Re: [QUAD-L] Husbands
Thanks David, we will let you know how it goes and I'll be sure to tell Marie the information came from you. Debbie David K. Kelmer [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote:Hi Debbie, I suggest that your husband look at the Spinal Cord Injury Caregivers Group. This is a great Group of Caregivers, both husbands and wives, and will offer support, advice, or just a place to listen to him. There are members with SCI so you could also join. Just tell him to give Marie my name! http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/SCIC/ THIS IS A SUPPORT GROUP SUPPORTING FAMILY MEMBERS AND THOSE WITH PARAPLEGIA AND QUADRIPLEGIA TETRAPLEGIA DIAGNOSIS. You must have a private email address or an yahoo email address. No member will be approved using a business email address or a .edu educational institution email..address. * A QUESTIONAIRE WILL BE MAILED TO YOU IMMEDIATELY AFTER YOU REQUEST MEMBERSHIP. * FILL OUT THE EMAIL QUESTIONAIRE AND FORWARD YOUR REPLY WITHIN 72 HOURS. IF NO REPLY TO OUR EMAIL QUESTIONAIRE YOU WILL NOT BE APPROVED. * THE YAHOO SERVER WILL AUTOMATICALLY DELTE YOUR REQUEST FOR MEMBERSHIP AFTER 14 DAYS. *PLEASE REPLY TO THE QUESTIONAIRE THAT WE ARE SENDING YOU THIS IS A PRIVATE LIST. * WE WILL NOT ACCEPT MEMBERS UNTIL WE RECEIVE OUR EMAIL QUESTIONAIRE BACK WITH THE QUESTIONS ANSWERED Criteria for Membership. You must be a FAMILY and providing full time care.. This is not a list for those doing caregiving as a job or a career, or a person doing part time caregiving. This site is maintained in accordance with the founder Marie Potts and the Eric Potts Foundation a non profit 501 (c)(3). With Love, CtrlAltDel aka Dave Kelmer C4/5 Complete - 30 Years Post Texas, USA Debbie Hamilton [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: As I have told you all, I am a C4, my accident was just two years ago. I am 48, I have a husband I've been married to for 24 years, I raised three boys one is still at home. My husband is having a terrible time with my accident, he has been doing a lot of my care. I have hired home health to get me up and also have someone coming in for part of the day. I don't wanna lose him, I haven't found any support groups for him, are there any online? Any suggestions? Thanks Debbie - Ahhh...imagining that irresistible new car smell? Check out new cars at Yahoo! Autos. - Ahhh...imagining that irresistible new car smell? Check outnew cars at Yahoo! Autos.
RE: [QUAD-L] Husbands
http://www.paralysis.org/site/c.erJMJUOxFmH/b.1297513/k.1C01/Caregivers.htm _ From: Debbie Hamilton [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] Sent: Tuesday, April 17, 2007 7:07 PM To: Quad-list@eskimo.com Subject: [QUAD-L] Husbands As I have told you all, I am a C4, my accident was just two years ago. I am 48, I have a husband I've been married to for 24 years, I raised three boys one is still at home. My husband is having a terrible time with my accident, he has been doing a lot of my care. I have hired home health to get me up and also have someone coming in for part of the day. I don't wanna lose him, I haven't found any support groups for him, are there any online? Any suggestions? Thanks Debbie _ Ahhh...imagining that irresistible new car smell? Check out new http://us.rd.yahoo.com/evt=48245/*http:/autos.yahoo.com/new_cars.html;_ylc= X3oDMTE1YW1jcXJ2BF9TAzk3MTA3MDc2BHNlYwNtYWlsdGFncwRzbGsDbmV3LWNhcnM- cars at Yahoo! Autos.
RE: [QUAD-L] Husbands
http://www.wellspouse.org/ _ From: Debbie Hamilton [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] Sent: Tuesday, April 17, 2007 7:07 PM To: Quad-list@eskimo.com Subject: [QUAD-L] Husbands As I have told you all, I am a C4, my accident was just two years ago. I am 48, I have a husband I've been married to for 24 years, I raised three boys one is still at home. My husband is having a terrible time with my accident, he has been doing a lot of my care. I have hired home health to get me up and also have someone coming in for part of the day. I don't wanna lose him, I haven't found any support groups for him, are there any online? Any suggestions? Thanks Debbie _ Ahhh...imagining that irresistible new car smell? Check out new http://us.rd.yahoo.com/evt=48245/*http:/autos.yahoo.com/new_cars.html;_ylc= X3oDMTE1YW1jcXJ2BF9TAzk3MTA3MDc2BHNlYwNtYWlsdGFncwRzbGsDbmV3LWNhcnM- cars at Yahoo! Autos.
