Steven, I hope everything goes well, and safely, for you and yours. I've dealt with similar things before, albeit with a machine in my hands that would be far more effective than any modern donut-monster. Thankfully, I never had to use it.
One thing I am not entirely clear on, why did the cop not let you go to your wife? Did he suspect you were up to something? Were the people in the neighborhood even informed of what was going on? It almost sounds as if the police had little regard for the people IN that neighborhood, including your wife. Another off-topic: here in the buttcrack of America (Buffalo, NY), some football kicking bonehead arrived and was given the key to the city by mayor Byron Brown. When some complaints were raised as to how this man was treated so much better than any of the other people here, including top researchers at Roswell Park Cancer Institute, one of whom developed the PSA test for prostate cancer. Mayor Brown, in his infinite wisdom, responded that no scientist or researcher has ever drawn media attention to Buffalo. I suggest Brown be nominated "Dick of the Year, 2009" His son can join him; using his mayoral powers, and pleading against 'racial profiling,' Mayor Brown managed to get the troubled lad off damn-near scot-free of grand theft auto and leaving the scene of an accident. --Kyle