Re: Body Language - Hand Shake/Eye Contact

2009-03-17 Thread Rastafari
ball gazer! On Tue, Mar 17, 2009 at 10:28 AM, Charlie Griefer wrote: > > 2009/3/16 Michael Grant > >> >> > Does this guy do this with everyone, or only your boss? >> >>  just my boss. >> > > > maybe he's checkin' out your boss' package. > > -- > I have failed as much as I have succeeded. But I

Re: Body Language - Hand Shake/Eye Contact

2009-03-17 Thread Charlie Griefer
2009/3/16 Michael Grant > > > Does this guy do this with everyone, or only your boss? > > just my boss. > maybe he's checkin' out your boss' package. -- I have failed as much as I have succeeded. But I love my life. I love my wife. And I wish you my kind of success. ~~

Re: Body Language - Hand Shake/Eye Contact

2009-03-17 Thread Gruss Gott
> Cam wrote: > I did stop carrying a wallet while there though - too many people > bumping into to me to be comfortable carrying anything > pick-pocket-able. > I used to travel internationally a lot and I stopped carrying a back-pocket wallet back then and have never returned to it. Now I've jus

Re: Body Language - Hand Shake/Eye Contact

2009-03-17 Thread Larry Lyons
>>The over-grip is just a mirror of the eye-avoid; it's over-compensation. > >I couldn't agree more. The firm handshake thing that everyone takes so >serious is a silly-ass ritual if you really think about it. Actually, >handshakes in general are silly. Wonder what the story is behind that...(h

Re: Body Language - Hand Shake/Eye Contact

2009-03-17 Thread Cameron Childress
On Mon, Mar 16, 2009 at 9:39 PM, Gruss Gott wrote: > It's one of the reasons Asia is disturbing for me.  If there's 2 > people in a line the guy behind you will stand almost touching you. Yeah - this was annoying as hell in Hong Kong, thought I think mainland China is worse. People shoving and

Re: Body Language - Hand Shake/Eye Contact

2009-03-17 Thread Deanna Schneider
Well, there's usually a bit of a smile and a quick glance of eye contact included. But, yah, for a lot of people, the answer is "eh?" On Mon, Mar 16, 2009 at 4:15 PM, Erika L. Walker wrote: > > But does he make some sort of eye contact first? Anything? > > Like I said though, I know there's exce

Re: Body Language - Hand Shake/Eye Contact

2009-03-16 Thread Casey Dougall
On Mon, Mar 16, 2009 at 4:11 PM, Gruss Gott wrote: > > > Grant wrote: > > > > Supposedly friends. > > > > Some people just have self-esteem issues and don't like looking > someone in the eye. > > I have to say I'm kinda sick of the this-means-that when it comes to > greetings these days: > > The

Re: Body Language - Hand Shake/Eye Contact

2009-03-16 Thread Paul Ihrig
honestly, you ever get a bad vibe off of some one. maybe your boss has that wrong vibe. maybe the other guy can feel it. or he is ashamed of picturing your boss in a batman costume... ~| Adobe® ColdFusion® 8 software 8 is the m

Re: Body Language - Hand Shake/Eye Contact

2009-03-16 Thread Gruss Gott
> Mo wrote: > > People who refuse to make eye contact, close their eyes when talking > to you, or back away when you come into their space I'm not a victim of abuse (except by you people), but I don't like anybody all up in my space. I don't like close talkers. It's one of the reasons Asia is d

Re: Body Language - Hand Shake/Eye Contact

2009-03-16 Thread Michael Grant
> Does this guy do this with everyone, or only your boss? just my boss. ~| Adobe® ColdFusion® 8 software 8 is the most important and dramatic release to date Get the Free Trial http://ad.doubleclick.net/clk;207172674;29440083

Re: Body Language - Hand Shake/Eye Contact

2009-03-16 Thread Maureen
People who refuse to make eye contact, close their eyes when talking to you, or back away when you come into their space are often victims of abuse. They have learned that making eye contact often results in being hit. Does this guy do this with everyone, or only your boss? On Mon, Mar 16, 2009

Re: Body Language - Hand Shake/Eye Contact

2009-03-16 Thread Michael Grant
Either way I think my boss is weird. Sucking peoples Jaggon's and such. On Mon, Mar 16, 2009 at 6:02 PM, Dr. Who wrote: > > maybe some one had a southpark experience.. > > "Suck *my* Jaggon! Now you suck *MY* Jaggon! Oh yeah! *Stick your finger in > my* thrusha!" > > > ~~~

