guy and have spend a greater part of my life in Delhi, right 
since I was born, my education, my first job etc.
I never had any real sexual experience with any guy till my first job, though I 
always fantasised myself having sex with some of the good looking guys in my 
class, getting pics from magazines such as Gladrags and shagging in the 
bathroom looking at those pics. I also spent a good amount of time cruising for 
guys in Andheri and Bandra railway stations when I was in Mumbai.
It was a time when the internet had not caught on and you had a very decent 
crowd coming to these stations, that is now abound with touts. I also allowed 
myself to be probed by guys in crowded trains. Once the internet came in, then 
the means changed and the web became a new field for cruising. One thing I did 
observe in the gay community, whether it was in the stations or in the web, the 
focus was tremendously on sex. It all boiled down to ASL and stats in 99 % of 
the cases.
 
 
I also got confused with this approach and the meaningfulness of the same and 
during the time I was also under pressure to get married. I was with a good 
organization, was very well qualified and had the advantage of good looks. Even 
today if I happen to chat, I say am 25 and am able to get along with that. In 
fact most of the guys I met who were in their mid 20s actually looked much 
older than me.
 
Before I get into something else, let me come back to the issue of marriage 
that started troubling me. I spent long hours wondering on how to tackle this 
issue, I never came out in the open to my family. Even today I am not out. I 
had lengthy discussions with my elder brother on the significance of marriage 
and what it means to my life. I also had fears of sexual compatibility with my 
wife and how I intend to do justice to her and my kid in the future. I was also 
disillusioned with the gay world, not because it was not socially acceptable, 
but with the hollowness of the whole concept of adopting a gay life.
I am also an avid reader of the Bhagwad Gita and must say that it's the mother 
of all books on modern thinking. And I must share with you that it's a book 
which is very practical today and sends a very powerful message across and the 
best part is that it does not insist on you following it nor has it anything to 
do with religion. Its about doing your duty with all the skill and excelling in 
whichever field you are in.
 
This is one thing that was deeply etched in my mind and I started evaluating 
what is the course of action that best supports my objective of focusing on my 
skills and that takes me towards excellence. After spending quite some time 
contemplating of my sexual orientation, I finally agreed to get married. My 
marriage was arranged and my wife comes from a good family with a professional 
qualification like mine. The initial month was good in terms of sexual 
experiences and since I was indulging in sex with a woman for the first time, I 
myself was exploring and I did enjoy. After a month the novelty died down and 
the pressure of my work took on me.
I must admit at this point of time that I was not sexually attracted to my wife 
and still used to fantasize about guys. I often "came" thinking about guys when 
I made love to my wife. The fact however is also this that though I never liked 
her sexually, I did love her, took care of her and always looked forward to 
being with her. I took her along with me for every assignment, though I had to 
incur huge amount of expenses in traveling and lodging. I remember being with 
hospitalized and how she spend those moments with me, at times she often fought 
with the doctors for me and often broke down in front of the doctors when they 
were not able to diagnose my illness. But she never shed a single tear in front 
of me. We then decided to have a kid, and again we spent a long time discussion 
on whether we should really have a kid, whether we are capable of giving it a 
meaningful life. We finally went ahead with our plans.
All this time I always was wondering whether I should tell my wife about my 
sexuality. I had actually stopped going to the net and somehow the gay 
environment was sickening most of the time. I also wondered whether the kind of 
support that I got from my wife, being with me when I needed help the most and 
supporting me in my career, could these things have been achieved with a gay 
partner. I felt sex is just one of the binders in a relationship, it may be 
critical.
But a relationship that is based purely on sexual orientation may actually end 
up in a disaster. Relationship or lets call it partnership is al

g_b Fwd: India, Caste system, and the Durban Review Conference

2009-04-20 Thread Aditya Bondyopadhyay
Dear All,
This is a mail that I wrote in the SOGI listserve regarding the Durban
Review Conference on Racism. It may not be directly about LGBT issues, but I
feel it is pertinent, therefore I am posting it on this list.
Best,
Aditya B

-- Forwarded message --
From: Aditya Bondyopadhyay 
Date: 2009/4/20
Subject: India, Caste system, and the Durban Review Conference
To: sogi-l...@arc-international.net


Dear All,

Activists are often under pressure to 'fall in line' with the popular
flavour of the day. There is merit in such conforming to activist agendas
too, often meaning the difference between change and status-quo, arising
from a united voice of opposition to something abhorrent. India is no
exception. Indian Activists are no exception. I as an Indian activist am no
exception.

