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Ada sapa2 yang ada pengalaman jawab soalan yang berbunyi macam
dibawah (dari budak pompuan darjah 5- dah nak baligh kot budak ni):
"Mak, macam mana orang buat anak? Kawan kata dia orang sex?
Sex tu apa mak? Dia orang gitu-gitu ya mak?"
Buat sementara waktu, mak dia tangguh jawapan.
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bagitau kalau ada jawapan lain.
> Assalamualaikum
I don't know how most muslims educate their kids these days. In the
past, at least with my husbands family the girl goes to her husband
with
a short talk from her mother on the day of her wedding. My sister in
laws then discussed basics as each of the younger girls got married in
the weeks from the nikaa to the wedding party. My daughter knows she
can ask any question she likes and I will answer her questions until
she is satisfied or if she wants to know things I feel she is too young
to handle then I just explain that I will discuss this with you at a
later date when I feel you are old enough to understand. She knows
that if I tell her this she REALLY does not want to know any more about
it. Some children are more curious than others and even my situation
with my daughter might change as she gets farther into the
unpredictable time of puberty. Here the school is very good about
lending information to parents that wish to have support while they
discuss private issues like this with their children and the good thing
about that is that the parent has complete control of the content.
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> Assalamualaikum,
>
> Ada sapa2 yang ada pengalaman jawab soalan yang berbunyi macam
> dibawah (dari budak pompuan darjah 5- dah nak baligh kot budak ni):
>
> "Mak, macam mana orang buat anak? Kawan kata dia orang sex?
> Sex tu apa mak? Dia orang gitu-gitu ya mak?"
>
> Buat sementara waktu, mak dia tangguh jawapan.
>
> Sekian.
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> Assalamualaikum,
>
> Ada sapa2 yang ada pengalaman jawab soalan yang
> berbunyi macam
> dibawah (dari budak pompuan darjah 5- dah nak baligh
> kot budak ni):
>
> "Mak, macam mana orang buat anak? Kawan kata dia
> orang sex?
> Sex tu apa mak? Dia orang gitu-gitu ya mak?"
>
> Buat sementara waktu, mak dia tangguh jawapan.
>
> Sekian.
>
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Saya memandang persoalan yang dikemukakan oleh sdr Quiet sebagai satu
perkara yang serius. Sebab tak berilmulah maka anak-anak kecil yang
tak berdosa dirogol oleh orang yang dikenali.
Berikut adalah petikan e-mail dari sahabiah dari group muslimah
dari Saira
Dear Sister, as an educator, I would say that an 11 year old girl needs
information about her changing body, particularly about menstruation.
A
straight-forward answer to her questions is in order. Please don't
make
her feel guilty about wanting to know, it is normal. If your daughter
is raised in Islam, then she will know that sex outside of marriage is
forbidden. Just make it a practical biology lesson with the facts.
(If
she is like 99% of other pre-teen girls, her reaction to your
information is going to be "eeew---yuck!!") But every child, male
or female, should know what are the normal functions of his or her own
body. Gently remind her that sex is something private, and not to
casually gossip about, or something that is engaged in outside of
marriage. Allah expects us to be chaste, not ignorant.
Love,
Saira
dari ronayne
I think what's forbidden is talking to anyone about the private
sexual relations between you and your husband. This isn't the same
as giving your children general information about sex. In fact, they
need to know certain things before they reach puberty - like how to
recognize it, what they'll be held accountable for then, how to make
ghusl and when it's required, menstruation, etc.
There are some articles giving an Islamic perspective on sex
education at http://www.soundvision.com/education/sex/12tips.shtml.
Umm Abdullah
dari linda
I don't know how most muslims educate their kids these days. In the
past, at least with my husbands family the girl goes to her husband
with
a short talk from her mother on the day of her wedding. My sister in
laws then discussed basics as each of the younger girls got married in
the weeks from the nikaa to the wedding party. My daughter knows she
can ask any question she likes and I will answer her questions until
she is satisfied or if she wants to know things I feel she is too young
to handle then I just explain that I will discuss this with you at a
later date when I feel you are old enough to understand. She knows
that if I tell her this she REALLY does not want to know any more about
it. Some children are more curious than others and even my situation
with my daughter might change as she gets farther into the
unpredictable time of puberty. Here the school is very good about
lending information to parents that wish to have support while they
discuss private issues like this with their children and the good
thing about that is that the parent has complete control of the
content.
