Re: [QUAD-L] Dawn, the quad girl upstairs from me
Tell Dawn to find her own Pete. You and your husband enable this woman. On Apr 28, 2014, at 8:15 PM, Gmail wrote: BINGO, BINGS, BINGO. She waste's so much of her SSI check on BINGO week after week, month after month, year after year! Dawn has a 2002 Mimi van with 130,000K on it. I have a 2001 with about 35,000K on it. Pete's going up tonight to try and fix her bed, and if he can't I'm sure she is going to expect him to put her to bed when SHE wants to ... NOT when it's convenient for him. Bobbie Smile Everyday On Apr 28, 2014, at 7:36 PM, Patricia Brown-Tulee pl...@yahoo.com wrote: does she go out to bars or? Patricia L. B pl...@yahoo.com while adding years to your life, add life to your years On Sunday, April 27, 2014 6:24 PM, Gmail bobbiehumphre...@gmail.com wrote: I've talked it you all about Dawn and her troubles with her van? Well, now she is having troubles with her bed. She has a Craftmatic, like I HAD. It isn't working right. Actually it is broken in the high position. So she asked my Pete if he would help her into bed, she can get her self undressed. Actually, she can get herself into bed all the time, but not right now. She asked Pete to come up at 3:00am! Pete said the best I can do is 2:00am she rolled her eyes and said ok, 2:00am is fine. She has NO IDEA HOW LUCKY SHE IS.Bobbie Smile Everyday
Re: [QUAD-L] Dawn, the quad girl upstairs from me
Yes, we do help her quite a bit but she is completely on her own. Her family has been here, in the past 15 years, maybe six times. But she does not make it easy. There were times when Pete helped her with something that was already half broken and when it broke she would make Pete pay for it to replace it. This makes Pete extremely reluctant, understandably, to help her with anything this is why I'm surprised he is helping her with the bed. When her van was not working and she needed a ride I did not give her one. Because I knew in a blink of an eye she would sue me in a heartbeat without hesitation. It's just the way she is. Bobbie Smile Everyday On Apr 29, 2014, at 12:32 PM, Elizabeth Treston missl...@optonline.net wrote: Tell Dawn to find her own Pete. You and your husband enable this woman. On Apr 28, 2014, at 8:15 PM, Gmail wrote: BINGO, BINGS, BINGO. She waste's so much of her SSI check on BINGO week after week, month after month, year after year! Dawn has a 2002 Mimi van with 130,000K on it. I have a 2001 with about 35,000K on it. Pete's going up tonight to try and fix her bed, and if he can't I'm sure she is going to expect him to put her to bed when SHE wants to ... NOT when it's convenient for him. Bobbie Smile Everyday On Apr 28, 2014, at 7:36 PM, Patricia Brown-Tulee pl...@yahoo.com wrote: does she go out to bars or? Patricia L. B pl...@yahoo.com while adding years to your life, add life to your years On Sunday, April 27, 2014 6:24 PM, Gmail bobbiehumphre...@gmail.com wrote: I've talked it you all about Dawn and her troubles with her van? Well, now she is having troubles with her bed. She has a Craftmatic, like I HAD. It isn't working right. Actually it is broken in the high position. So she asked my Pete if he would help her into bed, she can get her self undressed. Actually, she can get herself into bed all the time, but not right now. She asked Pete to come up at 3:00am! Pete said the best I can do is 2:00am she rolled her eyes and said ok, 2:00am is fine. She has NO IDEA HOW LUCKY SHE IS.Bobbie Smile Everyday
Re: [QUAD-L] Dawn, the quad girl upstairs from me
We have given her the number of the company for the bed but she doesn't want to call because it cost $200 for them to walk in the door. D.A.W.N's birthday was April 15 she told me that her friends were having a birthday party for her but she didn't feel good so she didn't go. I asked her why didn't her friends come to her and she said They are all users, they just use me for my van.I have NEVER, EVER seen her with one single friend in the 20 years I've known her.Bobbie Smile Everyday On Apr 28, 2014, at 11:49 PM, Don Smith scamper2...@att.net wrote: If he can't fix it, he needs to tell her how to get it fixed and that if she wants his help getting in bed, bingo is going to have to take a break for awhile and she should respect and be thankful for his help, or she may have no one. Where are her friends, maybe somebody from bingo can help her. From: Gmail bobbiehumphre...@gmail.com To: Patricia Brown-Tulee pl...