Okay, let's see if I can smooth this out a little bit. I will do this publicly, since it was brought to the list, while I've also sent copies directly to each of you so that you can respond off- list to me, please.
First thing, issues like this should be handled privately so as not to burden the rest of the membership. I hope you'll e-mail me directly, Deborah, if ever something like this happens again. Second, your treatment of other members, even in private e-mail, does have a bearing on your membership in the group. So Deborah G. does have a valid reason to complain to me. Third, it is crucial to develop a thick skin and learn to *IGNORE* anything *but* the most obvious and direct personal attacks, because if it is the least bit subtle then it probably is not intended -- or not important enough to worry over. I think the first blow was this remark by Debbie M.: > How did you cure your leaky gut, the obvious question that you did > not answer. Which prompted Deborah G.'s response: > I don't recall that being the question... but... Which quickly degenerated into Debbie M.'s private attack and Deborah's un-genteel and public rejoinder... <sigh!> The thing I hope you'll all notice, folks, is that neither of the two initial remarks, above, *had* to be interpreted as offensive, nor were either of them necessary to the straightforward asking or answering of questions, and would have been best left un-said. In this, ladies and gentlemen, is demonstrated the *choice* that each of us must constantly make, whether to ignore or respond to the things we find annoying, and whether to allow them to annoy us in the first place, or not. That's the point of developing a *really* thick skin for your relationships on line. And, it points out the difficulty in speaking clearly enough and carefully enough in this medium, that your tone does not come across as overbearing or confrontational. I believe neither Debbie nor Deborah set out with the intent of offending the other. I think the best solution is for each of you to offer the other a sincere apology for: A) Saying things unintentionally that the other found offensive... B) All the hurtful and unkind words that followed. You'll both need to choose to *not* let this one incident interfere with your helpful participation in the group. I want you both here and I want you both comfortable. I'm looking forward to hearing from you, ladies. I hope there won't be any further comments or replies to the list, but if there are, folks, please don't respond to them. Thank you for your patience, all. Be well, Mike Devour silver-list owner > You might want to consider colonics for that bug up you rectum my dear > I resent highly being talked to like this I always help whoever I > can....Mike you want to step in here please??? > > Debbie Mcdonald <bely...@sbcglobal.net> wrote: > You are just a really nice and helpful person aren't > you Deborah. You must wake up each day feeling so > great for the wonderful human you are. > > > --- Deborah Gerard wrote: > > > I don't recall that being the question...but I got > > rid of the mercury for starters...deb > > > > Debbie Mcdonald wrote: I > > dont mean adapt, but it developes defenses to keep > > you alive longer. How did you cure your leaky gut, > > the obvious question that you did not answer. > > > > --- Deborah Gerard wrote: > > > > > I too had leaky gut at one time and the so called > > > gastro doc's were going to send me to Mayo Clinc > > > because they did not know what to do with me..I > > > disagree that the body adapts to mercury if it > > would > > > adapt then there would not be a progression in > > > illnesses stemed from mercury toxcity...I no > > longer have any bowel problems at all ....debbie [Mike Devour, Citizen, Patriot, Libertarian] [mdev...@eskimo.com ] [Speaking only for myself... ] -- The Silver List is a moderated forum for discussing Colloidal Silver. Instructions for unsubscribing are posted at: http://silverlist.org To post, address your message to: silver-list@eskimo.com Address Off-Topic messages to: silver-off-topic-l...@eskimo.com The Silver List and Off Topic List archives are currently down... List maintainer: Mike Devour <mdev...@eskimo.com>
