69! Yesterday! Ugh. Double ugh! At least, I got to dive into Susan's deliciously wicked birthday cheese cake it took her two days to bake. Yesterday shouldn't have been. My three mile power walk this morning shouldn't have been. By all odds, I should be dead from a massive cerebral hemorrahage not many survive. But, Im not. Here I am, alive, as one of those very lucky ones. Of what and of whom is there to be afraid after surviving something like that? What today is there not to appreciate after that? For what today is there not to be grateful? And so, though I just turned 69, I don't feel--I refuse to feel--in any way spiritually, emotionally, mentally, or physically decrepit. I pride myself that I am keeping my body and soul in peak shape. I feel, as I impishly label myself, that I am a spry "experienced teenager." I've learned from experience, whether it was my epiphany in '91 or beating cancer in '04 or coming out from this hemorrahage as if nothing had happened, that the greater part of happiness or misery depends on my dispositions and not on my circumstances or on others. Oh, sure, we can and do blame students, administrators, colleagues, something called "the system," something equally ethereal called "society," and now the economy for a "the devil made me do it" attitude. It's easier that way. The problem with blame is that you surrender your independence, your sense of control, your self-control, your inner peace, your inner harmony, your self-respect, and enslave yourself to the beckoned call of circumstances and others. You make yourself into the proverbial leaf helplessly thrown about by the wind. But, in the end, attitudes and feelings and actions are all us. Situations and other people do not create feelings. Nothing or no one can make us mad, for example, we do that to ourselves. We each have to take the responsibility for whom we are; that we create whatever feeling we wish to feel, whatever attitudes we wish to have, whatever actions we wish to take, in each particular situation with each particular person. Why are some people happy and other people sad, determined or resign, in the same circumstance? It's because that is how each has chosen to be.
The problem or the solution, then, is that when we respond the same way often enough, it becomes an unthinking habit. Feelings seem to come automatically, even though they never have to be. We can unlearn, break old habits, learn, and acquire new habits. The way we feel about what we do, about the purpose and meaning of what we do, about students and colleagues and administrators was and is and will be a choice, conscious or otherwise. When we do take that responsibility, we acquire control over ourselves and, more importantly, find an inner calm. And, then, we can choose to change, to let go of, to create, and/or build upon what we feel. I once said that growing pains aren't only for children. Ph.D. isn't Latin for "Complete." We each should walk around with a sign hanging around our necks reading, "Under Construction." Why? Because who we are is not determined and defined by what we have accomplished and already know; who we are is determined and defined by what we're willing to learn, reflect about, and change toward. Surviving my hemorrahage has taught me that my feelings profoundly influence the life I experience and I am responsible for the selection that gives real power to the purpose and meaning and significance that lives within me and what I wish to do. I define me by what I love to do, by my curiosity and imagination and creativity, by my personal vision, by my sense of purpose, by my sense of meaning, by my sense of significance, by the difference I strive to be, by whom I have become, by whom I strive to become, not by what others think of me or want me to do. I define myself by reaching out to touch a student, and thereby change the world and alter the future. To do that I've said over and over and over again that I want to be that person who is there to help a student help herself or himself become the person she or he is capable of becoming. It's a feeling that stirred when I had my epiphany in 1991. It is even stronger now that I've survived unscathed that cerebral hemorrahage. When you've done it, when you've smelled it, when you've felt it, when you've tasted it, it feels so significant, so satisfying and so fulfilling, that you want to do it again and again and again. What drives me is an unquenchable thirst for adding value to the lives of others. It is that sense of significance, that sense of mission, that purpose, that sense of meaning. I'm as much if not more passionate; it drives me to work harder, to find new ways, to do more, to give more, to be more dedicated and focused, to be more aware, to be more alive, to be more empathetic, to be more compassionate, to have a greater sensitivity to those around me, to have a deeper sense of otherness. I consciously work every day to be sure that I am proud of what I do and of who I am, and that I hit the sack at night with a satisfied "yeah." I'm always adapting, adopting, reshuffling, reloading, retooling, especially this semester when I unexpected got blind-sided by a change in copyright laws that nearly gutted all my classes. It's not easy; it's not quick; it's not automatic. There's no rabbit to be pulled out from the hat. There's no magic wand. It's challenging; it's not neat; it's not even pretty; it's a never-ending story; it's demanding of time, energy, and attention. How long will this elation and dedication last? I don't know. But, I do know three things. First, I learned that fulfillment is in the creating, doing, and giving. It comes from having--no, making--an opportunity to make a difference, and doing it generously and with abandon. Second, curiosity and imagination and creativity are more than looking at stuff, dreaming about stuff, making stuff up, and making stuff. They are about expressing, in all sorts of limitless ways, what it means to be immersed in a limitless set of challenges, opportunities, and possibilities, and putting your own special stamp on them. . And finally, I learned from my cerebral hemorrahage to concentrate only on today. So, as long as I am in physical, mental, and spiritual shape, I'll keep enjoying the dickens out of whatever and whoever are today. Think about it. This morning after the birthday before, I got out of bed, jumped out of bed, as I do every morning and will in mornings to come, ready to dance with Susan and then skip to class, with an invigorating, meaningful, purposeful, and significant "yes!" Today, I get to do what I love doing and doing what I love with people whom I love. And, this pre-dawn morning, after a cleansing three mile power walk, I had the added pleasure of downing a huge smile-inducing, artery-clogging, caloric overdosing slice of Susan's scrumptiously sinful birthday cheese cake. 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