Rajesh, Why cant you do the planning with your wife-make a list of invitees, decide the menu, decide what has to be cooked and what has to be ordered, what games have to be played etc. You can also do the arranging-since you know the space and the locations of chairs etc. You are very particular and exact and would probably execute very well and to the finer details. You know that I am single and the only child and I have a senior citizen mother who wont give concessions for my disability. There are some things I can do and some things I can do better than sighted people and some things I cannot do and some things I can do but it takes more time than sighted people. I know it takes more time always. Its very easy to put it on someone else but if you have no one else then you have to learn to do it. I am not bosting or trying to boost my confidence. I am just as scared as Turab but I have a belief that whatever has to be done will turn out to be OK. So I don’t dwell on repercussions. This may be right or wrong but this is how I have grown up. The last thing I can share here is that when I was very young my father taught me not to think of the fruits of the action but to keep doing what you have to do-Turab this is for you. Kanchan -----Original Message----- From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf Of Sona Suresh Sent: 15 November 2019 12:27 To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning the disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] Bargaining power being limited by disability
you are right avinashji, it depends on family structure. if both the parents are disabled then we get major role in all the functions. in my home both of us are visually impaired. our son's birthday party or any function related our house we actively participate in arrangements. i feel if one partner is sighted then definately it will happen what you said. i have seen some visually impaired friend's families where wife is sighted and she takes mmajor decisions in arranging things. husband gives only money but cannot participate in arrangements of functions. though he knows more his opinions are not considered much. On 11/15/19, avinash shahi <shahi88avin...@gmail.com> wrote: > It sounds you are thinking too much sir,. > I have attended birthday parties of kids whose both parants are > totally blind. They plan and execute arrangements quite well amidst > limitations. But I agree if a blind person is in minority in his/her > family then he/she refrains from doing those things which he/she would > happily do otherwise in his/her community of blind people. > > On 11/15/19, Asudani, Rajesh <rajeshasud...@rbi.org.in> wrote: >> Disability is a supervening factor. >> It affects not only bargaining power, but all facets of life. >> >> Let the deniers deny that endlessly to boast their self confidence. >> >> For Instance, my son is celebrating his eighth birthday today and I >> find myself highly restricted to do anything significant for the >> occasion, while my wife is busy arranging and planning without >> blaming me. >> >> >> सादर / With thanks & Regards >> राजेश आसुदानी Rajesh Asudani >> सहायक महाप्रबन्धक AGM >> बाजार आसूचना ईकाई MIU >> भारतीय रिजर्व बैंक Reserve Bank of India नागपुर Nagpur >> >> 0712 2806846 >> >> President >> VIBEWA >> Co-Moderator >> VIB-India >> President >> DARE-Disability Advocacy, Research and Education A-pilll = Action >> coupled with Positivity, Interest, Love, Logic and laughter >> >> -----Original Message----- >> From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On >> Behalf Of turab chimthanawala >> Sent: 14 November 2019 18:04 >> To: accessindia >> Subject: [AI] Bargaining power being limited by disability >> >> Hi all, >> While I have come a long way in terms of acceptance and independenb >> operation with disability, a couple of days back as I was upset with >> my mother for calling out out my domestic help for a filthy kitchen >> (out of a fear that she might not come to work the following day). 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