***BP3: I am not talking about "power differentials" I am talking about offensive behavior and fairness.
You might think that paying attention to those two attributes, and trying to avoid one and practice the second would have enough of a payoff, but it doesn't seem to work that way here often enough. > ***BP3: Concerning your judgement; not being willing to state that Barry is being offensive is something we are on opposite sides about. I think you have to be careful about the battles you pick, because with both Barry and Judy, there is not much resistance on their parts to releasing both barrels. I have tangled with both, as most here have, and it's generally not very pleasant. It may be different for them. But there does come a point where you realize you have to cross the line of trying remain friendly, and challenge them. And I have to say that Barry seems to have become more isolated, I think for many of the reasons you point out.
