g_b Same-sex couple forced apart
This is really sad! And the reasons even sadder. Praying for Rinku and Tanusree. http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/Cities/Kolkata_Same-sex_couple_forced_apart/articleshow/3587897.cms Same-sex couple forced apart 13 Oct 2008, 0305 hrs IST, Jhimli Mukherjee Pandey Pinaki Das,TNN KOLKATA: You can’t miss the Manna tenement at Panchla’s Gabberia village. The modest two-room dwelling is the focus of everyone’s attention, as is e vident from the crowd that remains stationed there day and night. It has been like this since Wednesday, ever since the second daughter of the household, Tanusree, returned home. The crowd keeps vigil lest Tanusree escapes and unites with her ‘wife’, Rinku. The two had eloped, married and are now living under forcible separation. The news of this gay ‘married’ couple returning home from Rajasthan had created headlines on October 9. They had gone missing on September 22, leading their families to lodge missing complaints with Panchla police. Tanusree’s parents had even said in their complaint that Rinku’s sister and brother-in-law were involved in arranging a passage for the duo. The two were discovered in Jaipur, a fortnight after they had eloped, living in a rented house as man and wife. Tanusree, with her characteristic masculine looks and attire (you will always find her in men’s shirt and trousers, hair cropped short), didn’t elicit any queries when she identified herself as Rinku’s husband. The latter, on the other hand, was found wearing a saree, vermilion smeared on her forehead and shankha-pola - the marks of a Bengali married woman. Despite the fact that parents of both girls had accepted the duo as married partners in the district court where police had produced them, they decided to forcibly separate the two immediately thereafter. The two girls vehemently protested, but in vain. While Tanusree was taken to Gabberia, Rinku was taken by her brothers to their parental home in Manikpir, Nayachak, about 5 km away. No matter what we said that day on record, we cannot accept such an evil alliance. Have you ever heard of a girl marrying another girl? Someone might have cast a spell on Tanusree and we have managed to wrest her back from there, said father Kanai Manna. Ever since the pucca road to Domjur was laid near the village, claiming his grocery shop like many others of the village, Kanai idles away at home, while his three unmarried daughters run the household by doing zari embroidery. We were desperate to get Tanusree back, not only because she is our daughter but also because she is a key breadwinner for us. I am perennially ill and cannot work. I cannot afford to let go of the Rs 2,000 that she earns, Kanai says. Villagers at Gabberia are taking turns to keep an eye on Tanusree because they think she is bold enough to break free once again. We cannot let two women live as man and wife in this village, said neighbours Madan Pal, Kamal Hazra and Raju Pal, all zari workers. Panchayat member Dipankar Mondal was more specific. We have allowed Tanusree to stay in her parents’ house despite having lived with another woman as her partner with the understanding that she will never try to bring Rinku with her. The panchayat will discuss the matter after Lakshmi Puja once again and put a seal on the issue, he said. But Tanusree is indomitable. She hasn’t even changed her clothes ever since she came back home and refuses to eat till she is allowed to meet Rinku. On Friday, when TOI visited her, she said: Why is everyone after us? We were living blissfully like any other couple in Jaipur and no one bothered us. I will once again escape with Rinku, come what may. If I fail, I will have to take some other drastic step to teach everyone a lesson. She has forced her parents to return her cellphone to her so that she can call Rinku. This happened after she reportedly tried to hang herself on Thursday night, though police are yet to confirm this. This has even forced the Mondals (Rinku’s family) to allow her to speak to her ‘husband’ on the phone. I can earn a living for the two of us, Tanusree said, reiterating her urge to break free. When Panchla OC Gautam Talukdar met Tanusree on Sunday morning, she urged him to ensure that she can keep in touch with Rinku. Rinku could not be traced at her house and TOI was told that she had been sent to her maternal uncle’s place at Polgustia. Her cousins, however, not only denied this, but reiterated that they will not give shelter to such a fallen woman who calls another woman her husband. She is nothing but a witch, said cousins Raju and Ananda Jhaj. Another cousin, Prakash, who is also a panchayat member, said: Rinku’s family is strange. Earlier, another girl had eloped with a Muslim boy, but she was brought back and made to marry a Hindu boy. They should do the same with Rinku too! Panchla panchayat samity member Samir Fouzdar, who is the Mondals’ neighbour, feels that
Re: g_b Is it something with gays and cricket or is it just me?
