Re: [TMIC] I'm back home
Gunny, I have told him IF he were in this position, I would not be cursing while taking care of him. It's little things tho that he cusses about. Like when my foot falls off my shower chair he'll say GD and things like that. I tell him You are saying that to me. He disagreeshe says he is saying it for purely what just happened and no one should have to go thru what I do. He just won't accept it and move on. I don't know if he ever will. He still holds grudges from when he was a child. He is wonderful at all household duties - I couldn't ask for a more supportive partner in that way. He comes home at lunch and fixes me a sandwich or whatever and usually he has already been here to let home health in (for my wound vac) urostomy. He helps them do all that and really doesn't mind at all. Seems to find it a challenge. I am worried about him tho - I know he is depressed and he has admitted to it, but will not do anything about it - EVER. He holds too much in. He doesn't even watch TV anymore. The only thing he does at night is crossword puzzles from the papers. I'm worried about him. I told him to get a check up w/ the heart dr. and he will not. His stress must be sky high. He says the more you push me the lease I'm likely to do it. So it is hard to be silent. Oh well, sorry for the novel. Thanks for caring, Natalie M. [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: Nat: Try to make your husband understand that it's not your fault you have accidents. It's the TM that does it. Also remind him of his wedding vows. You might suggest that if the shoe were on the other foot, you'd do whatever is necessary to get the job done. Sometimes you can't sugar coat things, you have to take the bull by the horns and kick back. Use discretion. Gunny - See what's new at AOL.com and Make AOL Your Homepage. - Be a better Heartthrob. Get better relationship answers from someone who knows. Yahoo! Answers - Check it out.
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Rick, Thanks for the nice email. You read it like I see it too. I try so hard not to say anything to me when he is in fury over something. It usually doesn't last long at all. It is short lived. He is a perfectionist and that is part of it. I recall when I was and how little things bothered me, but w/ my life changes, I can't be a perfectionist I feel anymore. His name is Michael. We've been married 30 years. I better go. Thanks for the prayers, Natalie M. [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: Hey Natalie, He's a good man and it probably just breaks his heart to think back to the way things were before TM. My wife gets so frustrated with me so I know exactly how you feel. Doll, you can't help yourself but you can try and do more for yourself, if your able. But always know your limitations and If you need help you have to call on him. I have seen people sit around and whine and depend on everyones help. I have found in my 10 years the less you ask for help the more you get. You know how much he loves you and that will never change, he's probably just tired and this hurts him to see you, his little bride in this shape. I will always pray a special prayer that he shows you the respect and admiration that you deserve. Your a great woman. I can tell. God be with you. By the way whats your husbands name and tell him for me thanks for taking such good care of you. Rick -- GOD BLESS US ALL -- Original message -- From: natalie mizenko Rick, Thanks for the get well wishes. Sometimes it is difficult like when my husband says all these foul words while I'm transferring to my shower chair or I've had an accident in my pants. He gets ugly then and makes me feel so bad. Oh well. He is so good in other ways. Natalie M. Note: forwarded message attached. - Moody friends. Drama queens. Your life? Nope! - their life, your story. Play Sims Stories at Yahoo! Games. - Moody friends. Drama queens. Your life? Nope! - their life, your story. Play Sims Stories at Yahoo! Games.
Re: [TMIC] I'm back home
Pam, Thanks for your nice email. I'm sorry for the embarrassment you had to go thru on the handicap restroom. I get mad at that to see a healty looking 20 something getting into the car, time and time again, in the handicap parking zone.I try to tell myself I don't know her; there might be problems, but it is difficult. Natalie M. [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: NATALIE I CAN ONLY IMAGINE HOW YOU FEEL. WHEN I WAS N THE HOSPITAL THE LAST 2 WEEKS I FELT THE SAME WAY. THEY WOULD NOT LET ME DO ANYTHING WITHOUT 2 NURSES, IT DROVE ME CRAZY. I CAN WALK AGAIN WITH A WALKER AND I HAVE TO GET A BRACE THAT GOES UP TO MY KNEE. THEY SAID I HAD TO WEAR IT MOST OF THE TIME HOW LONG I DO NOT KNOW. IT WAS MY B/D AND I HAD ALOT OF FRIENDS THERE AND MY ONLY FAMILY SINCE KATRINA IS MY HUSBAND DAN. I HAD TO GO ON THE BED PAN I WAS SO UPSET WITH ALL MY GUESTS THERE AND ALL MY FRIENDS I KNOW COMING IN AND OUT SINCE I WORKED THERE .EVERYONE WENT OUTSIDE MY ROOM ,IT TOOK FOR EVER BEFORE SOMEONE WOULD COME THEY WHERE VERY BUSY. I COULD NOT HOLD IT MUCH LONGER. DAN PUT ME ON THE BED PAN SOMETHING HE NEVER HAD TO DO. HE SAID THANK GOD THIS IS JUST TILL YOU GO HOME. I KIND OF KNOW HOW YOU FEEL BUT I CONSIDER MYSELF FORTUNATE I CAN GET AROUND. I JUST EXCEPTED THE FACT THAT WHEN I GO OUT I BRING EXTRA CLOTHES AND SHOES. I ALWAYS HAVE WHAT I CALL MY HYGEINE BAG WITH ME. I ONLY HAD ONE ACCIDENT I WAS WAITING TO GO INTO THE HANDICAP ROOM BUT THEY HAD 3 GIRLS USING IT WHO WHERE NOT HANDICAPPED AT ALL AND I WET MY PANTS. I WAS FURIOUS, I GAVE THOSE GIRLS A BAD TIME. I THEN HAD SOMEONE CALL SECURITY. I WAS SO EMBARRASED BUT MY ANGER MADE ME STRONGER.THAT PARTICULAR STORE HAS RULES AND REGULATIONS. IF YOU ARE NOT HANDICAPPED YOU CANNOT USE THOSE ROOMS. THEY NOW HAVE PEOPLE WHO C HECK THE BATHROOMS OFTEN. I WAS ALSO TOLD IF I NEEDED TO GO TO THE LADIES ROOM JUST TELL ANYONE AND THEY WILL MAKE SURE NO ONE BUT PEOPLE WHO ARE HANDICAPPED ARE IN THERE. DAN TOLD ME HE WAS SO UPSET WITH OUR GUESTS AND THAT WAS THE FIRST TIME HE EVER HAD TO PUT ME ON A BED PAN. LIKE YOU SAID THEY ARE SO GOOD IN SO MANY OTHER WAYS.YOUR NOT ALONE . I KNOW LOTS OF PEOPLE ON THE LIST LIKE YOU SOME LIKE ME. ITS OUR LIFE NOW WHY I DO NOT KNOW BUT WE JUST DEAL WITH IT THE BEST WAY WE CAN. I AM GLAD YOUR HOME. SORRY ABOUT THE STAFF INFECTION. I HOPE YOU FEEL BETTER EVERYDAY . GOD BLESS TIAD PAM PS I NEVER EVER SAID THIS BEFORE TO THE LIST JUST IN PRIVATE E-MAILS. I NOW HAVE NO PROBLEM WITH THIS. I WANT TO THANK EVERYONE FOR THE WARM WISHES AND MY B/D E-MAILS. - See what's new at AOL.com and Make AOL Your Homepage. - Building a website is a piece of cake. Yahoo! Small Business gives you all the tools to get online.
