What I'm trying to say is that, even though collaboration may be difficult at times, it generally produces a better result than the efforts of multiple individuals working independently. Just because I may not agree with all aspects of a change you propose (or vice versa) does not mean that I don't see any value in it. By discussing a proposed change in the open, that value can generally be drawn out. In my opinion, choosing to fork rather than collaborate is simply counter to the spirit of the ASF.
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