Yeah, Ellen - I've done that too, not just in "relationships" but in other circumstances with other people. I found it most annoying to crank myself up to *speak*, to do it carefully and cleanly (not empty the gunnysack), and find, whew, great relief, person responded that they heard and understood... All is well. And then after a little time I noticed that NOTHING HAD CHANGED. So you try again... Same results.
I've concluded that, generally speaking, if you have to tell somebody something, they ain't gonna hear it. If they were able to hear and adjust, they would be *okay* to start with. Very seldom does it have any effect. (Still, its' better than hinting...which is just as frustrating and annoying for all concerned, but leaves you open to being accused of not being straight.) _________________________________________________________________ News, entertainment and everything you care about at Live.com. Get it now! http://www.live.com/getstarted.aspx
