A question for the ladies. What's more important in a leader, to be assertive and positive or passive and hesitant? I can still vividly recall an incident at my very beginning of tango. A woman considerably more experienced, tried to help by instructing me to be more positive. In my mind I was positive - I was positive that I didn't know what I was doing. This moment was quite pivotal in my tango development. I could easily have elected to do the macho thing and become assertive and positive although I had no skills or knowledge to support it. I could have learned to give women an assertive, positive and crappy dance, instead of a passive, hesitant and crappy dance. I believe I wisely chose the latter, in the belief that in time I would be skilled enough to become assertive and positive. Passive and hesitant, two traits that are an anathema to manliness; traits that women despise in men. Could a man be forgiven for transgressing into manhandling his partner because he couldn't bear the shame whilst waiting to acquire the skills. Of course, there are always knuckle heads like me.
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