@yahoo.com Cc: quad-list quad-list@eskimo.com Sent: Monday, April 28, 2014 5:15 PM Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] Dawn, the quad girl upstairs from me BINGO, BINGS, BINGO. She waste's so much of her SSI check on BINGO week after week, month after month, year after year! Dawn has a 2002 Mimi van with 130,000K on it. I have a 2001 with about 35,000K on it. Pete's going up tonight to try and fix her bed, and if he can't I'm sure she is going to expect him to put her to bed when SHE wants to ... NOT when it's convenient for him. Bobbie Smile Everyday On Apr 28, 2014, at 7:36 PM, Patricia Brown-Tulee pl...@yahoo.com wrote: does she go out to bars or? Patricia L. B pl...@yahoo.com while adding years to your life, add life to your years On Sunday, April 27, 2014 6:24 PM, Gmail bobbiehumphre...@gmail.com wrote: I've talked it you all about Dawn and her troubles with her van? Well, now she is having troubles with her bed. She has a Craftmatic, like I HAD. It isn't working right. Actually it is broken in the high position. So she asked my Pete if he would help her into bed, she can get her self undressed. Actually, she can get herself into bed all the time, but not right now. She asked Pete to come up at 3:00am! Pete said the best I can do is 2:00am she rolled her eyes and said ok, 2:00am is fine. She has NO IDEA HOW LUCKY SHE IS.Bobbie Smile Everyday
Re: [QUAD-L] Dawn, the quad girl upstairs from me
Sometimes she plays midnight bingo. But most of the times she is home on the computer playing games up till 4:00am or 5:00am Smile Everyday On Apr 28, 2014, at 2:29 PM, Don Smith scamper2...@att.net wrote: I would have told her 10pm and if she couldn't be home by then she would have to sleep in her chair. I'd never ask my caregivers to come and put me in bed at 3am, they have a life of their own, I have called them at that time on rear occasions when a chather has gone bad and needs fixen but thats the only time. What the heck is she doing out at that time of night anyway?\ Don in Calif. From: Gmail bobbiehumphre...@gmail.com To: quad-list quad-list@eskimo.com Sent: Sunday, April 27, 2014 6:24 PM Subject: [QUAD-L] Dawn, the quad girl upstairs from me I've talked it you all about Dawn and her troubles with her van? Well, now she is having troubles with her bed. She has a Craftmatic, like I HAD. It isn't working right. Actually it is broken in the high position. So she asked my Pete if he would help her into bed, she can get her self undressed. Actually, she can get herself into bed all the time, but not right now. She asked Pete to come up at 3:00am! Pete said the best I can do is 2:00am she rolled her eyes and said ok, 2:00am is fine. She has NO IDEA HOW LUCKY SHE IS.Bobbie Smile Everyday
Re: [QUAD-L] Dawn, the quad girl upstairs from me
Yes, and we both have a lot of compassion and empathy for her. I first got to know her when she was first in rehab, I was her Peer counselor. I followed her to her home to visit her and that's when I met her indescribable horrific BAD mother of hers. To get her out of the house and away from her mother I got her into a wheelchair accessible college that I went to. I even gave her my backup power wheelchair because you had to have one to go to this college. Pete and I packed her up and took her to college because her mother didn't want to have anything to do with her. And when she flunked out of college I got her into the apartment building where we now live. In order for her to get into the apartment so quickly her mother had to sign a letter stating that she was not allowed home. Her mother couldn't wait to sign the letter, so fast that she didn't even read it before signing. Her father lives in the next date is remarried and has younger children of his own, but does call her once a week. Bobbie Smile Everyday On Apr 29, 2014, at 3:57 PM, Patricia Brown-Tulee pl...@yahoo.com wrote: 20 yrs is a long time to know live by. Patricia L. B pl...@yahoo.com while adding years to your life, add life to your years On Tuesday, April 29, 2014 12:47 PM, Gmail bobbiehumphre...@gmail.com wrote: We have given her the number of the company for the bed but she doesn't want to call because it cost $200 for them to walk in the door. D.A.W.N's birthday was April 15 she told me that her friends were having a birthday party for her but she didn't feel good so she didn't go. I asked her why didn't her friends come to her and she said They are all users, they just use me for my van.I have NEVER, EVER seen her with one single friend in the 20 years I've known her.Bobbie Smile Everyday On Apr 28, 2014, at 11:49 PM, Don Smith scamper2...