[QUAD-L] Back Brace

[greg]

Any of you who's spine has started to cure ever get a custom back brace? Ever 
pressure issues?
I'm thinking just a hard shell kind, not the over the shoulder, neck bar, kind.
Thanks, Greg

FW: [QUAD-L] Intimacy

[William Willis]

I have been married since 1990, have two kids, and retired last year after 31 
years of teaching high school English. I am c5 from a diving accident in 1971 
at age 19. Until about 6 or 7 years ago my sex drive was relatively normal (for 
a quad). Since then it seems like my libido has just died. I mean desire, 
virility, ability -- the whole package has just gone down the drain. Needless 
to say it is very depressing and has just been a disaster for my beloved wife. 
She is more my nurse than my wife. I don't know if it is my medicine, my age,my 
decreasing vitality, or my mental state. I love my wife dearly, and the whole 
situation has just about thrown me down a black hole. Anyone else had this 
experience?

Date: Thu, 24 Nov 2011 16:57:59 -0500
To: quad-list@eskimo.com
From: d...@unh.edu
Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] Intimacy





great story Dave!  I wish I had one like it but alas no such
luck.  The closest I ever came to a relationship was the occasional
hand job and a few girls that were not ashamed to show their naked
bodies.  From talking to my quad friends, that's about all we ever
got.  To me this is very sad but we were never in the right place at
the right time.


I once hired a stripper and I was amazed at her comfort level with
me.  Strangely, I was not aroused by her performance but rather had
an admiration of her genuine sincerity.  The fact that she was so
comfortable being alone with me gave me a feeling of being -- finally --
an adult.  An adult male something I really didn't have until that
point.  After she left, I felt liberated.  I know it might
sound strange but from that point on I had a great deal more confidence
and self assurance.Maybe someday before I die I will have an experience
akin to yours Dave.




At 01:26 PM 11/24/2011, hellodav...@aol.com said something that elicited
my response:

 

I was
injured at 19 - c3 incomplete, and have nearly normal touch sensations -
hot and cold not so much.   I was in a rehab ward with 6 other
sci's all under 21 - 1 of whom had a sister in nursing school who would
visit often.  we told her to bring 6 friends next time and she
did.  they made our 6 month rehab much more bearable. 
Also. my p.t. was a 28 year old female who was very nice to all of us
guys.  1 time she took me and 1 other (para) and his date to the
drive in.  Afterwards, she suggested we all spend the night at her
trailer.  Rick took the couch and she dragged me down the hall and
into her bed. (I was much lighter then.)  We spent the night
determining just what worked and how well it did.  by morning she
said, "I'm taking you back - you're killing me."  it was
wonderful to know all was not 'broken'.  Since then - 1967 - I got
married to a h.s. sweetheart, had 3 kids the old fashioned way, taught
school, and had a 25 year career with Honeywell as a programmer. 
now my job is in India and I fool around on the PC all day trying to
remember which happy hour is on which day, and getting a bigger quad
belly every year.   

I wish everyone here a very blessed Thanks Giving and happy holidays with
good friends and family.

=

What some call health, if purchased by perpetual
anxiety about diet, isn't much better than tedious
disease.
 George Dennison
Prentice


Daveoconnell.com

 

=

 

In a message dated 11/21/2011 1:28:38 P.M. US Mountain Standard Time,
donpric...@yahoo.com writes:



I raised the sex question
because when we discussed turning and positioning in bed the thought
occurred to me that everyone does things differently, and we can learn so
much from each other.  I assume the same holds true for intimacy,
and I know we're always open to information and suggestions. 
:)


 


 My interest in the subject is part personal curiousity and part
professional interest as I do quite a bit of mentoring in my job.


 


I have a million questions, but the first, and most basic, are: 
how has SCI affected your intimate relationships?  Do you have a sex
life?  Do you [and your partner] find it fulfilling?  How does
your current lovelife compare with before your injury?


 


[Keep in mind that your replies may be searchable through Google in
the future, so don't write anything you'd be embarrassed to have
searched.]