Re: Body Language - Hand Shake/Eye Contact

2009-03-16 Thread Cameron Childress
On Mon, Mar 16, 2009 at 5:18 PM, Ray Champagne wrote: > I couldn't agree more.  The firm handshake thing that everyone takes so > serious is a silly-ass ritual if you really think about it.  Actually, > handshakes in general are silly. Yeah - most customs are silly when you think about them, mai

Re: Body Language - Hand Shake/Eye Contact

2009-03-16 Thread Dr. Who
maybe some one had a southpark experience.. "Suck *my* Jaggon! Now you suck *MY* Jaggon! Oh yeah! *Stick your finger in my* thrusha!" ~| Adobe® ColdFusion® 8 software 8 is the most important and dramatic release to date Get th

Re: Body Language - Hand Shake/Eye Contact

2009-03-16 Thread Michael Grant
never would've thought of that one. thanks On Mon, Mar 16, 2009 at 5:37 PM, Gruss Gott wrote: > > > Grant wrote: > > Even though this isn't a first meeting? It's every time they get > together. > > > > Sure, the guy probably feels submissive or ... he's just shy and > doesn't meet anybody's eye

Re: Body Language - Hand Shake/Eye Contact

2009-03-16 Thread Gruss Gott
> Grant wrote: > Even though this isn't a first meeting? It's every time they get together. > Sure, the guy probably feels submissive or ... he's just shy and doesn't meet anybody's eye. I have a good Indian friend that I meet for lunch every 3 months or so and he never meets my eye when we shak

Re: Body Language - Hand Shake/Eye Contact

2009-03-16 Thread Michael Grant
ya, prolly. :S On Mon, Mar 16, 2009 at 5:21 PM, Ray Champagne wrote: > > You should get back to work. :) > > On Mon, Mar 16, 2009 at 4:18 PM, Michael Grant wrote: > > > > > > > > > I would say that the eye-avoid is by people who are shy or have low > > > self-esteem. > > > > > > Even though t

Re: Body Language - Hand Shake/Eye Contact

2009-03-16 Thread Ray Champagne
You should get back to work. :) On Mon, Mar 16, 2009 at 4:18 PM, Michael Grant wrote: > > > > > I would say that the eye-avoid is by people who are shy or have low > > self-esteem. > > > Even though this isn't a first meeting? It's every time they get together. > > >

Re: Body Language - Hand Shake/Eye Contact

2009-03-16 Thread Michael Grant
It was to show you weren't carrying a weapon. On Mon, Mar 16, 2009 at 5:18 PM, Ray Champagne wrote: > > On Mon, Mar 16, 2009 at 4:14 PM, Gruss Gott wrote: > >The over-grip is just a mirror of the eye-avoid; it's over-compensation. > > I couldn't agree more. The firm handshake thing that everyo

Re: Body Language - Hand Shake/Eye Contact

2009-03-16 Thread Erika L. Walker
But does he make some sort of eye contact first? Anything? Like I said though, I know there's exceptions, and until I got to know him, my feelings would be "eh?" On Mon, Mar 16, 2009 at 3:24 PM, Deanna Schneider < deanna.schnei...@gmail.com> wrote: > > It can also be deferential. My DH has a

Re: Body Language - Hand Shake/Eye Contact

2009-03-16 Thread Rastafari
or have spent time in jail. On Mon, Mar 16, 2009 at 5:14 PM, Gruss Gott wrote: > >> cRay wrote: >> >> I kinda like the "Mug" >> > > My brother loves the Mug which means I always have to give him the Mug > or tell him I no longer would like to take part in a Mugging.  Since > he might get offende

Re: Body Language - Hand Shake/Eye Contact

2009-03-16 Thread Ray Champagne
On Mon, Mar 16, 2009 at 4:14 PM, Gruss Gott wrote: >The over-grip is just a mirror of the eye-avoid; it's over-compensation. I couldn't agree more. The firm handshake thing that everyone takes so serious is a silly-ass ritual if you really think about it. Actually, handshakes in general are sil

Re: Body Language - Hand Shake/Eye Contact

2009-03-16 Thread Michael Grant
> > I would say that the eye-avoid is by people who are shy or have low > self-esteem. Even though this isn't a first meeting? It's every time they get together. ~| Adobe® ColdFusion® 8 software 8 is the most important and dra