@att.net wrote: If he can't fix it, he needs to tell her how to get it fixed and that if she wants his help getting in bed, bingo is going to have to take a break for awhile and she should respect and be thankful for his help, or she may have no one. Where are her friends, maybe somebody from bingo can help her. From: Gmail bobbiehumphre...@gmail.com To: Patricia Brown-Tulee pl...@yahoo.com Cc: quad-list quad-list@eskimo.com Sent: Monday, April 28, 2014 5:15 PM Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] Dawn, the quad girl upstairs from me BINGO, BINGS, BINGO. She waste's so much of her SSI check on BINGO week after week, month after month, year after year! Dawn has a 2002 Mimi van with 130,000K on it. I have a 2001 with about 35,000K on it. Pete's going up tonight to try and fix her bed, and if he can't I'm sure she is going to expect him to put her to bed when SHE wants to ... NOT when it's convenient for him. Bobbie Smile Everyday On Apr 28, 2014, at 7:36 PM, Patricia Brown-Tulee pl...@yahoo.com wrote: does she go out to bars or? Patricia L. B pl...@yahoo.com while adding years to your life, add life to your years On Sunday, April 27, 2014 6:24 PM, Gmail bobbiehumphre...@gmail.com wrote: I've talked it you all about Dawn and her troubles with her van? Well, now she is having troubles with her bed. She has a Craftmatic, like I HAD. It isn't working right. Actually it is broken in the high position. So she asked my Pete if he would help her into bed, she can get her self undressed. Actually, she can get herself into bed all the time, but not right now. She asked Pete to come up at 3:00am! Pete said the best I can do is 2:00am she rolled her eyes and said ok, 2:00am is fine. She has NO IDEA HOW LUCKY SHE IS.Bobbie Smile Everyday
Re: [QUAD-L] Mouth stick sleeves
Lol Sent from my iPad On Apr 26, 2014, at 11:15 PM, Don Smith scamper2...@att.net wrote: I never thought about using the bed bag tubing, I only hope it was not prevusley used for the on the bag, that might take the fresh minty flavor away From: Quadius quad...@gmail.com To: Don Smith scamper2...@att.net Cc: quad-list@eskimo.com quad-list@eskimo.com Sent: Saturday, April 26, 2014 4:07 PM Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] Mouth stick sleeves Thanks for the advice. I have used latex extension to me for leg bags in the past, but I hadn't thought about ordering it online. Well, I decided to try using the tubing which comes with a bed bag and lo and behold it works pretty darn well. It's about as durable as the old mouth sleeves. I'll let you know how durable they are and whether they cause me any problems. Thanks again for all the advice. Quadius On Tue, Apr 22, 2014 at 12:06 AM, Don Smith scamper2...@att.net wrote: What about latex extension tubing for legbags, you can get them at most online med supply places, made by bard From: Quadius quad...@gmail.com To: quad-list@eskimo.com quad-list@eskimo.com Sent: Monday, April 21, 2014 6:57 PM Subject: [QUAD-L] Mouth stick sleeves I have been using mouthstick for years, but last year the chemical makeup of the sleeves changed and I'm not able to use the new ones for more than a week. And one time I was able to use latex tubing, but I'm not able to find it anymore. Does anyone have any ideas? Here is what the sleeves look like. http://www.4mdmedical.com/mouth-sticks-mouthstick-sleeves-fits-both-adult-and-pediatric-4-pkg.html#.U1XMX3y9KK0 Q
Re: [QUAD-L] Dawn, the quad girl upstairs from me
That's why even when you want to help someone you have to be careful. If they have no help at all they are likely to take you down with them like a drowning individual. I guess helping at a distance is the best way to handle it.The paraplegic I know that's in the nursing home stuck in bed 24 hrs a day could really suck me in. He needs everything and is going down quickly. He wouldn't listen to any of my advice that would have kept him home. He was worried about storage units, calling his 84 year old mother a whore, whining about his kids when he should of shut his mouth and took care of himself. When a ships sinking you throw everything off to save yourself and the boat. Ron From: Gmail bobbiehumphre...@gmail.com To: Patricia Brown-Tulee pl...