ToastMasters does not have the I-Beam as part of its charter, this was merely a brilliant speech that I heard when attending a TM meeting.
--Bill -----Original Message----- From: u2-users-boun...@listserver.u2ug.org [mailto:u2-users-boun...@listserver.u2ug.org] On Behalf Of Charlie Noah Sent: Friday, March 18, 2011 8:44 PM To: U2 Users List Subject: Re: [U2] U2UG Elections 2010 - Request For Comment - The I-Beam Hi Bill, First, "I" believe what "you" say. I just find it hard to accept that ToastMasters, a fine and well-respected organization, would want everyone to always say "I", and never say "you". Personally, if someone I was dealing with constantly said "I this" and "I that", I would tune them out very quickly. Most people would rather hear about themselves than the speaker. Now, denigrating someone while saying "you" is something else again. So, the context of the message is the important thing, not being sure never to say "you". Just my 2 cents - admittedly 2 cents is not worth much these days. ;-) All that being said, I have read your posts often over the years, and find you to be both knowledgeable and honorable. Oops, should I not have said "you" there? <big good old southern boy grin> Charlie Noah Charles W. Noah Associates cwn...@comcast.net The views and opinions expressed herein are my own (Charlie Noah) and do not necessarily reflect the views, positions or policies of any of my former, current or future employers, employees, clients, friends, enemies or anyone else who might take exception to them. On 03-18-2011 7:14 PM, Bill Brutzman wrote: > I learned about the "I-Beam of Interpersonal Communications" at a > ToastMasters meeting. > > The idea is to stop using the word "you" altogether. Easier said than done. > > The beauty of the I-Beam is that it removes blaming others. > > Thus... > > "I wish that Rocket would see that 123 and then did ABC along the lines > of XYZ..." > > "I am in favor of..." > > "I am not in favor of..." are decent I-Beam constructs. > > On the other hand... > > "YOU are a dirty rotten bungling oaf and it is all YOUR fault." This > of course not I-Beam. It uses the inflamatory blame word (YOU). The word > YOU is toxic. > > --Bill > > > _______________________________________________ > U2-Users mailing list > U2-Users@listserver.u2ug.org > http://listserver.u2ug.org/mailman/listinfo/u2-users > _______________________________________________ U2-Users mailing list U2-Users@listserver.u2ug.org http://listserver.u2ug.org/mailman/listinfo/u2-users _______________________________________________ U2-Users mailing list U2-Users@listserver.u2ug.org http://listserver.u2ug.org/mailman/listinfo/u2-users
