Re: g_b A strange plea for help
ABhayjee Namashkar She wants to meet guys who are gay, but have similar pressures on them to settle down with a girl. This way she can be helped...and someone from the male gay community can also breathe easy This was mentioned hence I wrote that. However everyone is in a unique situation and everyones circumstances are different. There never is a standard solution to every problem. I cant know where your shoes are pinching you so I cant judge you or say that you are wrong. Appologies if I sounded like that. However finding a guy who would make no demands on her, I felt, would be like brushing the issue under the carpet. Hence I suggested to meet the issue head on rather than ignoring it. There are asexual people but there is a difference between frigid and asexual if I am not mistaken. Its better to clear the mind and be sure of what steps one has to take. Wihtout Wax little prince-Sanjay N Lulla From: Tintin Mumbai India tintin197...@gmail.com To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Sent: Tue, February 22, 2011 10:40:07 AM Subject: Re: g_b A strange plea for help Sanjay, I think it is a one sided opinion. First of all, as much I could read the original mail, there was no statement, that she want to marry some Pressurized gay. It is like if a Gay TOO wants to marry a lesbian, what is big deal? And obviously, both should spend time in courtship like other str8 (in India) and gay and lesbian couple (abroad) spend before their final I DO. So, its like, Jab Miyaan Beewi Raazi, to Kya Kare Quazi... I also think, that every topic, every matter should be thought upon with a separate, neutral, Start from Zero thinking. Definitely, it is possible that you have made your opinion with some live stories, you have had seen around. But, I strongly believe that if you can not break, try to bend it. Try to turn the situations in your favor. A fight is not always recommended. Fight is always last option. Again, like you.. it is JUST MY personal opinion, people may not agree with me. Abhay On Mon, Feb 21, 2011 at 3:37 PM, Sanjay Lulla sanjay_lulla2...@yahoo.com wrote: Kris I would suggest that she speak to a counselor. This could be because of some psychological reasons or some kind of trauma or some unfortunate event in very early childhood. Most of the cases are because of the above reasons. A psychiatrist would be able to help this girl more. Marriage to a pressurized gay would not be the right solution. Thanks little prince-Sanjay N Lulla From: Kris Bass kris.b...@gmail.com To: gaybom...@yahoogroups.com; Gay Underscore gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com; LGBT-India Forum lgbt-in...@yahoogroups.com; queerker...@yahoogroups.com Sent: Sat, February 19, 2011 12:15:57 PM Subject: g_b A strange plea for help Hi everyone, I got this message from a friend of mine. It's about a friend (woman) of his who's finding it hard to come to term with her sexuality and sexual orientation. I'm pasting the contents of the message below. i know a very nice, homely, cool girl who is also highly qualified. She likes rock and roll and is a vocalist. she's 24. she's frigid...unable to have sex. family pressure to get married is mounting to a point where she might just decide to end it all. i think you understand better what a fragile situation this is...this is worse than rape. She wants to meet guys who are gay, but have similar pressures on them to settle down with a girl. This way she can be helped...and someone from the male gay community can also breathe easy. I'm all for the coming out of the closet thing. But Kris i also know that there must be people out there who are struggling with gaining acceptance towards their sexuality. Maybe we can help 2 people... i have seen her state, man. imagine what she'll have to go through...it bought tears to my eyes...she is a very caring and loving person... I don't know what to tell my friend. Should I talk to her? Should I suggest that she speaks to some counsellor? Maybe someone at Humsafar trust? Do you think she can find someone gay who'll agree to forge a 'marriage' with her? Please advice! Kris -- http://engayginglife.blogspot.com Remember that if men were not meant to be sucked, their bodies wouldn't have come with a nozzle! - A Gay -- --- Reuse Paper by Both Sided Printing
Re: g_b A strange plea for help
Sanjay, I think it is a one sided opinion. First of all, as much I could read the original mail, there was no statement, that she want to marry some Pressurized gay. It is like if a Gay TOO wants to marry a lesbian, what is big deal? And obviously, both should spend time in courtship like other str8 (in India) and gay and lesbian couple (abroad) spend before their final I DO. So, its like, Jab Miyaan Beewi Raazi, to Kya Kare Quazi... I also think, that every topic, every matter should be thought upon with a separate, neutral, Start from Zero thinking. Definitely, it is possible that you have made your opinion with some live stories, you have had seen around. But, I strongly believe that if you can not break, try to bend it. Try to turn the situations in your favor. A fight is not always recommended. Fight is always last option. Again, like you.. it is JUST MY personal opinion, people may not agree with me. Abhay On Mon, Feb 21, 2011 at 3:37 PM, Sanjay Lulla sanjay_lulla2...@yahoo.comwrote: Kris I would suggest that she speak to a counselor. This could be because of some psychological reasons or some kind of trauma or some unfortunate event in very early childhood. Most of the cases are because of the above reasons. A psychiatrist would be able to help this girl more. Marriage to a pressurized gay would not be the right solution. Thanks little prince-Sanjay N Lulla -- *From:* Kris Bass kris.b...