I have been following the various threads on this list and others about the
Durban Review conference and the preparatory meetings in Geneva and other
places on this list, on news channels, and other listserves. I have been
silent on this topic, and did not want to stick my neck out. But
increasingly I have this feeling that I must speak out about what I feel,
for not doing so would be dishonest, and a disservice to India, a country
that I love in spite of all its flaws and faults, a country that is
certainly not perfect, and a country whose government and powers have
certainly not escaped my very public ire and scorn when they have not lived
up to expected standards in protecting people's rights.

The pressure on Inida, renewed very recently by scandinevian countries, is
to force the inclusion of the caste system within the aegis of racism. There
is nothing whatsoever to gloat about the caste system and the millenea of
oppression that it entailed for a majority of India's population.

But to say that this system, which may in fact predate the very notion of
racism, is in fact racism, can not be further from the truth. The Indian
government is aware of the pitfalls of the caste system, and has taken most
measures that are necessary to deal with its adverse fallout. Adequate laws
have been enacted, and at least in government recruitment, caste
discrimination has been reduced to an extent where there is now a backlash
from the upper castes. Dalits have sat on the highest offices of the land,
and we have recently had a dalit chief minister elected with absolute
majority in India's most populated state.

Much like anti-gay-discrimination laws does not mean the end to societal
homophobia, having laws against caste based discrimination at the state
level or in moderating public conduct does not at all mean that caste
prejudice has been eliminated from the public mind. In fact the caste
structures are so entrenched, that the one thing that motivate and guide
most private social interactions is caste consideration. When I turned 13 my
father made me go through the sacred thread ceremony of Brahmins, to help
establish me on the top of the caste pile. I am yet to come across an inter
caste marriage that makes the extended family happy. But what makes me happy
and gives me hope is that the younger lot are increasingly going for such
marriages, the family be damned.

Effectively, what can be done has been done with utmost sincerity by the
state, it is showing results, and the Indian state cannot be pilloried for
something that it is not guilty of.

Which brings me to the question of racism. This is one area where India can
absolutely be proud of its historical conduct and record. We did not at any
time in the past, nor do we at present, suffer racism. People from all
persecuted quarters have come and found a home in India. Zoroastrainism died
in its place of birth Iran, but survived in India because Parsis found a
home here. Jews settled in India between the 9th to 11th centuries in the
malabar, and were never persecuted. When Spain was expelling Jews and
Morocco was culling them, the Jews of India formed one of the msot
prosperous communities of India. A second lot of Jews settled from Armenia
in Bengal in the 18th-19th century and lived and prospered happily. the
only lost tribe of Israel ever found was in the northeast of India, in
Mizoram, after 3 millenium of happy living, speaking their own language and
worshiping their own gods.

Aryans, Greeks, Saks, Huns, Kushans, Pathans, Mongols, Turksmens, Parsis,
Jews, Khemers, Uzbeks, East Africans, Arabs, Malays, and Chinese have
settled and prospered in India and have never been persecuted. India had it
in itself to absorb all these and make them part of the Indian fabric.

And the funny thing is that the caste system is one reason why all these
people were left to their own devices and never bothered. The insularity of
the caste system meant that any outsider was never a social threat.
Everyone, within the confines of their social structures and systems were
free to be whoever they wanted to be.

I think that to bring in caste to try and pillory India on racism is totally
mispl

g_b an appeal

2009-04-20 Thread Sanjay Lulla
This does not pertain to the basic identity or the theme of the group but in a 
way this would go to prove that we are a major part of the society and that we 
do care. Please help in whatever way you can

Hope you're doing great and having a lovely weekend.
 
