On Fri, Aug 20, 2010 at 3:58 PM, Sean Doyle <sdo...@gmail.com> wrote: > > > > I'm not sure about the role of hormones here. My daughter was one year old > when she was adopted and was very fearful of my appearance (she's from > China; I may have been the first caucasian bearded male she ever met). She > would only look at me in the bathroom mirror of the hotel.. otherwise she > would turn her head away. When I held her closely she would attack (mostly > the eyes). But I think the initial feeling of bonding was there after a few > days; within two weeks we were very close. it would be interesting to know > how quickly the rewiring occurred (did is precede or follow the feelings?) > > Even though I had accepted the responsibility for caring for my daughter > before I met her - I think it's safe to say that I felt completely > unprepared during that first meeting. So if there is a role in rewiring for > the simple fear of discovering that you don't have the slightest idea what > you're doing .. I'd believe it. > > I have no analysis to offer here Sean...just wanted to say, what a wonderful thing to read. I'm touched and moved.
Deepa.