@gmail.com *To:* gaybom...@yahoogroups.com; Gay Underscore gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com; LGBT-India Forum lgbt-in...@yahoogroups.com; queerker...@yahoogroups.com *Sent:* Sat, February 19, 2011 12:15:57 PM *Subject:* g_b A strange plea for help Hi everyone, I got this message from a friend of mine. It's about a friend (woman) of his who's finding it hard to come to term with her sexuality and sexual orientation. I'm pasting the contents of the message below. *i know a very nice, homely, cool girl who is also highly qualified. She likes rock and roll and is a vocalist. she's 24. she's frigid...unable to have sex. family pressure to get married is mounting to a point where she might just decide to end it all. i think you understand better what a fragile situation this is...this is worse than rape. She wants to meet guys who are gay, but have similar pressures on them to settle down with a girl. This way she can be helped...and someone from the male gay community can also breathe easy. I'm all for the coming out of the closet thing. But Kris i also know that there must be people out there who are struggling with gaining acceptance towards their sexuality. Maybe we can help 2 people... i have seen her state, man. imagine what she'll have to go through...it bought tears to my eyes...she is a very caring and loving person... * I don't know what to tell my friend. Should I talk to her? Should I suggest that she speaks to some counsellor? Maybe someone at Humsafar trust? Do you think she can find someone gay who'll agree to forge a 'marriage' with her? Please advice! Kris -- http://engayginglife.blogspot.com Remember that if men were not meant to be sucked, their bodies wouldn't have come with a nozzle! - A Gay -- --- Reuse Paper by Both Sided Printing
Re: g_b A strange plea for help
Kris I would suggest that she speak to a counselor. This could be because of some psychological reasons or some kind of trauma or some unfortunate event in very early childhood. Most of the cases are because of the above reasons. A psychiatrist would be able to help this girl more. Marriage to a pressurized gay would not be the right solution. Thanks little prince-Sanjay N Lulla From: Kris Bass kris.b...@gmail.com To: gaybom...@yahoogroups.com; Gay Underscore gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com; LGBT-India Forum lgbt-in...@yahoogroups.com; queerker...@yahoogroups.com Sent: Sat, February 19, 2011 12:15:57 PM Subject: g_b A strange plea for help Hi everyone, I got this message from a friend of mine. It's about a friend (woman) of his who's finding it hard to come to term with her sexuality and sexual orientation. I'm pasting the contents of the message below. i know a very nice, homely, cool girl who is also highly qualified. She likes rock and roll and is a vocalist. she's 24. she's frigid...unable to have sex. family pressure to get married is mounting to a point where she might just decide to end it all. i think you understand better what a fragile situation this is...this is worse than rape. She wants to meet guys who are gay, but have similar pressures on them to settle down with a girl. This way she can be helped...and someone from the male gay community can also breathe easy. I'm all for the coming out of the closet thing. But Kris i also know that there must be people out there who are struggling with gaining acceptance towards their sexuality. Maybe we can help 2 people... i have seen her state, man. imagine what she'll have to go through...it bought tears to my eyes...she is a very caring and loving person... I don't know what to tell my friend. Should I talk to her? Should I suggest that she speaks to some counsellor? Maybe someone at Humsafar trust? Do you think she can find someone gay who'll agree to forge a 'marriage' with her? Please advice! Kris -- http://engayginglife.blogspot.com Remember that if men were not meant to be sucked, their bodies wouldn't have come with a nozzle! - A Gay
g_b A strange plea for help
Hi everyone, I got this message from a friend of mine. It's about a friend (woman) of his who's finding it hard to come to term with her sexuality and sexual orientation. I'm pasting the contents of the message below. *i know a very nice, homely, cool girl who is also highly qualified. She likes rock and roll and is a vocalist. she's 24. she's frigid...unable to have sex. family pressure to get married is mounting to a point where she might just decide to end it all. i think you understand better what a fragile situation this is...this is worse than rape. She wants to meet guys who are gay, but have similar pressures on them to settle down with a girl. This way she can be helped...and someone from the male gay community can also breathe easy. I'm all for the coming out of the closet thing. But Kris i also know that there must be people out there who are struggling with gaining acceptance towards their sexuality. Maybe we can help 2 people... i have seen her state, man. imagine what she'll have to go through...it bought tears to my eyes...she is a very caring and loving person... * I don't know what to tell my friend. Should I talk to her? Should I suggest that she speaks to some counsellor? Maybe someone at Humsafar trust? Do you think she can find someone gay who'll agree to forge a 'marriage' with her? Please advice! Kris -- http://engayginglife.blogspot.com Remember that if men were not meant to be sucked, their bodies wouldn't have come with a nozzle! - A Gay
