Thats a little mean to call someone pitiful codependent freak ;) You should be a smidge more understanding of the disorder before ya yammer about how pitiful someone is ;)
Face it we all do somethings that are pitiful ya know like me i bite my toe nails *JUST KIDDING* hehe Bill Wheatley Director of Development AEPS INC www.aeps.com Macromedia ColdFusion Alliance Consulting Partner Macromedia ColdFusion 5.0 Certified Developer 954-472-6684 X303 ICQ: 417645 ----- Original Message ----- From: "Braver, Ben" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: "CF-Community" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> Sent: Monday, April 08, 2002 4:38 PM Subject: RE: Egypt: Land of the Gods > I'm a man who would LOVE to be a "loser" - > guess I need to decrease the food and increase the exercise... > <sigh> > :-) > -Ben > > > > -----Original Message----- > > From: Erika L. Walker-Arnold [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > > Sent: Saturday, April 06, 2002 2:52 PM > > To: CF-Community > > Subject: RE: Egypt: Land of the Gods > > > > > > Having been in a very, very long (8 years), good/bad > > relationship with a man > > who has a gambling problem, that codependency thing .... it's > > a hard thing > > to shake. > > > > We know the man is a loser...or should I say, not right for > > us, but we love > > them. We think they need us, because nothing else is right in > > their lives > > .. only to find out, we were not anywhere close to the top of their > > priority list, no matter how much they said we were. > > > > He was never mean to me. Helped with the dishes, the laundry, did the > > shopping, but in the end, because of gambling, everything > > disintegrated. I > > ended up supporting the both of us. > > > > It took me two years to break up with him, because it killed > > me to hurt him, > > but in the end it was only hurting me, but I have to say, I > > would do it all > > over again, because the path I took led me to Phil, the > > choices I made, gave > > me the opportunity to be where I am today. We had tons of > > great times, but > > I'll never forget the lessons I learned. > > > > She may, someday, see that she is in a dead-end road, and > > hopefully, she > > will have learned something. > > > > Erika > > ------------------------------------------------------------ > > > > >>|-----Original Message----- > > >>|From: Beth Fleischer [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > > >>| > > >>|Because she is a pitiful codependent freak. > > >>| > > >>|----- Original Message ----- > > >>|From: "Howard Owens" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > > >>|To: "CF-Community" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > > >>|Sent: Friday, April 05, 2002 9:38 PM > > >>|Subject: RE: Egypt: Land of the Gods > > >>| > > >>| > > >>|> Why does she stay with this loser? > > >>|> > > >>|> One of the discussions my wife and I have all the time -- > > >>|cause it drives > > >>|> her up the wall -- is women who make bad choices in > > >>|boyfriends/husbands. > > >>|> She has a couple of friends who have been in one bad > > relationship after > > >>|> another. When she tells them they should find a nice stable guy, > > >>|employed, > > >>|> a little nerdy, not living the fast life, they say, "Oh, a guy > > >>|like that > > >>|> wouldn't be enough of a challenge; he wouldn't be > > interesting enough." > > >>|Some > > >>|> women want it all -- a guy who is wild, carefree, dangerous, > > >>|but doesn't > > >>|> sleep around or abuse them or use them. Good luck > > finding that guy. > > >>|> > > >>|> H. > > >>|> > > >>|> > > >>|> -----Original Message----- > > >>|> From: Beth F [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > > >>|> Sent: Friday, April 05, 2002 1:55 PM > > >>|> To: CF-Community > > >>|> Subject: Re: Egypt: Land of the Gods > > >>|> > > >>|> > > >>|> I forgot the kicker- he spends all her money on drugs too > > >>|> > > >>|> > > >>|> ----- Original Message ----- > > >>|> From: "Larry C. Lyons" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > > >>|> To: "CF-Community" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > > >>|> Sent: Friday, April 05, 2002 11:54 AM > > >>|> Subject: Re: Egypt: Land of the Gods > > >>|> > > >>|> > > >>|> > Seems to me that friend's husband is thinking he has a > > >>|pretty good deal, > > >>|> > she supports him, cleans up after him, etc. It sounds > > like he has a > > >>|> servant > > >>|> > rather than a wife. > > >>|> > > > >>|> > larry > > >>|> > > > >>|> > > > >>|> > At 09:46 AM 4/5/02 -0900, you wrote: > > >>|> > > > Wait a minute. What about when a woman marries a man > > >>|who tells her > > >>|> that > > >>|> > >it is her responsibility to cook, clean, etc.? Isn't > > her choice to > > >>|marry > > >>|> a > > >>|> > >man like that the same as choosing it herself? Do you take > > >>|issue with > > >>|> what > > >>|> > >she's being told to do or the fact that she's being told to do > > >>|anything? > > >>|> > > > > >>|> > > > > >>|> > >Well as far as my relationships go, I personally don't > > >>|think partners > > >>|> should > > >>|> > >TELL each other to do anything - they ask. > > >>|> > > > > >>|> > >If both the woman and the man feel that its her job > > to do all the > > >>|cooking > > >>|> > >and cleaning then its her choice. > > >>|> > > > > >>|> > >But i have a friend who is married to a guy who is jobless. > > >>|He stays at > > >>|> home > > >>|> > >with a four year old but refuses to do any cooking, > > >>|cleaning or laundry > > >>|> or > > >>|> > >shopping.... She asked him to pitch in and he said > > "What am I, the > > >>|> maid?" > > >>|> > > > > >>|> > >So he feels its her job to do all of the working, cleaning, > > >>|cooking and > > >>|> > >laundry because he isnt' the maid (i.e. because he > > isn't female). > > >>|Thats > > >>|> > >bullshit, plain and simple. > > >>|> > > > > >>|> > > > > >>|> > > > >>|> > > >>|> > > >>| > > > ______________________________________________________________________ Structure your ColdFusion code with Fusebox. Get the official book at http://www.fusionauthority.com/bkinfo.cfm Archives: http://www.mail-archive.com/cf-community@houseoffusion.com/ Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/index.cfm?sidebar=lists