 


I will answer my own questions to get the ball rolling:  


 


I was injured at age 18 and had not been sexually active before my
injury.  I realized quickly after my injury [c5-6 complete] that I
could get a physiogenic erection [from touch] but not a psychogenic
erection [from thought.]  I had very reduced sensation in that area
but the sensation I have is very nice.  It took me many years
post-injury to trust someone enough to get to the point of intimacy, but
during college one of my female caregivers slipped into bed with me one
night, removed my catheter and changed my life.  I never guessed
that with my reduced sensation I could climax, but I did.  Not only
that, but even with her doing a

Re: [QUAD-L] Intimacy

[Dan]

great story Dave!  I wish I had one like it but alas no such 
luck.  The closest I ever came to a relationship was the occasional 
hand job and a few girls that were not ashamed to show their naked 
bodies.  From talking to my quad friends, that's about all we ever 
got.  To me this is very sad but we were never in the right place at 
the right time.


I once hired a stripper and I was amazed at her comfort level with 
me.  Strangely, I was not aroused by her performance but rather had 
an admiration of her genuine sincerity.  The fact that she was so 
comfortable being alone with me gave me a feeling of being -- finally 
-- an adult.  An adult male something I really didn't have until that 
point.  After she left, I felt liberated.  I know it might sound 
strange but from that point on I had a great deal more confidence and 
self assurance.Maybe someday before I die I will have an experience 
akin to yours Dave.



At 01:26 PM 11/24/2011, hellodav...@aol.com said something that 
elicited my response:


I was injured at 19 - c3 incomplete, and have nearly normal touch 
sensations - hot and cold not so much.   I was in a rehab ward with 
6 other sci's all under 21 - 1 of whom had a sister in nursing 
school who would visit often.  we told her to bring 6 friends next 
time and she did.  they made our 6 month rehab much more 
bearable.  Also. my p.t. was a 28 year old female who was very 
nice to all of us guys.  1 time she took me and 1 other (para) and 
his date to the drive in.  Afterwards, she suggested we all spend 
the night at her trailer.  Rick took the couch and she dragged me 
down the hall and into her bed. (I was much lighter then.)  We spent 
the night determining just what worked and how well it did.  by 
morning she said, "I'm taking you back - you're killing me."  it was 
wonderful to know all was not 'broken'.  Since then - 1967 - I got 
married to a h.s. sweetheart, had 3 kids the old fashioned way, 
taught school, and had a 25 year career with Honeywell as a 
programmer.  now my job is in India and I fool around on the PC all 
day trying to remember which happy hour is on which day, and getting 
a bigger quad belly every year.
I wish everyone here a very blessed Thanks Giving and happy holidays 
with good friends and family.

=
What some call health, if purchased by perpetual anxiety about diet, 
isn't much better than tedious 
disease. 
George Dennison Prentice

Daveoconnell.com

=

In a message dated 11/21/2011 1:28:38 P.M. US Mountain Standard 
Time, donpric...@yahoo.com writes:
I raised the sex question because when we discussed turning and 
positioning in bed the thought occurred to me that everyone does 
things differently, and we can learn so much from each other.  I 
assume the same holds true for intimacy, and I know we're always 
open to information and suggestions.  :)


 My interest in the subject is part personal curiousity and part 
professional interest as I do quite a bit of mentoring in my job.


I have a million questions, but the first, and most basic, are:  how 
has SCI affected your intimate relationships?  Do you have a sex 
life?  Do you [and your partner] find it fulfilling?  How does your 
current lovelife compare with before your injury?


[Keep in mind that your replies may be searchable through Google in 
the future, so don't write anything you'd be embarrassed to have searched.]


I will answer my own questions to get the ball rolling:

I was injured at age 18 and had not been sexually active before my 
injury.  I realized quickly after my injury [c5-6 complete] that I 
could get a physiogenic erection [from touch] but not a psychogenic 
erection [from thought.]  I had very reduced sensation in that area 
but the sensation I have is very nice.  It took me many years 
post-injury to trust someone enough to get to the point of intimacy, 
but during college one of my female caregivers slipped into bed with 
me one night, removed my catheter and changed my life.  I never 
guessed that with my reduced sensation I could climax, but I 
did.  Not only that, but even with her doing all the 'work' I found 
that I could please my partner.  From that moment on I felt I had 
regained a certain manliness that I thought was gone forever.


I can't compare sex before and after SCI, but over the years I can 
say I've had very fulfilling intimate relationships.


Don.





Honest criticism is hard to take, particularly from a relative, a 
friend, an acquaintance or a stranger.

