this is so profound, its not what you say but how you say it, and you have to build someone up in love and build relationship before you can effectively render a rebuke.
There is actually a verse in the Bible that says we ought to speak the truth in love. I find that many times we focus on speaking the truth but we don`t ensure that it is done in love. It people can tell the difference hey. It can make the difference between an offense and becoming better after you have received constructive criticism. On Thu, Nov 18, 2010 at 9:45 AM, Tinashe Musere <[email protected]>wrote: > very true > > personally I have often found my self falling into the trap if fear > and religiousness, were instead of rebuking a brethren out of love i > find my self being more worried about how they will take it, how they > will feel, are they not going to feel ashamed/ embarassed or are we > going to continue being friends after this rebuke. > > Pst Imelda Tsumba once taught me that "its not what we say to people > that matters, but its how we say it that does" This has changed my > perspective and approach to life with regard to open rebuke. This > means i can say "anything to anyone" in the (right way). By > exeperience i have learnt that it is very true some brethren have said > rebukes that i did not take lightly at the time, because in some of > instances i will doing the thing i am being rebuked for not realising > it was wrong, but after the rebuke i then start to see the error and i > end up much closer to that person more than i was before they spoke to > me. > > I have had to rebuke also and in some cases the person is > uncomfortable to be around me for a season but once they realise the > rebuke was out of genuine love they then come back and they actually > become much closer. > > -- > Best Regards > > Tinashe Musere > May God continue to shower His Blessings on you! > > -- > You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups > "tribewithavibe" group. > To post to this group, send email to [email protected]. > To unsubscribe from this group, send email to > [email protected]<tribewithavibe%[email protected]> > . > For more options, visit this group at > http://groups.google.com/group/tribewithavibe?hl=en. > > -- ....Loving God includes loving people. You`ve got to love both. 1 John 4:21 (MSG) -- You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "tribewithavibe" group. To post to this group, send email to [email protected]. To unsubscribe from this group, send email to [email protected]. For more options, visit this group at http://groups.google.com/group/tribewithavibe?hl=en.