@yahoo.com; quad-list@eskimo.com quad-list@eskimo.com Sent: Tuesday, April 29, 2014 3:11 PM Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] Dawn, the quad girl upstairs from me Yes, and we both have a lot of compassion and empathy for her. I first got to know her when she was first in rehab, I was her Peer counselor. I followed her to her home to visit her and that's when I met her indescribable horrific BAD mother of hers. To get her out of the house and away from her mother I got her into a wheelchair accessible college that I went to. I even gave her my backup power wheelchair because you had to have one to go to this college. Pete and I packed her up and took her to college because her mother didn't want to have anything to do with her. And when she flunked out of college I got her into the apartment building where we now live. In order for her to get into the apartment so quickly her mother had to sign a letter stating that she was not allowed home. Her mother couldn't wait to sign the letter, so fast that she didn't even read it before signing. Her father lives in the next date is remarried and has younger children of his own, but does call her once a week. Bobbie Smile Everyday On Apr 29, 2014, at 3:57 PM, Patricia Brown-Tulee pl...@yahoo.com wrote: 20 yrs is a long time to know live by. Patricia L. B pl...@yahoo.com while adding years to your life, add life to your years On Tuesday, April 29, 2014 12:47 PM, Gmail bobbiehumphre...@gmail.com wrote: We have given her the number of the company for the bed but she doesn't want to call because it cost $200 for them to walk in the door. D.A.W.N's birthday was April 15 she told me that her friends were having a birthday party for her but she didn't feel good so she didn't go. I asked her why didn't her friends come to her and she said They are all users, they just use me for my van.I have NEVER, EVER seen her with one single friend in the 20 years I've known her. Bobbie Smile Everyday On Apr 28, 2014, at 11:49 PM, Don Smith scamper2...@att.net wrote: If he can't fix it, he needs to tell her how to get it fixed and that if she wants his help getting in bed, bingo is going to have to take a break for awhile and she should respect and be thankful for his help, or she may have no one. Where are her friends, maybe somebody from bingo can help her. From: Gmail bobbiehumphre...@gmail.com To: Patricia Brown-Tulee pl...@yahoo.com Cc: quad-list quad-list@eskimo.com Sent: Monday, April 28, 2014 5:15 PM Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] Dawn, the quad girl upstairs from me BINGO, BINGS, BINGO. She waste's so much of her SSI check on BINGO week after week, month after month, year after year! Dawn has a 2002 Mimi van with 130,000K on it. I have a 2001 with about 35,000K on it. Pete's going up tonight to try and fix her bed, and if he can't I'm sure she is going to expect him to put her to bed when SHE wants to ... NOT when it's convenient for him. Bobbie Smile Everyday On Apr 28, 2014, at 7:36 PM, Patricia Brown-Tulee pl...@yahoo.com wrote: does she go out to bars or? Patricia L. B pl...@yahoo.com while adding years to your life, add life to your years On Sunday, April 27, 2014 6:24 PM, Gmail bobbiehumphre...@gmail.com wrote: I've talked it you all about Dawn and her troubles with her van? Well, now she is having troubles with her bed. She has a Craftmatic, like I HAD. It isn't working right. Actually it is broken in the high position. So she asked my Pete if he would help her into bed, she can get her self undressed. Actually, she can get herself into bed all the time, but not right now. She asked Pete to come up at 3:00am! Pete said the best I can do is 2:00am she rolled her eyes and said ok, 2:00am is fine. She has NO IDEA HOW LUCKY SHE IS. Bobbie Smile Everyday
Re: [QUAD-L] Dawn, the quad girl upstairs from me
Ron, those are easy words to say, but when you SEE the person eye to eye quite often ... it's difficult to ignore ALL the time. Bobbie Smile Everyday On Apr 29, 2014, at 8:21 PM, RONALD L PRACHT r.pra...@sbcglobal.net wrote: That's why even when you want to help someone you have to be careful. If they have no help at all they are likely to take you down with them like a drowning individual. I guess helping at a distance is the best way to handle it.The paraplegic I know that's in the nursing home stuck in bed 24 hrs a day could really suck me in. He needs everything and is going down quickly. He wouldn't listen to any of my advice that would have kept him home. He was worried about storage units, calling his 84 year old mother a whore, whining about his kids when he should of shut his mouth and took care of himself. When a ships sinking you throw everything off to save yourself and the boat. Ron From: Gmail bobbiehumphre...