TEARS AND WOMAN 1 Tears shed by women contain chemical signals that decrease sexual arousal and testosterone levels in men, according to a study. The result, discovered by Noam Sobel, a cognitive neuroscientist at the Weizmann Institute of Science in Rehovot, Israel, and his colleagues, is published in Science
2 Several factors play a role in an individual's propensity to cry. Gender differences in crying, for example, have been explored for decades and across the world, and all of the studies reached the same conclusion: Women cry more than men. In the 1980s, biochemist William H. Frey, PhD, found that women cry an average of 5.3 times a month, while men cry an average of 1.3 times per month, with crying defined as anything from moist eyes to full-on sobbing. Those averages still appear to be about the same, suggests newer research, including work by Lauren Bylsma, PhD, of the University of Pittsburgh (*Journal of Research in Personality*, 3 Scientists have also found some evidence that emotional tears are chemically different from the ones people shed while chopping onions—which may help explain why crying sends such a strong emotional signal to others. In addition to the enzymes, lipids, metabolites and electrolytes that make up any tears, emotional tears contain more protein. One hypothesis is that this higher protein content makes emotional tears more viscous, so they stick to the skin more strongly and run down the face more slowly, making them more likely to be seen by others. Tears also show others that we’re vulnerable, and vulnerability is critical to human connection. “The same neuronal areas of the brain are activated by seeing someone emotionally aroused as being emotionally aroused oneself,” says Trimble, a professor emeritus at University College London. “There must have been some point in time, evolutionarily, when the tear became something that automatically set off empathy and compassion in another. Actually being able to cry emotionally, and being able to respond to that, is a very important part of being human.” 4 रुद् , रोदिति, रुदित; रुरुदिषति= To cry, weep, lament, mourn, shed *tears*; निराधारो हा रोदिमि कथय केषामिह पुरः Rudra sham is the tears of Shiva. 5 There used to be many visitors to Pandavas in the forest. Draupadi and Arjuna once offered long prayers to Krishna. The Lord came to offer words of comfort. “Krishna!” said Draupadi shedding tears, “you are aware of the shame and distress caused to me in the august assembly the other day. In an inhuman way, they pulled me hither and thither. The sinful Duryodhana and the rest laughed at me and ridiculed me. The wicked ones wanted to force me to be a slave of the Kaurava clan. Krishna! Am I not a daughter-in-law of Bhishma and Dhrutharashtra? How could a despicable deed be allowed to take place in their presence? Whom should I blame and why? But if I can tell you, in reality these five Pandavas – my spouses – are really worthy of blame. I accuse them singularly. For, when the criminal Dusshaasana was dragging me, lawfully wedded to them and one known for my honour and reputation, they were sitting silently, watching the proceedings! The Pandavas are not those who would let down anyone who sought their helping hand. But they did not choose to come to my rescue. How did they tolerate the situation when Dhrutharashtra’s sons committed a grave and unpardonable crime? What is more amazing is that despite my husband’s great ability, Duryodhana is still very much alive! His sins against the Pandavas are not a few but are legion. But they are great warriors and I am their consort. How could they swallow the kind of disgrace caused to one in their very presence? The more I think of it more is my grief and I am unable to bear it. Krishna! How long should I suffer like this? Whatever it is, you have got to protect me! In the first place, I am related to you: I am your aunt’s daughter-in-law. Secondly, you must protect one who is born of fire. Thirdly, you are friendly to me and you are my Lord, God, Master and Guru and I have surrendered totally to you as an unwavering devotee. Great one! I am your dasi! You have got to save me, Keshava!” 6 விம்மியழுதாள்: -- ‘விதியோ கணவரே, அம்மி மிதித்தே அருந்ததியைக் காட்டியெனை வேதச் சுடர்த்தீமுன் வேண்டி மணஞ்செய்து, பாதகர்முன் இந்நால் பரிசழிதல் காண்பீரோ?’ என்றாள். விஜயனுடன் ஏறுதிறல் வீமனுமே குன்றா மணித்தோள் குறிப்புடனே நோக்கினார். தருமனும் மற்றாங்கே தலைகுனிந்து நின்றிட்டான். பொருமியவள் பின்னும் புலம்புவாள்: -- ‘வான்சபையில் கேள்வி பலவுடையோர், கேடிலா நல்லிசையோர், வேள்வி தவங்கள் மிகப்புரிந்த வேதியர்கள், மேலோரிருக்கின்றீர். வெஞ்சினமேன் கொள்கிலரோ? வேலோ ரெனையுடைய வேந்தர் பிணிப்புண்டார். இங்கிவர்மேற் குற்றம் இயம்ப வழியில்லை. மங்கியதோர் புன்மதியாய்! மன்னர் சபைதனிலே என்னைப் பிடித்திழுத்தே ஏச்சுக்கள் சொல்கிறாய். நின்னை யெவரும் “நிறுத்தடா” என்பதிலர். என் செய்கேன்?’ என்றே இரைந்தழுதாள். (panchali sabadam Subramanya bharathi) 7 There is a little story that Vyasa has not included in the great epic perhaps because it is too cruel in its honesty to put down in writing. Bards say, that Gandhari refused to leave the battleground strewn with corpses of her children even when the sun set. “Go home,” she told her husband and her servants and her daughters-in-law, “Let me be here alone with my children. Their presence comforts me.” So they left her alone. Old and frail, she waved her stick to keep the wolves and vultures from getting to the rotting flesh of her sons. Krishna came and tried to persuade her. “They are gone,” he said, “Why do you cling to their bodies.” And she replied, “You will never know a mother’s pain.” And he said, “A pain remains until another pain comes along.” And she retorted, “This pain is permanent. It is a mother’s pain. It will not pass.” (Tears of Gandhari in Mahabharatham) 8 Seetha tears we saw thro Kamban day before yesterday. Tirukkural on tears: குறள் 828 <https://www.ytamizh.com/thirukural/kural-828/>: தொழுதகை யுள்ளும் படையொடுங்கும் ஒன்னார் அழுதகண் ணீரும் அனைத்து. பகைவர் வணங்கித் தொழுத கையினுள்ளும் கொலைக்கருவி மறைந்திருக்கும், பகைவர் அழுதுசொரிந்த கண்ணீரும் அத்தன்மையானதே. In hands that worship weapon ten hidden lies; Such are the tears that fall from foeman's eyes. A weapon may be hid in the very hands with which (one's) foes adore (him) (and) the tears they shed are of the same nature. குறள் 71 <https://www.ytamizh.com/thirukural/kural-71/>:அன்பிற்கும் உண்டோ அடைக்குந்தாழ் ஆர்வலர் புன்கணீர் பூசல் தரும். அன்புக்கும் அடைத்து வைக்கும் தாழ் உண்டோ? அன்புடையவரின் சிறு கண்ணீரே ( உள்ளே இருக்கும் அன்பைப் ) பலரும் அறிய வெளிப்படுத்திவிடும். And is there bar that can even love restrain? The tiny tear shall make the lover's secret plain Is there any fastening that can shut in love ? Tears of the affectionate will publish the love that is within Finally an old say: "ஏழை அழுத கண்ணீர் கூரிய வாளை ஓக்கும்." KR IRS 6521 On Thu, 6 May 2021 at 13:05, 'gopala krishnan' via iyer123 < [email protected]> wrote: > KANNU NEER THULLIYAE > > STHREEYODUPAMIKKAN… > > (Comparing tears to women) > Dear friends, > > Seeing deaths in the Covid situation, many for sudden attack of covid, > difficulty in providing oxygen, or after vaccination sudden heart attacks, > above all wandering to hospitals for a bed for the patient and difficulty > in funerals, there would be no person without shedding tears and shedding > tears on the worries of the wards away. > > I was rather wondering about the various situations in which tears appear > in our eye other than sorrow. > > I have seen Crocodile tears only in films and TV serials; I have seen > tears in cows, oxen, dogs, ass and elephants. They shed tears not only on > sorrow, but for many other reasons. > > Other than during crying, in many other occasions tears appear in our eyes > also. Identically tears appear in both eyes, other than some dust falling > or small harms while working etc. > > Sometimes I have felt tear is uncontrollable. Many times I have felt tear > in the nights and continue to come for NO REASONS and stop after a time of > its own. > > A sticky yellowish substance told as Peelza in Malayalam too appear in the > eyelids early morning, for aged it could be more. While eye diseases are > there *peelza (Eyelids Gum/rheum)* is more, sometimes binding two > eyelids. > > Washing with good water softly it falls down. Many times if one do not get > good sleep, the peelza could be seen in the eyes. > > A thinking to make a posting on tear was in my mind after tear simply came > in a night after repeated sniffing in many nights recently. > > Sincerely, > > Gopala Krishnan 6-5-2021 > > *1. Onnu oothikkae, onnuutae oothikkae…* > > I really enjoy the advertisement for the fragrant smell of its toothpaste > from Colgate. A Lady police officer checks for drunken driving, she asks > one driving person to blow in to her instrument from mouth. Feeling the > fragrant smell she in a beautiful style untie her hair and again ask to > blow in to her instrument with a smile and the above lines during the > context. > > Even a large dust particle during blowing of wind is sufficient for eye > irritation and tears appear to wash it away to the sides and fall down from > the eye. *But we cannot control smearing with finger in spite of doctor’s > warnings.* > > Blowing normally through the mouth is sufficient by another person, to fly > it off. Just look- a man cannot blow off a dust particle with his mouth > from the eye. He has to depend on some body- either for a sanyasin, a king > or a beggar!!! > > I recollect a scene from *Vietnam colony* where kanaka blow’s Mohanlal’s > eyes to remove dust fallen, and his calling Innocent, but innocent does not > turn up.Further scenes are for laugh. > > *2. Various instances I have felt tears come uncontrollably from the eye.* > > > During coughing, sneezing and vomiting I have felt tears coming from eye. > Though the above actions are through mouth and nose. Allergy coughs bring > more tears. > > *3. Dreams* > > Though many could not even recollect a fraction of a dream after seconds, > others may wake up one, *weeping in the dream and tears flowing.