Re: [QUAD-L] Husbands
Hi Debbie, I suggest that your husband look at the Spinal Cord Injury Caregivers Group. This is a great Group of Caregivers, both husbands and wives, and will offer support, advice, or just a place to listen to him. There are members with SCI so you could also join. Just tell him to give Marie my name! http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/SCIC/ THIS IS A SUPPORT GROUP SUPPORTING FAMILY MEMBERS AND THOSE WITH PARAPLEGIA AND QUADRIPLEGIA TETRAPLEGIA DIAGNOSIS. You must have a private email address or an yahoo email address. No member will be approved using a business email address or a .edu educational institution email..address. * A QUESTIONAIRE WILL BE MAILED TO YOU IMMEDIATELY AFTER YOU REQUEST MEMBERSHIP. * FILL OUT THE EMAIL QUESTIONAIRE AND FORWARD YOUR REPLY WITHIN 72 HOURS. IF NO REPLY TO OUR EMAIL QUESTIONAIRE YOU WILL NOT BE APPROVED. * THE YAHOO SERVER WILL AUTOMATICALLY DELTE YOUR REQUEST FOR MEMBERSHIP AFTER 14 DAYS. *PLEASE REPLY TO THE QUESTIONAIRE THAT WE ARE SENDING YOU THIS IS A PRIVATE LIST. * WE WILL NOT ACCEPT MEMBERS UNTIL WE RECEIVE OUR EMAIL QUESTIONAIRE BACK WITH THE QUESTIONS ANSWERED Criteria for Membership. You must be a FAMILY and providing full time care.. This is not a list for those doing caregiving as a job or a career, or a person doing part time caregiving. This site is maintained in accordance with the founder Marie Potts and the Eric Potts Foundation a non profit 501 (c)(3). With Love, CtrlAltDel aka Dave Kelmer C4/5 Complete - 30 Years Post Texas, USA Debbie Hamilton [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: As I have told you all, I am a C4, my accident was just two years ago. I am 48, I have a husband I've been married to for 24 years, I raised three boys one is still at home. My husband is having a terrible time with my accident, he has been doing a lot of my care. I have hired home health to get me up and also have someone coming in for part of the day. I don't wanna lose him, I haven't found any support groups for him, are there any online? Any suggestions? Thanks Debbie - Ahhh...imagining that irresistible new car smell? Check out new cars at Yahoo! Autos.
Re: [QUAD-L] Husbands
Debbie, There is a Family support forum at the CARECURE website. Here is the link to that forum: http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/forumdisplay.php?f=26 Tim Debbie Hamilton [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: As I have told you all, I am a C4, my accident was just two years ago. I am 48, I have a husband I've been married to for 24 years, I raised three boys one is still at home. My husband is having a terrible time with my accident, he has been doing a lot of my care. I have hired home health to get me up and also have someone coming in for part of the day. I don't wanna lose him, I haven't found any support groups for him, are there any online? Any suggestions? Thanks Debbie - Ahhh...imagining that irresistible new car smell? Check out new cars at Yahoo! Autos. - Ahhh...imagining that irresistible new car smell? Check outnew cars at Yahoo! Autos.
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Hi Lori, thanks, just knowing there's another husband out there that is living
with a quad and enjoying life makes me feel better and that'll make my husband
feel better too. My husband also has the attitude just do it! The web site
may be helpful, but he kind of sounds like your husband when it comes to the
Internet, especially if it's 99% women. But I'd like to look at it. Thanks
for your help, Debbie
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Yes, there is one online and I am subscribed to it. I just looked all over as
to how I subscribed to it and can't find it but am sure that I will. There
are a couple of others here (including Dave Kelmer) who are on the list. Dave
is a quadriplegic himself and so am I.
You had to have a good reason for subscribing but it sounds like you fall
into the same category as I do. I have a home health aide coming in three
mornings three days a week and hire someone else to come in three days a week
for my commode routine and some domestic chores.
My husband is not interested in these online support groups because he
thinks that there is too much whining and griping... LOL. And, for the most
part, men are just not much into e-mailing in forums like these. Also, it is
made up of 99.5% women. Husbands of us who are caregivers much of the time or
a lot of the time are very few and far between.
