hi, sorry about what happened to u, and it was very brave of you to face such a situation all on your own. my only advise to u and any1 else lodging a complaint, is to try as much as possible not to take back the complaint. the police will generally keep pressurising and emotionally blackmailing u to take it back in order to reduce their own paperwork. but it is very important that u stick to your grounds even if your the only 1 on your side. so dont let things go till the official f i r is written, or the necessary chalaan is innitiated. if peple have the audacity to misbehave like this, then they deserve only to face legal consequences. anyway may u retain the courage to face up to such broots always and fight back. best wishes.
On 8/26/13, sonu yadav <sonuyadav.invinci...@gmail.com> wrote: > Hi friends, I am a regularreader of this list. Today I want to share > an incident with you all which is making me said and angery both and > moving my inner conscience. although it may be out of the scope of > this list but I feel our visual disability is in the centre of this > incident in which I happened to get involved today. This incident is > about our day today accessibility, experiences which we ordinarily > face outside and even more in the society. It has enriched my > experience as being disabled. I am expecting your comments and remarks > over it and about what we all should do in such circumstances. > Now I straight do come to the incident. I was happened to travel to my > hometown along with another visually challenged friend Baljeet from > Gurgaon where I came for some urgent work. A private buss which I knew > was heading to our location. Conductor misguided us and physically > forcing us for not to board this buss. Despite we got in to the buss > by equal force as many of you would have done at any point in your > life more in case of private busses. My friend alighted on his > destination before me. I communicated to the conductor that I may > inform the PCR if he behaved in such an offending manner especially > when I was ready to pay the fair. In a fit of anger he said to me “ek > kan par marunga”. I will blow on your ear. i got literally afraid. If > it punctured my airdrum though law will take its course but I will > never get my ear back. Therefore, at that time I thought wishful to > remain silent. Even many of the gentlemen and gentle ladies commuters > were saying that: “are buss men baitha to liya na. tumhe isiliye koi > baithata hi nahi hai”. I tried to make them convince and understand in > a soft voice in my best capacity but they were adamant. Some of others > were saying “are Kuch nahi hua seat to mil gain a ab chup-chap baith > jao”. At last I phoned to PCR. Despite my repeated exhortation > conductor refuse to talk to the PCR. Even he refused to divulge body > number of the buss as PCR was asking the buss number. Even the worst > part is that no passenger was ready to tell me the same. Anyhow I > could manage to inform the location of the buss. The other worst part > was that PCR informed me that police is waiting for the buss at a > distance of around seven KM from the location of the buss. I wonder if > it is the case in Gurgaon than what might be the condition in smaller > and far-flung cities and villages. For this reason I didn’t get down > on my destination as which was before that. Even conductor taunted me > “are vaikil sahib aap ka stoppage AAA Gaya” one co-passenger lady said > to conductor: “are aaj to ye tumhe hathkadi hi pahana kar maanega”. > “Isiliye to tumhe koi baithata nahi hai. ek tobuss men baitha bhi > liyaoopar se tum uski complaint kar rahe ho”. “kuch bhi to aisa nahi > hua.” After police barricaded the buss, conductor and driver all > began apologizing and at the same time feigned their innocence in the > matter as if they did not know anything about it, They pretended that > any such thing didn’t occurred and they did not in indulge anything of > sort. Some of the Passengers also took their sides. They were many but > I argued my case with them for almost one hour. Anyhow after heated > arguments I was able to compel police to chalan the buss as initially > they were not ready to do. Cutting it short conductor and driver > profusely apologized to me and emotionally blackmailed me by all means > and methods that they knew. Now Police was ready to issue Chalan now > it was all up to my will. He was swearing in the name of Ramadan at > another occasion he said that I am also Yadav of your community. Here > my purpose is not to comment on any religion but to expose his lies. > At this point police played their usual spoiler. Although I refused to > share contact details any of my family members. Perhaps in their mind > they knew that only my family members could convince me take back my > complaint. they took me along with them to drop me at my home as they > were not ready to let me go on my home though I insisted several > times that I am adult and you do talk to me as it has occurred with > me. When they didn’t yielded I have to go with them to my home. Now > all driver, conductor and police began to apologize and convince all > my family members and brothers and uncles to persuade me to take back > the complaint. There also police was stating that they were ready to > Chelan the buss and they have to if I still insisted. Although > initially I refused to take back the complaint at no cost but under > moral pressure and prolonged persuasion especially by my family > members I felt compelled to take back the complaint otherwise Chalan > was certain. Here the incident ends. > Here my feeling is that at large society either it is police, bus > operators, or passengers and sometimes our family members don’t seem > to understand our struggle. It doesn’t cost anything to my family > members to let that bus driver and conductor go unpunished. Instead > they got the credit and bountiful appreciation for mediation. At that > time they forgot and failed to understand and feel the struggle and > agony I underwent during that all and in putting my case. Perhaps they > don’t know the struggle we face outside as being disabled. I am > feeling sad but somewhat satisfied that at least I reached so close > perhaps driver and conductor would take some lesson from this. But I > am said that even our families don’t understand us. Though I guess > that some of you may support and subscribe to the views and action of > my family. But at least from my family even if they are part of my > extended joint family I expect them to support me instead of moved by > crocodile tears of buss driver and conductor. They need to > cooperative and empathize to our pain, struggle and rights. It is > because of such some insensitive people in the society such as these > protagonists passengers, driver, conductor and policemen people with > disability and even others also face types of problems. face it is > bitter but true. What do you think friends? > Sonu Yadav > PHD research scholar JNU CHS/SSS > > Register at the dedicated AccessIndia list for discussing accessibility of > mobile phones / Tabs on: > http://mail.accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/mobile.accessindia_accessindia.org.in > > > Search for old postings at: > http://www.mail-archive.com/accessindia@accessindia.org.in/ > > To unsubscribe send a message to > accessindia-requ...@accessindia.org.in > with the subject unsubscribe. > > To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, please > visit the list home page at > http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in > > > Disclaimer: > 1. Contents of the mails, factual, or otherwise, reflect the thinking of the > person sending the mail and AI in no way relates itself to its veracity; > > 2. 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