----- Original Message ----- From: "Dan Minette" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: "Killer Bs Discussion" <brin-l@mccmedia.com> Sent: Sunday, May 01, 2005 9:37 PM Subject: Re: Co-dependency
> > ----- Original Message ----- > From: "Keith Henson" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > To: "Killer Bs Discussion" <brin-l@mccmedia.com> > Sent: Sunday, May 01, 2005 9:26 PM > Subject: Re: Co-dependency > > > > At 03:35 PM 01/05/05 -0500, Dan Minette wrote: > > > > snip > > > > >I thought about this a while, and can't see the link. For example, how > is > > >a battered women who thinks the battering is her own fault, and that it > > >would stop if she were just a decent wife self-righteous? This type of > > >behavior is often associated with very low self esteem, which is not > > >associated with self-righteousness. It's closer to buying into the > > >abuser's world. > > > > Battered wife syndrome is closely related to Stockholm syndrome, more > > descriptively capture-bonding. Capture-bonding lies behind a frat hazing > > and military basic training among other things. It accounts for events > > like Patty Hearst and Elizabeth Smart. > > > > http://human-nature.com/nibbs/02/cults.pdf > > > > During an awful lot of human history you died if you didn't have the > > ability to bond to the people who had captured you and were abusing > > you. That why it is so hard for women to leave abusive situations, there > > capture bonding psychological mechanism has been activated. > > With all due respect, Keith, how familiar are you with the literature on > abusers returning to their spouse? ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ abused spouses returning to their abusers? _______________________________________________ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