@gmail.com To: Patricia Brown-Tulee pl...@yahoo.com; quad-list@eskimo.com quad-list@eskimo.com Sent: Tuesday, April 29, 2014 3:11 PM Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] Dawn, the quad girl upstairs from me Yes, and we both have a lot of compassion and empathy for her. I first got to know her when she was first in rehab, I was her Peer counselor. I followed her to her home to visit her and that's when I met her indescribable horrific BAD mother of hers. To get her out of the house and away from her mother I got her into a wheelchair accessible college that I went to. I even gave her my backup power wheelchair because you had to have one to go to this college. Pete and I packed her up and took her to college because her mother didn't want to have anything to do with her. And when she flunked out of college I got her into the apartment building where we now live. In order for her to get into the apartment so quickly her mother had to sign a letter stating that she was not allowed home. Her mother couldn't wait to sign the letter, so fast that she didn't even read it before signing. Her father lives in the next date is remarried and has younger children of his own, but does call her once a week. Bobbie Smile Everyday On Apr 29, 2014, at 3:57 PM, Patricia Brown-Tulee pl...@yahoo.com wrote: 20 yrs is a long time to know live by. Patricia L. B pl...@yahoo.com while adding years to your life, add life to your years On Tuesday, April 29, 2014 12:47 PM, Gmail bobbiehumphre...@gmail.com wrote: We have given her the number of the company for the bed but she doesn't want to call because it cost $200 for them to walk in the door. D.A.W.N's birthday was April 15 she told me that her friends were having a birthday party for her but she didn't feel good so she didn't go. I asked her why didn't her friends come to her and she said They are all users, they just use me for my van.I have NEVER, EVER seen her with one single friend in the 20 years I've known her.Bobbie Smile Everyday On Apr 28, 2014, at 11:49 PM, Don Smith scamper2...@att.net wrote: If he can't fix it, he needs to tell her how to get it fixed and that if she wants his help getting in bed, bingo is going to have to take a break for awhile and she should respect and be thankful for his help, or she may have no one. Where are her friends, maybe somebody from bingo can help her. From: Gmail bobbiehumphre...@gmail.com To: Patricia Brown-Tulee pl...@yahoo.com Cc: quad-list quad-list@eskimo.com Sent: Monday, April 28, 2014 5:15 PM Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] Dawn, the quad girl upstairs from me BINGO, BINGS, BINGO. She waste's so much of her SSI check on BINGO week after week, month after month, year after year! Dawn has a 2002 Mimi van with 130,000K on it. I have a 2001 with about 35,000K on it. Pete's going up tonight to try and fix her bed, and if he can't I'm sure she is going to expect him to put her to bed when SHE wants to ... NOT when it's convenient for him. Bobbie Smile Everyday On Apr 28, 2014, at 7:36 PM, Patricia Brown-Tulee pl...@yahoo.com wrote: does she go out to bars or? Patricia L. B pl...@yahoo.com while adding years to your life, add life to your years On Sunday, April 27, 2014 6:24 PM, Gmail bobbiehumphre...@gmail.com wrote: I've talked it you all about Dawn and her troubles with her van? Well, now she is having troubles with her bed. She has a Craftmatic, like I HAD. It isn't working right. Actually it is broken in the high position. So she asked my Pete if he would help her into bed, she can get her self undressed. Actually, she can get herself into bed all the time, but not right now. She asked Pete to come up at 3:00am! Pete said the best I can do is 2:00am she rolled her eyes and said ok, 2:00am is fine. She has NO IDEA HOW LUCKY SHE IS.Bobbie Smile Everyday
Re: [QUAD-L] Dawn, the quad girl upstairs from me