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Re: g_b Coming out to my parents
Hello there again! I am sorry for not writing in earlier. After coming back from home, I promptly fell in and then work overwhelmed me to the extent that I couldn't check my mails. Yes, I did it! I went home. Parents all smiling and loving. Everything was hunky - dory till Wednesday evening. In the evening, we were sitting outside, my parents and I, under the bright half-moon light. It was muggy and hot. I had been procrastinating about how to tell them and when and then I decided to make it a quick event. I started out by saying that I was their son and I loved them both very much and I knew that they both loved me very much too. And that nothing is ever going to change. Then I went ahead and told them. Told them about me, my preferences, my boyfriend, my future plans everything. I told them I realized it will be very difficult for them, but I am telling them this because I couldn't live a lie anymore, a lie I had been living for the past 15 years. There was a shocked silence. And then Dad said, Are you sure? It's not the right thing. Do you want to go to a counselor? Is there any defect in you? Why did you choose this kind of lifestyle? What will happen to you if your boyfriend decides to leave you? What if your BF's parents convince him to leave you? We had a long discussion. One of the things that touched me was when he said that he realized it had taken me great courage to come out and tell them this and that he was proud of me for doing that. Knowing that he did not approve of my lifestyle, yet say this, told me how much he loved me. Then he said something that has he has told me all my life: Its your life. You have to decide how to live it. We, as parents will worry about you and your future. If you have decided on something, we wont force you. We will support you and love you. Mom was silent. My mom is very religious. When I asked her about her views, she just shrugged. It had hit her badly. The next time she spoke to me was a day after... she told me it was against God and bible. This is wrong and then I should have come to Dad a longer time ago for this problem, while we could have done something about it. And stuff. Said that she will never accept it. I knew I had hurt them both very much and I was sad for doing so and was angry at the society for making it so hard. We had a discussion again, on Saturday. And then again Dad asked me whether I wanted to get counseled. In the end I realized that all his fears were about I having to live alone and no wife and no kids to take care of me in my old age. He is so sweet! He said that if I am sure about what I want to do and how I want to lead my life, they will stand by me. Now that I am back in Bangalore, things are pretty normal. The phone calls are regular and full of love. Mom is back to normal. I know that it will be along long time before things will return to normal, or before my boyfriend will be accepted as my partner. But I will live for that day and will try to help my parents move along. Anyways, I am glad I did it. Now I don't feel like a liar. And that my parents know who I am. I know that they will still love me and they might not stand up and applaud every move I make, I will always have their love and support. Thank you guys, for all your support and care and concern! Without it, I know that I wouldn't have made it through. Hugs, r --- rohan r [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: i, I am planning to come out to my parents next week. Going home for Easter. Guess Jesus is not the only one who is going to be crucified and coming out. Though mine will be in reverse order. I come from a religious Mallu Catholic family. Anybody who knows how we function can understand me freaking out. There is hundres of butterflies in my stomach playing with a big ball of lead they got from somewhere. The biggest problem is going to be communicating to them. I have lived outside home (hostels n others) all my life. So the language at home is a mixture of Malayalam, English and Hindi. So you see, I dont even know whether they wud understand it, if I were to say I am gay. So I will have to go into more details, which is making me a lil squeamish. I am expecting a lot of 'Against God Bible' and then some 'Society' and 'Nature' talk. I will get the hospital emergency numbers with me before I sit down with them, in case either of them decides to go coronary on me. (Was that bad humor?) Anyways, will let you guys know how it went. If any of you have gone thru the same experience, tips, Dos Donts, and suggestions welcome! Thanks! r Group Site: http://www.gaybombay.info == This message was posted to the gay_bombay Yahoo! Group. Responses to messages (by clicking Reply) will also be posted on the eGroup and sent to all members. If you'd like to respond privately to the author of any message then please compose and send a new email message to the author's email address. Post:- gay_bombay
RE: g_b Re: Coming out to my parents
Hi MG, Thanks for the mail and the words of support. I will be staying with my parents for only a week. So I have to make this a clean quick jerk event, rather than a long drawn out plan of hints. Wish I could do that. And I am not effeminate, so that is out of question. I ahve come out to a couple of my friends and they are cool with me being gay. I wish you good luck in your 'coming out'. Hope its a good experience. Thanks again for the mail! God bless! regards, r --- Mountain Goat [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: Hi r, Way to go Hunny! Best Of LucK! I hope they understand. But don't haste. If you are with them for a few weeks or days give them hints. If u r effeminate I believe it will get easier (like in my case)! LOL! Well I am not out with my parents. But Im out to 5 of my freinds over last 6 - 8 month old regime. I am not out with my parents right now since my mom is not doing very well health wise and ONE VERY IMP. POINT - I STILL LIVE WITH THEM. I dont have a house or have not rented a flat of my own as yet - which i guess ill need once i tell them. LOL!. If u r dependent and have the urge of comming out I suggest u first come out with friends - as u said u have lived in a hostel for most of ur life. They will be in a better position to understand - provided u chose the right friends. May God Bless U! :) Regards, MtnG. From: Neil [EMAIL PROTECTED] Reply-To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Subject: