someone and became upset. They're upset with you because you took it
out on someone whose only crime was to try to be funny. You've made
yourself look worse by trying to rationalize this rather than simply
apologizing (unless I missed the part of the thread when you did).
It is unfortunate that you were mislead by what someone said. I suspect
that if you'd brought that up in a separate post, many people would have
been more sympathetic. I know I would.
Everyone has flaws, and everyone has bad days. The best of us lash out
at inappropriate times. This is why we have apology and forgiveness.
In short (too late!) I don't fault you for being upset. I just think
that your behavior was rude, and that your expectation that we just take
it is inconsiderate.
--Ben
Chunshen (Don) Li wrote:
> First of all, let me say, I'm a man of flaws and all that. Now, let
> me also say this, I believe "pleasantry" is part of civilization,
> back many many snows and moons ago, I was accompanying a group of
> people(officials) visiting Beijing, on one occasion, we saw two
> Chinese women, one was trying to give a gift to the other and the
> other were trying to say, it's too good so she could not accept (sort
> of thing), so, they kept on pushing the gift between them, on and on,
> forever ... I told the people around me, I hate that, to me what a
> waste of time, if I were the other party, and if I really liked it, I
> would take it and thank the giver, otherwise, I would make it firm,
> "I love it but I won't take it (or I can't take it)" (the "I love it"
> to show appreciation while the "I won't take it" delivers my intent.
> Now, fast forward, now not then, that particular "pleasantry" I
> encountered sucks, and maybe, that's why sometimes I'm called
> "beast". Sorry, now I feel better.
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