Sounds like a jerk, no he's demonstrated in the first sentance that he
is a jerk. Actually I'd say major ass. The sort of person its not
worth getting upset over.
larry
On 7/8/05, Deanna Schneider <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
> Well, while I don't really get the poly lifestyle (trying to stay
> emotionally connected to one man is enough, thanks), I definitely get
> the distinction between poly and swinger.
>
> And, yah, that guy sounds like a jerk.
>
> On 7/8/05, S. Isaac Dealey <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
> > So... I'm sorry if some of you find this beyond the pale for the list,
> > but you know, the HOF community lately is my only social outlet (as
> > sad as that sounds), because my social groups in south Florida eroded
> > while I was away last year.
> >
> > Many of you know that Tiff and I are bi/polyamorous -- or at least we
> > consider ourselves to be, although in the past 5 years we've not found
> > anyone we've been able to develop a good long-term poly relationship
> > with. Tiff is subscribed to a number of poly mailing lists and
> > yesterday someone posted an introduction on one of those lists saying
> > they were poly and providing a link to their site/profile/whatever...
> > So Tiff checked it out and it's all about sex/swinging -- the term
> > polyamory (or any variation) isn't mentioned anywhere, just sex, sex
> > and some more sex. So rather than lambast them (which happens to
> > swingers who wander on to the wrong poly lists), Tiff sent a reply
> > saying simply that it was a poly list and that as such they weren't
> > very likely to receive the kind of response ("hey, ya wanna hook up?")
> > they were likely interested in from that list. Apparently someone else
> > on the list (not the moderator) took offense and lambasted her for
> > pointing out the distinction between people who typically identify as
> > poly ("relationships -- 'multiple _loves_' -- sex is good with people
> > you love") and people who typically identify as swingers ("sex --
> > probably only sex -- in many cases, 'love' with more than one person
> > is scary and avoided like the plague").
> >
> > Excerpt from his response:
> >
> > ---------------------------
> >
> > My impression of a poly gathering so far is that bunch of unfuckables
> > are coming together to prove their worth. Cuz if they know they are
> > sexy, why stop when chemistry is right? Do we want to limit ourselves
> > by definitions? Or do we want our love to be unlimited? Who can
> > distinguish the purpose of sex from the purpose of relating? How can
> > one relate to another without the ultimate closeness of genital
> > contact? My brain hurts from these questions and too much tequilla...
> > Cudos to all of you who know me in bed and yet did not form a
> > relationship.. Next life, maybe..
> >
> > ---------------------------
> >
> > I dunno... it just seems to me like any reasonable person with a
> > diverse set of emotions (like, I think most people have) should be
> > able to tell the difference between someone who wants to _know_ you
> > (your loves, your hates, your quirks, the "art" of you) and someone
> > who just wants to get in your pants because they're addicted to the
> > endorphine release of orgasm.
> >
> > For instance -- the "art" of Jim Davis (if you pay attention, there's
> > a very definate style to all of his emails, a certain way he talks,
> > and the way he uses the ^ character in emoticons) is very different
> > from the "art" of mtangry (this is self-explanatory isn't it?) or Tony
> > Weed... err... I mean Weeg. :) My moods vary (I hope most people's do)
> > and although I'm not sexually attracted to _any_ of the
> > afforementioned men (no offense guys, you're just not my type. :) I
> > enjoy "hanging out" and talking about things (I hope most people do)
> > and that experience would be different with each of them so I'd like
> > to think it's natural that as my moods change, I would want to spend
> > that time talking with different people. I wouldn't go pal-around with
> > Jim when I'm mtAngry, because Jim doesn't seem like the sort of person
> > who'd enjoy that mood. And I'm not likely to hang out with Tony much
> > at all because, well, I don't know how to inhale. :P
> >
> > No wonder so many self-identified "poly people" have that knee-jerk
> > response to swingers... <sigh>
> >
> > FUCK-WIT!
> >
> > /end rant...
> >
> > yeah, I'm in one of those mtAngry moods...
> >
> >
> > s. isaac dealey 954.522.6080
> > new epoch : isn't it time for a change?
> >
> > add features without fixtures with
> > the onTap open source framework
> >
> > http://www.fusiontap.com
> > http://coldfusion.sys-con.com/author/4806Dealey.htm
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
>
>
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