- Franklin Jones  

Re: [QUAD-L] Intimacy

[hellodaveoc]

I was injured at 19 - c3 incomplete, and have nearly normal touch  sensatio
ns - hot and cold not so much.   I was in a rehab ward with 6  other sci's 
all under 21 - 1 of whom had a sister in nursing school who would  visit 
often.  we told her to bring 6 friends next time and she did.   they made our 6 
month rehab much more bearable.  Also. my p.t. was a 28  year old female 
who was very nice to all of us guys.  1 time she took me  and 1 other 
(para) and his date to the drive in.  Afterwards, she suggested  we all spend 
the 
night at her trailer.  Rick took the couch and she dragged  me down the 
hall and into her bed. (I was much lighter then.)  We spent the  night 
determining just what worked and how well it did.  by morning she  said, "I'm 
taking 
you back - you're killing me."  it was wonderful to know  all was not 
'broken'.  Since then - 1967 - I got married to a h.s.  sweetheart, had 3 kids 
the old fashioned way, taught school, and had a 25 year  career with Honeywell 
as a programmer.  now my job is in India and I fool  around on the PC all 
day trying to remember which happy hour is on which day,  and getting a 
bigger quad belly every year.   
I wish everyone here a very blessed Thanks Giving and happy holidays with  
good friends and family.
=
 
What some  call health, if purchased by perpetual anxiety about diet, isn't 
much better  than tedious disease.  
(http://www.quotationspage.com/quotes/George_Dennison_Prentice/) 

George Dennison Prentice
_Daveoconnell.com_ (http://daveoconnell.com/)  

=


In a message dated 11/21/2011 1:28:38 P.M. US Mountain Standard Time,  
donpric...@yahoo.com writes:

 
I raised  the sex question because when we discussed turning and 
positioning in bed the  thought occurred to me that everyone does things 
differently, 
and we can learn  so much from each other.  I assume the same holds true for 
intimacy, and  I know we're always open to information and suggestions.  :)
 
 My  interest in the subject is part personal curiousity and part 
professional  interest as I do quite a bit of mentoring in my job.
 
I have a  million questions, but the first, and most basic, are:  how has 
SCI  affected your intimate relationships?  Do you have a sex life?  Do  you 
[and your partner] find it fulfilling?  How does your current  lovelife 
compare with before your injury?
 
[Keep  in mind that your replies may be searchable through Google in the 
future, so  don't write anything you'd be embarrassed to have searched.]
 
I will  answer my own questions to get the ball rolling:  
 
I was  injured at age 18 and had not been sexually active before my injury. 
 I  realized quickly after my injury [c5-6 complete] that I could get a  
physiogenic erection [from touch] but not a psychogenic erection [from  
thought.]  I had very reduced sensation in that area but the sensation I  have 
is 
very nice.  It took me many years post-injury to trust someone  enough to 
get to the point of intimacy, but during college one of my female  caregivers 
slipped into bed with me one night, removed my catheter and changed  my 
life.  I never guessed that with my reduced sensation I could climax,  but I 
did.  Not only that, but even with her doing all the 'work' I  found that I 
could please my partner.  From that moment on I felt I had  regained a certain 
manliness that I thought was gone forever.
 
I can't compare sex before and after SCI, but over  the years I can say 
I've had very fulfilling intimate relationships.   

Don.  

Re: [QUAD-L] Happy Thanksgiving!

[shellbell5705]

Thanks!!!

Traveling home to see family,  hope everyone has a great day!!


Shelly

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-Original Message-
From: Tim Syfert 
Date: Wed, 23 Nov 2011 20:18:11 
To: 
Subject: [QUAD-L] Happy Thanksgiving!

May you all have a wonderful Thanksgiving Day!

Tim

[QUAD-L] HAPPY THANKSGIVING!!

[Matt Wermer]

. A WISHING HAPPY THANKSGIVING TO ALL *

Matt Wermer

 

. Cool quad story on the today show this morning.

 

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Re: [QUAD-L] Happy Thanksgiving!

[Regina Fuller]

Happy Thanksgiving to everyone. Hope its a good one.
Gina


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Re: [QUAD-L] Happy Thanksgiving!

[wheelchair]

Thank You Tim.  May you and all others have just enough this family  
holiday!
Best Wishes
 
 
In a message dated 11/23/2011 10:18:20 P.M. Central Standard Time,  
thequadl...@yahoo.com writes:

May you all have a wonderful Thanksgiving  Day!

Tim