Dear all Sharing as usual my fears and apprehensions. Iam increasingly alarmed at the growing frustration and the negative vibes which is spewed out during functions and family gatherings regarding the super geriatric care, makes one shudder because of the terrible after effects it has on the young er generation . The responsibilities which now people in their 70s are facing are caretaking of their elders in their 90s. I admit it is tough but pls refrain from whining and grumbling so openly .the sickening part is either complaining or boasting .most of them want padma shri ha ha It is after all our parents . I don't want to moralise but the solution is sharing and caring and accepting part time help .pls don't drive ur self too hard .Take a break and if necessary find an adult creche . I would like to suggest instead of complaining about adult kids during ur idle times and indulging in self pity pls offer part time help to the concerned family . Let me tell u about shri Sampath and Mrs Malini both r senior bank officials . They r offering help and moral support to the super geriatric group giving the family members a breather. They told us we were wondering what to do with ourselves and we decided to spend time this way gives u a feeling of tripti. No big lect ures they just mention it casually that is all. Quite a few of us who have free time can think about it within the family or extended relations.an afternoon or a day should ocasionally make a world of difference. I honestly feel the grumbling and rage makes u a sick person not the caring . I remember I used to enjoy old movies with my elders and they used to tell me very rare stories . I remember my dad suddenly asked me u never sing ur old rabindra Sangeet I almost told him that day I would do it later but some divine strength urged me on .I brought out my harmonioum and we had a wonderful session of singing and reliving our days in calcutta .a few days later dad went into a semi coma and never returned. What iam trying to emphasize is spend time with family ..even now I feel so warm and thankful when I think of that day I was amused at my relative who has proudly presented some ancient family tree from some archives and is busy publicizing it .this person had not cared to give a second look when the elders were alive . Ask ur self an honest question what r u trying to achieve. We need to understand one thing if we r able to be with our elders and family when they r all alive and be of some use to the mortal body it is an achievement .Let us not try to do things remote control . it is futile.don't over do the respect and adoration pls give some attention to ur wife and husband . we have no idea of balance .either we behave li k e Shravan baalak who carried his parents around in a basket, personally I feel it is very unrealistic and juvenile or we dump them during emergencies. pls remember don't behave like gautam Buddha dumping that poor yashodara .do u remember who she is or lakshmana dumping that poor urmila. the mantra of existence is sharing and caring and enjoying and depart .regards jayshree venkatraman Ps philosophy comes later learn to feed the hungry and realise the pain of existence. It is a tragedy when we r not welcome any where and very sad to see people faces screw up in distaste when we timidly smile expecting a smile in return .whatever age we r . Pls refrain from shunning people .it might be u at their door one day . U might be the next time keeps ticking my friend .
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