world to me sometimes.
I mean, with all other relationships we carry on with people in this
Earth, we are looking to be around people who make us happy and
compliment our own interests. In marriage, it seems like the vast
majority of people are looking for what will most limit their ability to
make personal decisions to a set of options so tepid they offer no hope
for excitement or real joy. And it's until the day you die.
Vacations to stogy cultural landmarks absent of any meaning to one's
life, weekends spent fretting over swatches and inches at IKEA, vicious
arguments over things as mundane and meaningless as the remote for the
TV, resignation of your personal goals in the name of social stability,
'comfort', and a long term savings plan. I have so many married friends
who can't stand their lives, trapped in loveless relationships with
people who don't resemble the ones they fell in love with so many years
ago. The only reason they don't divorce is that they have become too
apathetic to believe there is real value in living one's own life and
not having someone else run it for them.
Then there are the others, who think they can beat the system. They do
stuff to make their own life seem interesting at the expense of everyone
else. They have affairs, fall into lives of white collar crime, become
members of school boards or publish educational reading materials. They
are the lowest form of life, because they realize they need to grow as
people but can no longer conceive how to do so. Instead, they seek cheap
thrills and ways to institutionalize their misery, believing they are
'right', or 'better', or 'entitled' because of all their hard work.
Is there any reason someone should not be able to have the kind of car
they want? Doesn't this seem absurd to wonder about in the first place?
All there is left to look forward to is the next 20,30,40+ years with
their significant other. Why should one NOT have a cool car is the
question I would ask - either she's worried you will find another
girlfriend crusing around in that thing or she wants you driving a truck
to haul around furniture for her on the weekends.
M
-----Original Message-----
From: Simon Horwith [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]
Sent: Monday, December 29, 2003 10:33 AM
To: CF-Community
Subject: RE: I think I'm in trouble
Mike,
You're either single or have the most tolerant wife on the planet!
"perhaps the marriage is just not meant to be"... you're killing me,
Man.
~Simon
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-----Original Message-----
From: Haggerty, Mike [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]
Sent: 29 December 2003 15:23
To: CF-Community
Subject: RE: I think I'm in trouble
Keep the car, give it a name, add nitrous, flourescent lights, a
tricked
out odometer and racing seats. Put a big sticker on the back
windshield
indicating you are part of a street racing team.
What was the name of the car Will Farrell's character drove in Old
School? If your wife can't deal with you having a cool ride, which is
a
part of your identify, perhaps the marriage is just not meant to be.
Imagine what life will be like in 20 years when she becomes hysterical
over a bunch of doylies over or something - you do not want that. It's
going to be lemonade and cucumber sandwiches instead of beer and
chicken
wings, and that ain't right. Put your foot down and keep your dignity.
M
-----Original Message-----
From: Matthew Small [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]
Sent: Saturday, December 27, 2003 11:43 PM
To: CF-Community
Subject: I think I'm in trouble
I pulled a boner today.
I'm in the market for a new vehicle, since the truck that I'm driving,
while good looking and well running, has 173,000 miles on it. It's a
1995 Chevy Silverado, 4x4. My fiancee loves the thing, thinks it's the
manliest truck on this earth. For the record, she's 23, I'm 31, we
don't live together, and she's never had a FT job before since she
just
graduated Grad School with an MBA. She's a lovely girl, just a little
idealistic sometimes due to youth.
So I go out today, just browsing and this car catches my eye - it' s a
2001 Mustang GT. Worse yet, it's a Mustang GT Bullitt - a Steve
McQueen style race car. So I test drive it, am unnaturally scared to
death of it, and then buy it. I figure since it's only got 38,000 on
the odometer, that it will get getter mileage than the giant truck,
and
that she also has a Mustang that this will resonant well with the
fiancee.
Anyway, I proceed to call her after I buy it and she starts crying
because I got rid of the truck. She's a bit emotional too sometimes.
Please don't get the wrong idea, she's great, but emotional about
things sometimes.
Let me tell you a little bit more about the car - it's unbelievably
fast. I don't know the stats, but the car has some sort of mod chip
in
it that pushes it to 305 HP. It's a five speed ass haulin' trip to
the
hospital then to jail for wreckless driving. I admit that I'm a freak
for speed sometimes. This is without doubt the fastest car I've ever
been in. Anyway, it's a cool little thing with all of the bells and
whistles.
We're not going to have any children soon, so that not an issue, but
she did say that she thought I was going to get something more
"yuppie"
- like an SUV or BMW or something like that.
Anyway, that's the boner. I think I'm going to take the car back
tomorrow morning and get the truck back. Any comments from my friends
on the list?
- Matt Small
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