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> sdra sdri , saya harap kita sama-samalah gunakan ruang
> ini dengan perbincangan yang boleh membawa faedah
> bersama
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> ~~~
> > Assalamualaikum,
> >
> > Ada sapa2 yang ada pengalaman jawab soalan yang
> > berbunyi macam
> > dibawah (dari budak pompuan darjah 5- dah nak baligh
> > kot budak ni):
> >
> > "Mak, macam mana orang buat anak? Kawan kata dia
> > orang sex?
> > Sex tu apa mak? Dia orang gitu-gitu ya mak?"
> >
> > Buat sementara waktu, mak dia tangguh jawapan.
> >
> > Sekian.
> >
> >
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Assalamualaikum,
Terima kasih kepada yg telah memberi response positif dan dapat
"read between the lines" kepada persoalan yg dikemukakan. Mungkin
orang yang belum ada anak lihatnya sebagai persoalan remeh.
Kalau kita lihat, orang2 barat cukup berdisiplin ketika berkomunikasi
dengan anak2 mereka. Kita orang timur pula kebanyakannya, akan
guna kuasa veto...terutama kalau dikemukakan soalan seperti yang
budak kecik tu tanya. Itupasal kalau kita tengok budak2 orang barat
bercakap, kita jadi kagum akan kepetahan dan kematangan mereka.
Mereka begitu yakin untuk berkomunikasi. Budak2 kita, bahasa sendiri
pun berapa ramai yang gagal menguasainya. Ini diburuk kan lagi dengan
perkembangan teknologi semasa seperti TV, computer, video game,
dsbnya yang mengurangkan kemahiran berinteraksi. Dalam sebuah buku,
"The Endangered Minds" ada menyentuh persoalan diatas - oleh sebab
teman pun belum khatam, tak boleh ulas panjang.
Kita patut improve cara berkomunikasi dengan anak2 dalam apa juga
topik. Guna kuasa veto dan mengelak, rasanya bukan satu penyelesaian.
Rasulullah pun bukan main mesra dengan budak2 kecik - sudah tentu
Baginda berkomunikasi dengan mereka dengan cara yang ideal.
Ungkapan2 seperti, "Kau budak kecik apa tau, pi main jauh2.." atau
"sapa ajar kau bebenda ni, aku lempang kang.." rasanya patut diubah-
suai. Satu lagi, orang2 kita gemar sangat guna ungkapan "soalan
bodoh". Teman rasa, sekirannya seseorang itu berfikir secara
kreatif, tidak ada "soalan bodoh". Teori "graviti" pun lahir dari
satu soalan yang begitu simple ("soalan bodoh"?) -" apasal lak apple
ni jatuh atas kepala aku?"
Sekian
> Assalamualaikum wbt,
>
> Saya juga setuju bahawa persoalan yang diketengahkan oleh sdr. Quiet
> merupakan satu persoalan yang serius yang telah, sedang, dan akan kita lalui
> sebagai ibu bapa. Saya & orangrumah saya sendiri sering terpikir macammana
> nak jawab persoalan sedemikian & menerangkan kpd anak-anak perempuan kami.
> Yang sulong dah masuk 10 tahun... Boleh berpeluh juga dahi...!
>
> Dan jawapan yang paling popular ialah selalunya mak bapak mengelak daripada
> menjawab...
>
> Wassalam.
>
> -Original Message-
> From: Pabiyen Sitok [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]]
> Sent: Monday, March 05, 2001 9:01 AM
> To: bahsengoi priwit; En Quiet
> Cc: [EMAIL PROTECTED]
> Subject: Re: H-Net* Soalan dari budak kecik...
>
> ~~~
> Saya memandang persoalan yang dikemukakan oleh sdr Quiet sebagai satu
> perkara yang serius. Sebab tak berilmulah maka anak-anak kecil yang
> tak berdosa dirogol oleh orang yang dikenali.
>
> Berikut adalah petikan e-mail dari sahabiah dari group muslimah
>
> dari Saira
>
> Dear Sister, as an educator, I would say that an 11 year old girl needs
> information about her changing body, particularly about menstruation.
> A straight-forward answer to her questions is in order. Please don't
> make her feel guilty about wanting to know, it is normal. If your daughter
> is raised in Islam, then she will know that sex outside of marriage is
> forbidden. Just make it a practical biology lesson with the facts.
> (If she is like 99% of other pre-teen girls, her reaction to your
> information is going to be "eeew---yuck!!") But every child, male
> or female, should know what are the normal functions of his or her own
> body. Gently remind her that sex is something private, and not to
> casually gossip about, or something that is engaged in outside of
> marriage. Allah expects us to be chaste, not ignorant.
>
> Love,
> Saira
>
> dari ronayne
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