I totally agree Michael Ross's statement. My daughter was born when I was 20. My wife and I weren't even old enough to celebrate her birth with a bottle of wine.
However, my daughter's coming into my life has given me many things: 1) The "Desire" to be a better person. 2) The "Drive" to become that better person. 3) The "Inspiration" to make sure that I remember that the better person I become and the better parent I become, the better person I can teach her to be as we grow up together. I don't know where I'd be right now if it weren't for her. Probably stacking apples part-time at the local supermarket and spending my earnings on booze at the clubs on the weekends. Something I'm looking forward to is when I'm 40 and my daughter's 20. We'll both be so young and so hungry to take on life that the thought of this excites me. Hopefully Mike H's cousin will find these things too. If he's got a good head on his shoulders, he will take control of this situation and make the most out of it. Personally, if I had to do everything over again, I wouldn't change a thing. -V -----Original Message----- From: Michael Ross [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] Sent: Monday, March 03, 2003 04:39 PM To: CF-Community Subject: Re: Mondays I have a spin on this, what if this changes him for the better. What if they survive and it makes him a better person. And if this never happened he might have been lost for a long time (imagine a 40 year old bartender/surfer/plays in a band)....... Maybe the problem is people who think they can coast for years than flip the switch and grow up..........Responsibility and accountability don't just appear when you make good money and are a certain age. >>> [EMAIL PROTECTED] 03/03/03 12:02PM >>> Another Monday... Grrr... Just found out my 21 year old cousin is going to become a father in 7 months. He's not married, surfs, works intermittently as a physical trainer and is in a band (all of which is nice but pays very little). The mother (who is incredibly nice) goes to school at the community college, but is far (about 3 years) away from having a degree. He lives with his Dad outside Los Angeles and the cost of living there is insane. In other words, he's probably not ready for this and headed for some real-world situations. Too many similarities to my own life. I fell in love at that age, my girlfriend and I had a kid, then after a few tough years she ran off and I became a single father. I know this is not exactly the same situation, but... he just doesn't seem to realize this is going to be a real uphill battle. Neither did I back in 1996. The only thing that kept me from going bust was the insane job market, but he's not a programmer and the bubble is burst. While I am saying this knowing I did the same thing, why do some people insist on doing everything the hardest way they possibly can? M ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Archives: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/index.cfm?forumid=5 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/index.cfm?method=subscribe&forumid=5 Signup for the Fusion Authority news alert and keep up with the latest news in ColdFusion and related topics. http://www.fusionauthority.com/signup.cfm Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=89.70.5
