> (b) I don't like giving up control to someone else. (In Maia's terms, I like > being 'in control' and 'taking care of' the other dancers.) I simply don't > like ceding all agency, in general, and I have never relied on the gent role > to tell me where I am going when contradancing. I can imagine it could be > sweet to feel that someone else is taking care of you, but what if they're > taking you down the wrong path? Or what if they're forcibly making you do > something you just don't want to do? Or what if they have no clue? No > thanks.
Perhaps part of the problem is that this is what people are hearing when they hear "lead/follow." But a good lead-follow experience *is* a team sport, *is* about give-and-take, communication, offers from both sides, and all the rest of it. Don't let terrible dancing define dancing! Louise.