Sure since she is a woman you helped all along plus she lives in your building would make it impossible to ignore. I was more less telling people to try not get in the positions to allow needy people to set you up for abuse. I know myself not to ask people for things all the time or I will never see them. My walking buddy told me..call me on tues I will come, call me on fri again I might come. call me next week again I wont be there at all. Ron omeFrom: Gmail bobbiehumphre...@gmail.com To: RONALD L PRACHT r.pra...@sbcglobal.net Cc: quad-list@eskimo.com quad-list@eskimo.com Sent: Tuesday, April 29, 2014 8:07 PM Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] Dawn, the quad girl upstairs from me Ron, those are easy words to say, but when you SEE the person eye to eye quite often ... it's difficult to ignore ALL the time. Bobbie Smile Everyday On Apr 29, 2014, at 8:21 PM, RONALD L PRACHT r.pra...@sbcglobal.net wrote: That's why even when you want to help someone you have to be careful. If they have no help at all they are likely to take you down with them like a drowning individual. I guess helping at a distance is the best way to handle it.The paraplegic I know that's in the nursing home stuck in bed 24 hrs a day could really suck me in. He needs everything and is going down quickly. He wouldn't listen to any of my advice that would have kept him home. He was worried about storage units, calling his 84 year old mother a whore, whining about his kids when he should of shut his mouth and took care of himself. When a ships sinking you throw everything off to save yourself and the boat. Ron From: Gmail bobbiehumphre...@gmail.com To: Patricia Brown-Tulee pl...@yahoo.com; quad-list@eskimo.com quad-list@eskimo.com Sent: Tuesday, April 29, 2014 3:11 PM Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] Dawn, the quad girl upstairs from me Yes, and we both have a lot of compassion and empathy for her. I first got to know her when she was first in rehab, I was her Peer counselor. I followed her to her home to visit her and that's when I met her indescribable horrific BAD mother of hers. To get her out of the house and away from her mother I got her into a wheelchair accessible college that I went to. I even gave her my backup power wheelchair because you had to have one to go to this college. Pete and I packed her up and took her to college because her mother didn't want to have anything to do with her. And when she flunked out of college I got her into the apartment building where we now live. In order for her to get into the apartment so quickly her mother had to sign a letter stating that she was not allowed home. Her mother couldn't wait to sign the letter, so fast that she didn't even read it before signing. Her father lives in the next date is remarried and has younger children of his own, but does call her once a week. Bobbie Smile Everyday On Apr 29, 2014, at 3:57 PM, Patricia Brown-Tulee pl...@yahoo.com wrote: 20 yrs is a long time to know live by. Patricia L. B pl...@yahoo.com while adding years to your life, add life to your years On Tuesday, April 29, 2014 12:47 PM, Gmail bobbiehumphre...@gmail.com wrote: We have given her the number of the company for the bed but she doesn't want to call because it cost $200 for them to walk in the door. D.A.W.N's birthday was April 15 she told me that her friends were having a birthday party for her but she didn't feel good so she didn't go. I asked her why didn't her friends come to her and she said They are all users, they just use me for my van.I have NEVER, EVER seen her with one single friend in the 20 years I've known her. Bobbie Smile Everyday On Apr 28, 2014, at 11:49 PM, Don Smith scamper2...@att.net wrote: If he can't fix it, he needs to tell her how to get it fixed and that if she wants his help getting in bed, bingo is going to have to take a break for awhile and she should respect and be thankful for his help, or she may have no one. Where are her friends, maybe somebody from bingo can help her. From: Gmail bobbiehumphre...@gmail.com To: Patricia Brown-Tulee pl...@yahoo.com Cc: quad-list quad-list@eskimo.com Sent: Monday, April 28, 2014 5:15 PM Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] Dawn, the quad girl upstairs from me BINGO, BINGS, BINGO. She waste's so much of her SSI check on BINGO week after week, month after month, year after year! Dawn has a 2002 Mimi van with 130,000K on it. I have a 2001 with about 35,000K on it. Pete's going up tonight to try and fix her bed, and if he can't I'm sure she is going to expect him to put her to bed when SHE wants to ... NOT when it's convenient for him. Bobbie Smile Everyday On Apr 28, 2014, at 7:36 PM, Patricia Brown-Tulee pl...@yahoo.com wrote: does she go out to bars or? Patricia L. B pl...@yahoo.com while adding years to your life, add life to your