* Why > he/she was weeping? What was the dream? 98% could not say. > > *4. Tears on seeing scenes in films, TV serials, dramas and reading books.* > > > Many get one with character many people weep or cry during the above > occasions. First the face will change, and then weeping or crying. I have > seen tears coming during *“Aavesam*” during sastha preethi. Many touching > scenes in TV *while a person experience a similar situation* also brings > tears. > > 5. Crocodile tears > > Crocodiles do indeed shed tears. These tears contain proteins and > minerals. The tears help keep the eye clean and lubricate the nictitating > membrane, the translucent extra eyelid found in many animals. ... But they > also shed tears just from being on land for a while, whether or not they > are eating. > > *6. Tear gas.* > > Tear gas works by irritating mucous membranes in the eyes, nose, mouth and > lungs. It causes crying, sneezing, coughing, difficulty breathing, pain in > the eyes, and temporary blindness. Tear gas when applied by police the > crowds get dispersed on this account. > > *7. Crying and weeping actions* > > On those days for such scenes glycerine was applied on the eyes of actors. > Some actors have their face about to cry. Some actors even after glycerine > applied, tears would not come. > > *8. Tears with cows, dogs, donkeys and elephants* > > Many of these animals though understand our feelings, and join us on our > sorrowful occasions with tears falling from eyes, not eating food for days, > not moving for days, becomes less smart etc., still having no reasons one > can see a cow with tears flowing in the night. An elephant with marks of > flowing tears even during *ezhunnellippu *on them. They are not harmed or > made to cry. In dogs also I have seen this.I got the following reason on > google search. > > *All animals can shed tears. Tears are an important protection and > lubricant for the eye. They flush out* irritants and keep the eye wet to > enhance vision. But scientists like to presume that only humans cry > “emotional” tears while all the rest are caused by irritation of the eyes > > Today I could see *a faithful dog going in front of the person dead(His > master) and taken to funeral ground in yahoo opening page news. A touching > scene.* > > *9. Children and crying.* > > Small kids may cry due to hunger, pain or for nothing. *Adamant grownups > male/female may cry for getting things done.* *Women somehow shed more > tears for reasons or no reasons comparing to men.* > > *10 Crying room.* > > We have incidence of CRYING ROOMS in palaces. Kaikeyi, when King Dasaratha > not agreeing immediately to her requirements assured as vara, *started > crying and weeping in the crying room*. Not seeing her long time out > side, Dasaratha went to crying room to console her. > > When unable to control tears on sorrowful occasions mostly women go to > bedroom and lock the door/will not open on asking. *A common scene now in > TV serials.* > > *11. Kuchela and tears on happiness.* > > While meeting Krishna, his student mate, both Kuchela and Krishna shed > tears of happiness. But now a day tears on happiness are less with people. It > goes with expression in face. > > *12. Bible* > > I recollect in the middle school our head mistress Mariamma taught along > with lessons *the smallest sentence in Bible- Jesus wept. (Yeasu Kannu > neer vaarthu)* > > *13. Immortal* > > Many cine films, novels, books, poems have become immortal due to their > weeping, crying, tears flowing scenes, subject matter, actions etc. > *Murappennu, > Chemmeen, nalukettu, and some more recent Deasatanam*,samantharangal etc. > films are best examples. > > I think at least 99% of the viewers could not remain silent with shedding > tears on seeing DESATANAM in one occasion or other seeing the actions of > Veeraraghavan > and Late Unnikrishnan Nampoothiri. > > *14. Pin drop silence and weeping* > > I recollect a poetry recital scene while I was in Training centre > Trivandrum during an annual function. One of the lady trainee selected poem > recital. *While she recited with the introduction of topic itself, the > hall became silent*. > > When she continued to recite with proper pitch and tone, by wiping tears > from her face sometimes hall became pin drop silent and *many started to > wipe tears getting absorbed to the incident.* > > The poem was MAMPAZHAM by Vailoppalli Sreedhara menon. For new readers I > will add the starting lines coming to memory > > “Angana thaimavil ninnu > > Aadyatthae pazham veezkae > > Ammathan nethrathil ninnu > > Uhirnnu CHUTU KANNER… “From our eyes also. > > Writer- My title is from Movie: Panitheeratha Veedu (1973) Lyrics: Vayalar > Music: M.S.Viswanathan Singer: M.S.Viswanathan Kannuneer thulliye > sthreeyodupamicha. 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