I am just writing to request help for Mr. Ramani. He is a 40 year-old
architect, husband and father who was diagnosed with leukemia some 4
months back. A bone marrow match could not be found within the family,
so they have had to pursue a much more expensive line of treatment.
After having exhausted all their savings and selling off all their material 
possessions, Alpa, Ramani's wife, is now totally relying on the generosity 
of other people now to help her husband get a new lease of life. Ramani had to 
leave a great job in Dubai and move base to Mumbai for the treatment 
(they are originally from Nagpur).
 
I was wondering if you guys can please help the family and 
donate cash or donate online through www.helpramani.org
 
The website has all the details, including email, numbers in Mumbai,
pictures and medical reports (just so sceptics know it's not another
hoax!!). It has all details of the modes of payment and contact numbers in 
Mumbai.
 
 
Every rupee will help this family right now, no contribution is too
small!.
 Thanks for listening, and keeping Ramani in your thoughts and prayers
 little prince-Sanjay N Lulla 


  

Re: g_b Ashok Row Kavi says Gender Politics preventing Eunuchs from Voting

2009-04-20 Thread MyOnePenny
Aditya -

There is who you are...and...what other people think you are..

My chelas all have voters IDs...and hopefully all of them will vote..

In India...there are no?districts that require?people to be of solely one 
specified gender...to vote..

So...I would recommend all eunuchs to vote...no matter what they think that 
other people and organizations?think they are..

It is the vote that counts..

Elizabeth






-Original Message-
From: Aditya Bondyopadhyay 
Sent: Sun, 19 Apr 2009 5:04 pm
Subject: g_b Ashok Row Kavi says Gender Politics preventing Eunuchs from Voting










http://www.sott.net/articles/show/182232-India-Eunuchs-avoid-polls-over-third-sex-dilemma

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India - Eunuchs avoid polls over 'third sex' dilemma 

NineMSN
Sun, 19 Apr 2009 13:24 UTC

?

India's one million eunuchs face a unique dilemma every election season - do 
they stand in the men's or women's queue at polling stations or stay away 
altogether? 

In the past, eunuchs - the term used for cross-dressers, pre- and 
post-operative transsexuals known here as hijras - have largely abstained from 
casting their ballots because they are unwilling to identify themselves as male 
or female on voter registration forms. 

While some eunuchs do vote by listing themselves as female, many are pushing 
for an alternative or "third sex" option on identity cards, after being granted 
the franchise in 1994. 

Laxmi Narayan Tripathi, a prominent eunuch activist and founder of NGO Astitva, 
which works with sexual minorities, has never voted and refuses to do so until 
there is a transgender option on identity cards. 

"It's the question of the identity of our whole community," she said. 

"In spite of so many years of independence we haven't got our own identity, our 
own place in the constitution of India." 

Most eunuchs live on the outer fringes of society, ostracized and excluded from 
decent job opportunities and reduced to begging at traffic junctions in major 
cities or working in the sex trade. 

Despite the stigma surrounding them, a campaign to recognise eunuchs as a third 
sex has yielded some results. 

They can now write "E" for eunuch on passports and on certain government forms, 
but the quest for acceptance at the ballot box - where they have to identify 
themselves as male or female - still eludes them in culturally conservative 
India. 

"There has been quite a bit of progress so structurally the only thing that 
comes in is gender politics," said Ashok Row Kavi, chairman of the Humsafar 
Trust, a male sexual health NGO. 

Eunuchs who want to contest in elections for greater rights have come up 
against similar problems, even though several have been elected to public 
office as women. 

Last month India's election commission denied three eunuchs in the eastern 
state of Orissa permission to run as candidates unless they identified 
themselves as male or female. 

Pratap Sahu, president of the All-Orissa Eunuchs Association, which fielded the 
candidates, said the unsuccessful bid had been a form of protest against 
election authorities. 

"We wanted to fight the election on the third sex issue. In India nobody has 
fought for this," he said. 

The relatively small number of eunuchs, compared to other minority groups, 
means it is unlikely that any party deems them a priority vote bank, said Anil 
Bairwal, national coordinator for the Association of Democratic Reforms. 

