Does a dog have Romantic-nature?
("Truth once spoken is no longer truth.")
--- In [email protected], Maria Lopez <flordeloto@...> wrote:
>
> Mike:
>
> It's good to hear that you're not trying to run away of the romance
present moment putting as an excuse the necessity of attending retreats
away from your girlfriend. I wasn't thinking in the terms of you being
about to break up. Previous post, tried to point it out that since
romance has called to your door that it would be a real shame to loose
such an experience of life. Those precious moments while a romance is at
its hight pitch of togetherness iwith the other person, attraction,
beauty, love, passion.... etc. What a shame It would be to loose such
all that because of different fears pushing one to run away to
retreats. I mean everyone knows their own doings but finding kind of sad
for people who are not monastics to put first a retreat rather than the
partner next to them and going to that retreat on their own and without
the partner. But this is just me. I suppose I'm an old fashion
romantic type of person whose partner comes first of everything, I
would only be choosing to go to a retreat while having a boyfriend
because of a fight with him or something not going well in the
relationship. When things work in a romance I never had the necessity to
go to any retreat because I find everything I need by living to the
full the present moment with that romance. I don't know.
>
> Mayka
> Hi Mayka,
> Thanks for your advice and support, but... I'm not anywhere near
breaking up with my girlfriend!! What I meant was that on the retreat I
really missed her and so suffered due to the attachment. What I also
found was that bringing myself to the present moment actually made
things worse as it brought it home to me quite vividly that she wasn't
there. This made me restless, panicky and gave me thoughts of escaping
the retreat etc. What worked was the realisation that this suffering was
impermanent (I fully inderstood that the minor seperation was
impermanent) and was brought on by my strong attachment to my gf. Only
them was I able to allow myself back into the present moment and
concentrate what was before me (namely 12
> hours a day of meditation!). Anyway, you'll always have friends here
to call on if you ever find yourself in emotional trouble : )
> Metta
> Mike