We have been together for 9 1/2 or years and he did not think you would fall
into the caregiver role but fate ended up putting us there. Does he like it?
Absolutely not and there are so many times that he is just had it. But he
knows, like many many other things that people thought they would never have to
do that go in and just do it... he goes by that rule.
In fact, there is only one husband on the list that I am referring to
(possibly 2 but I have not seen him post in a long, long, long time) who lives
west of Corpus Christi, Texas.
Probably Dave will respond before I do about this SCIC (spinal cord injury
caregiver) online forum similar to this one except for caregivers.
Lori
C4/5 complete, 27 years post
---Original Message---
From: Debbie Hamilton
Date: 4/17/2007 5:11:59 PM
To: Quad-list@eskimo.com
Subject: [QUAD-L] Husbands
As I have told you all, I am a C4, my accident was just two years ago. I am
48, I have a husband I've been married to for 24 years, I raised three boys one
is still at home. My husband is having a terrible time with my accident, he
has been doing a lot of my care. I have hired home health to get me up and
also have someone coming in for part of the day. I don't wanna lose him, I
haven't found any support groups for him, are there any online? Any
suggestions? Thanks Debbie
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Check out new cars at Yahoo! Autos.
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Ahhh...imagining that irresistible new car smell?
Check outnew cars at Yahoo! Autos.
Re: [QUAD-L] Husbands
Thanks for the info about the national SCI Association. I will also look forward to hearing from the couple in Chicago. Thanks Debbie [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote:In a message dated 4/17/2007 7:11:42 P.M. Central Daylight Time, [EMAIL PROTECTED] writes: As I have told you all, I am a C4, my accident was just two years ago. I am 48, I have a husband I've been married to for 24 years, I raised three boys one is still at home. My husband is having a terrible time with my accident, he has been doing a lot of my care. I have hired home health to get me up and also have someone coming in for part of the day. I don't wanna lose him, I haven't found any support groups for him, are there any online? Any suggestions? Thanks Debbie Hi Debbie, Life's journeys for most are hills and valleys. I don't know about your relationship before your injury, hence, its difficult to predict one's future. You didn't mention your location and the Nat SCI Assoc has regional and state chapters in many of the large cities. Join, if you can. If you don't have one start one. I am going to forward a copy of your email to another couple in Chicago for their personal reply to you. Best Wishes W - See what's free at AOL.com. - Ahhh...imagining that irresistible new car smell? Check outnew cars at Yahoo! Autos.
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This is a topic that is often overlooked by many doctors treating such violent injuries. You have just lost a lot of your abilities and it is natural that you feel your husband isn't understanding your loss. Your husband just had a major loss too, and nobody is addressing his feelings. Please take the time to see a psychiatrist. I'm not saying you or your husband are doing anything wrong. You are being confronted with issues that many relationships never deal with and it is ok to ask for help. It is a big hurdle and many couples don't make it. Good luck, john -Original Message- From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] To: Quad-list@eskimo.com Sent: Tue, 17 Apr 2007 7:07 PM Subject: [QUAD-L] Husbands As I have told you all, I am a C4, my accident was just two years ago. I am 48, I have a husband I've been married to for 24 years, I raised three boys one is still at home. My husband is having a terrible time with my accident, he has been doing a lot of my care. I have hired home health to get me up and also have someone coming in for part of the day. I don't wanna lose him, I haven't found any support groups for him, are there any online? Any suggestions? Thanks Debbie Ahhh...imagining that irresistible new car smell? Check out new cars at Yahoo! Autos. AOL now offers free email to everyone. Find out more about what's free from AOL at AOL.com.
Re: [QUAD-L] Husbands
In a message dated 4/17/2007 7:11:42 P.M. Central Daylight Time, [EMAIL PROTECTED] writes: As I have told you all, I am a C4, my accident was just two years ago. I am 48, I have a husband I've been married to for 24 years, I raised three boys one is still at home. My husband is having a terrible time with my accident, he has been doing a lot of my care. I have hired home health to get me up and also have someone coming in for part of the day. I don't wanna lose him, I haven't found any support groups for him, are there any online? Any suggestions? Thanks Debbie Hi Debbie, Life's journeys for most are hills and valleys. I don't know about your relationship before your injury, hence, its difficult to predict one's future. You didn't mention your location and the Nat SCI Assoc has regional and state chapters in many of the large cities. Join, if you can. If you don't have one start one. I am going to forward a copy of your email to another couple in Chicago for their personal reply to you. Best Wishes W ** See what's free at http://www.aol.com.