"Whether it will be taken up or not - as far as our political parties are 
concerned, the only language they understand is the language of numbers," he 
said. 

Month-long general elections in the world's largest democracy began on 
Thursday, with the last of five phases taking place on May 13. Results are 
expected May 16. 

Agency France-Presse 

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g_b NO GAYS, SAYS SOCIETY

2009-04-20 Thread naughty confessions
NO GAYS, SAYS SOCIETY

Dr. Neelam Verma


Of late, a number of Western countries have 
accepted homosexual behaviour in individuals and they are no longer 
discriminated against.


In India, people 
tend to avoid talk of sex or homosexuality, yet it does not mean 
that it is not prevalent.


Naveen 
is a disturbed man. While his family was insisting that he should 
marry and settle down , he was sure he wouldn't be happy with a 
woman and lead a normal life. For, he was a homosexual and secretly 
met male friends. But he was also ashamed about his abnormal trait 
and did not want the family to know his preference for a male. His 
is a typical case that worries thousands of gays in the Indian 
society.   
 India is the world’s largest democracy, yet its 
laws remain as outdated as ever. Indian laws are still governed by 
the British Raj which introduced colonial laws in India and other 
colonised countries in that period. However, though many laws have 
been amended, Section 377 of the Indian Penal Code still needs 
amendment and of late has been challenged by voluntary 
organisations. 
According to Section 377, gay sex is illegal, but lesbian sex is 
not 
mentioned. Homosexuality is punishable under the provisions and the 
offence is called sodomy. There has been no change with regard to 
the concept of this offence and its administration by the Indian 
courts. The law says that "Whoever voluntarily has carnal 
intercourse against the order of nature, with any man, woman or 
animal shall be punished with imprisonment for life, or for a term 
which may extend to ten years and shall also be liable to fine." 
Penetration is sufficient to constitute carnal 
intercourse necessary to the offence described in this section. The 
form of homosexuality, which is reported either by the police or 
society, is generally related to use of force by the one over the 
other, though even if there was consent of any of the partners, the 
offence is not mitigated. It is considered to be an offence against 
society, therefore, the legal system is obliged to punish all those 
who are proved to have indulged in it for correctional purposes.
It is due to the prevalence of such laws that 
many gays in India are ostracised in society, blackmailed by those 
who stumble upon their sexual behaviour, either family or 
neighbours 
or prying relatives, etc. They are thrown out of jobs, too. Of 
late, 
a number of Western countries have accepted homosexual behaviour in 
individuals and they are no longer discriminated against, unlike in 
India. In an attempt to bring some semblance of respect for 
homosexuals, a voluntary organisation working for AIDS awareness, 
Naz, has filed a writ petition in the Delhi High Court challenging 
the constitutional validity of Section 377 of the Indian Penal Code 
which criminally penalises what is termed as "unnatural offences", 
in so far as the provision affects private sexual acts between 
consenting adults.
Says Shaleen Rakesh of Naz, who works with MSM or 
gay men who have sex with men: "Our main work is with a section of 
men who are vulnerable to contracting HIV/AIDS. During the process 
of our work, we discovered that the best way is to promote respect 
and protect human rights of vulnerable populations, especially the 
MSM community. For that, we need to change the draconian Section 
377 
as it is an infringement of fundamental rights guaranteed under 
Articles 14, 15, 19, and 21 of the Constitution of India." 
The petition states that Section 377 is meant to 
criminalise sexual acts, which are against the order of nature. 
This 
provision is based upon traditional Judeo-Christian moral and 
ethical standards which conceive of sex in purely functional terms, 
that is for the purpose of procreation only. A non-procreative 
sexual activity is thus viewed as being against the order of 
nature. 
Since homosexual behaviour is a crime under the provisions of 
Section 377 of the Indian Penal Code, therefore, organisations of 
homosexuals are not permitted as legal bodies. However, in Mumbai 
and Delhi, there are groups that hang out together. There have been 
demonstrations outside the office of the World Health O