Re: Body Language - Hand Shake/Eye Contact

2009-03-16 Thread Gruss Gott
> cRay wrote: > > I kinda like the "Mug" > My brother loves the Mug which means I always have to give him the Mug or tell him I no longer would like to take part in a Mugging. Since he might get offended, I continue to Mug. But I don't like it. I prefer the average ole normal handshake - w/o th

Re: Body Language - Hand Shake/Eye Contact

2009-03-16 Thread Ray Champagne
I kinda like the "Mug" On Mon, Mar 16, 2009 at 3:11 PM, Gruss Gott wrote: > > > Grant wrote: > > > > Supposedly friends. > > > > Some people just have self-esteem issues and don't like looking > someone in the eye. > > I have to say I'm kinda sick of the this-means-that when it comes to > greet

Re: Body Language - Hand Shake/Eye Contact

2009-03-16 Thread Gruss Gott
> Grant wrote: > > Supposedly friends. > Some people just have self-esteem issues and don't like looking someone in the eye. I have to say I'm kinda sick of the this-means-that when it comes to greetings these days: There's the fist bump, the fist pound, the high fivin white guy, and the multi-

Re: Body Language - Hand Shake/Eye Contact

2009-03-16 Thread Michael Grant
Supposedly friends. On Mon, Mar 16, 2009 at 3:11 PM, Erika L. Walker wrote: > > Then I wouldn't trust them. Anyone that doesn't shake hands with me firmly > and look me in the eye, is definitely shifty in my book. I do know there > are > exceptions to that rule, and those exceptions usually come

Re: Body Language - Hand Shake/Eye Contact

2009-03-16 Thread Jerry Johnson
Has he seen your boss in nothing but a pair of handcuffs? Does he (or his company) owe a lot of money? On Mon, Mar 16, 2009 at 3:11 PM, Erika L. Walker wrote: > Of course Id need to see the rest of their body language. Sometimes people > are very shy or introverted. Or he could be embarrassed a

Re: Body Language - Hand Shake/Eye Contact

2009-03-16 Thread Deanna Schneider
It can also be deferential. My DH has a tendency to look down and nod his head in almost a little mini bow when he meets new people. He's not shifty, but he is shy and deferential until he gets to know someone. On Mon, Mar 16, 2009 at 2:11 PM, Erika L. Walker wrote: > > Then I wouldn't trust the

Re: Body Language - Hand Shake/Eye Contact

2009-03-16 Thread Erika L. Walker
Then I wouldn't trust them. Anyone that doesn't shake hands with me firmly and look me in the eye, is definitely shifty in my book. I do know there are exceptions to that rule, and those exceptions usually come out in the bath water. Sometimes a first shake might be wimpy - but it's a guy thinkin

Re: Body Language - Hand Shake/Eye Contact

2009-03-16 Thread Michael Grant
White North Americans On Mon, Mar 16, 2009 at 2:43 PM, Ian Skinner wrote: > > Michael Grant wrote: > > Anyone knows what it means when you shake hands with someone and they > look > > away? > > > > There's someone that comes to our office often and has known my boss for > > years. Every time th

Re: Body Language - Hand Shake/Eye Contact

2009-03-16 Thread Ian Skinner
Michael Grant wrote: > Anyone knows what it means when you shake hands with someone and they look > away? > > There's someone that comes to our office often and has known my boss for > years. Every time they shake hands the guy looks away from my boss and > doesn't make eye contact. I'm dying to k

Re: Body Language - Hand Shake/Eye Contact

2009-03-16 Thread Michael Grant
Well of course there are probably multiple answers but I was just looking for some insight without having to delve into too much detail. I didn't know if there were any behavioral experts here or not. On Mon, Mar 16, 2009 at 2:35 PM, Cameron Childress wrote: > > On Mon, Mar 16, 2009 at 2:25 PM,

Re: Body Language - Hand Shake/Eye Contact

2009-03-16 Thread Cameron Childress
On Mon, Mar 16, 2009 at 2:25 PM, Michael Grant wrote: > Anyone knows what it means when you shake hands with someone and they look > away? > > There's someone that comes to our office often and has known my boss for > years. Every time they shake hands the guy looks away from my boss and > doesn'

Body Language - Hand Shake/Eye Contact

2009-03-16 Thread Michael Grant
Anyone knows what it means when you shake hands with someone and they look away? There's someone that comes to our office often and has known my boss for years. Every time they shake hands the guy looks away from my boss and doesn't make eye contact. I'm dying to know why. ~