--- On Thu, 12/5/11, Maria Lopez <[email protected]> wrote:
But finding particularly difficult flowing with impermanence in a
relationship. One gets very quickly attach to some moments during a
relationship in a way that if that change, one tries at all cost to have the
same moment or alike back!. It's so true that statement that we don't suffer
due to impermance but due to the believe that things are permanent.
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MEL: Thank you for the reminder Mayka. Wow, I can so much relate to this
dualistic way of suffering due to attachment to permanence...for all things. It
takes heart to really learn the lesson from above through practise, but I hope
one day to cross this threshold
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I'd like to ask to all how do you get on with impermanence?.
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MEL: Not easy..not easy at all..
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What are your experiences here?.
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MEL: I've always thought of myself as indestructible, and so full of
Cassanova-like charm for years. The arrival of arthritis, gout, and other
ailments on my ageing body, and public humiliation suffered for running twice
after young girls (with issues) almost half my age who were already in
committed relationships changed much of my old thinking. It was a very, hard
change in life. Suddenly thinking like an elder (practically overnight) was a
very sharp turn, and which I've been doing for a few years now
A part of me misses so much those youthful years of the 70s-80s period..but it
doesn't take me long to realize this to be just plain nuts
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Do you struggle with it?
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MEL: Yes, I struggle with it but things are getting better. Much of the pain of
change lessens as the years go by. (Shunryu)Suzuki-sensei spoke of beautiful
things as being out of balance. Imbalanced, and yet at one with the balanced
surroundings. All things beautiful are such because they're imbalanced. My
added thinking to this however, is that nothing stays imbalanced/balanced
forever. One can see this quite clearly with our own planet, and what it has
been going through in the last number of years so far
(Shunryu)Suzuki-sensei also spoke of the need for 'weeds' in our life. We all
need such 'weeds', for they nourish our proper spiritual growth. And so the
beauty and 'weeds' as such that have been in my life as described above are the
great Buddha's teachings and compassion
It will not be easy. A 'horse' like myself could be led by the great Buddha to
the waters of compassion....but it is up to me (if I have heart) to 'drink and
quench my thirst'
Buddha be praised
Mel