g_b Re: Coming out to my parents Date: Wed, 05 Apr 2006 12:25:41 - Hi r, All I could say is All the Best. This is THE most important step in lives of people like us. God Bless. Neil --- In gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com, rohan r [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: Hi, I am planning to come out to my parents next week. Going home for Easter. Guess Jesus is not the only one who is going to be crucified and coming out. Though mine will be in reverse order. I come from a religious Mallu Catholic family. Anybody who knows how we function can understand me freaking out. There is hundres of butterflies in my stomach playing with a big ball of lead they got from somewhere. The biggest problem is going to be communicating to them. I have lived outside home (hostels n others) all my life. So the language at home is a mixture of Malayalam, English and Hindi. So you see, I dont even know whether they wud understand it, if I were to say I am gay. So I will have to go into more details, which is making me a lil squeamish. I am expecting a lot of 'Against God Bible' and then some 'Society' and 'Nature' talk. I will get the hospital emergency numbers with me before I sit down with them, in case either of them decides to go coronary on me. (Was that bad humor?) Anyways, will let you guys know how it went. If any of you have gone thru the same experience, tips, Dos Donts, and suggestions welcome! Thanks! r __ Do You Yahoo!? Tired of spam? Yahoo! Mail has the best spam protection around http://mail.yahoo.com __ Do You Yahoo!? Tired of spam? Yahoo! Mail has the best spam protection around http://mail.yahoo.com Group Site: http://www.gaybombay.info == This message was posted to the gay_bombay Yahoo! Group. Responses to messages (by clicking Reply) will also be posted on the eGroup and sent to all members. If you'd like to respond privately to the author of any message then please compose and send a new email message to the author's email address. Post:- gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Subscribe:- [EMAIL PROTECTED] Unsubscribe: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Digest Mode:- [EMAIL PROTECTED] (attachments are removed in the digest mode. You get one or two digest mails per day containing all emails, minus pictures/attachments) No Mail Mode:- [EMAIL PROTECTED] Individual Mail Mode:- [EMAIL PROTECTED] Contact Us:- [EMAIL PROTECTED] Rss feed: http://www.mail-archive.com/gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com/maillist.xml Archives are at http://www.mail-archive.com/gay_bombay%40yahoogroups.com/maillist.html Classifieds for personal advertisements are back on www.gaybombay.info site. Please exercise restraint in the language of your personal advertisement. To post mates/freinds wanted log on to http://pub35.bravenet.com/classified/show.php?usernum=2998156902 Yahoo! Groups Links * To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/gay_bombay/ * To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] * Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
g_b Indian Cher
The other day, my boyfriend and I were watching TV and Asha Bhonsle came on with her '1-2 Cha Cha Cha' song. This is when my BF commented that Asha B is the Indian Cher. The way she keeps on reinventing herself, been there for ever and ever, being a style icon and most importantly ;-),a favourite of all gay men, the same way Cher is in the western music world. I agree with him wholeheartedly. What do you guys have to say about it? Do we have any other personalities that are gay icons/favourites? r __ Do You Yahoo!? Tired of spam? Yahoo! Mail has the best spam protection around http://mail.yahoo.com Group Site: http://www.gaybombay.info == This message was posted to the gay_bombay Yahoo! Group. Responses to messages (by clicking Reply) will also be posted on the eGroup and sent to all members. If you'd like to respond privately to the author of any message then please compose and send a new email message to the author's email address. Post:- gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Subscribe:- [EMAIL PROTECTED] Digest Mode:- [EMAIL PROTECTED] No Mail Mode:- [EMAIL PROTECTED] Individual Mail Mode:- [EMAIL PROTECTED] Contact Us:- [EMAIL PROTECTED] Archives are at http://www.mail-archive.com/gay_bombay%40yahoogroups.com/maillist.html Classifieds for personal advertisements are back on www.gaybombay.info site. Please exercise restraint in the language of your personal advertisement. Yahoo! Groups Links * To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/gay_bombay/ * To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] * Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
g_b Fear Factor Hunks
Hi, I was surfing channels yesterday and came across SONY's Fear Factor Show. There were three guys - Model Chetan Hansraj, TV actor Rohit Roy, and one more guys from the TV shows. What surprised me was that these guys stripped down to their small swim suits and undies for nearly every stunt. Chetan to his print swim trunks for one, purple ones for another and his black boxer briefs for one. And the other TV chap also went the same way. Coudnt catch Rohit coz he got eliminated the first time around. Did anybody else catch it? SET Feat Factor has one more dedicated viewer now :o) __ Do You Yahoo!? Tired of spam? Yahoo! Mail has the best spam protection around http://mail.yahoo.com Group Site: http://www.gaybombay.info == This message was posted to the gay_bombay Yahoo! Group. Responses to messages (by clicking Reply) will also be posted on the eGroup and sent to all members. If you'd like to respond privately to the author of any message then please compose and send a new email message to the author's email address. Post:- gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Subscribe:- [EMAIL PROTECTED] Digest Mode:- [EMAIL PROTECTED] No Mail Mode:- [EMAIL PROTECTED] Individual Mail Mode:- [EMAIL PROTECTED] Contact Us:- [EMAIL PROTECTED] Archives are at http://www.mail-archive.com/gay_bombay%40yahoogroups.com/maillist.html Classifieds for personal advertisements are back on www.gaybombay.info site. Please exercise restraint in the language of your personal advertisement. Yahoo! Groups Links * To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/gay_bombay/ * To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] * Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
Re: g_b Hate mail
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