--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "authfriend" <authfriend@...> wrote: > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Share Long <sharelong60@> wrote: > > > > Steve, I was asking why fight unfairly which only makes matter > > worse. > > Seems like you haven't noticed the *extreme* unfairness > with which Curtis fights.
Judy, you are one of the very few people here on FFL who think that Curtis "fights" unfairly. I mean look around........ I am sure you are convinced of this, but others are not. > > You can't judge fairness without reference to reality, > Share. You can't judge it if you're blinded by your > biases. You can't judge it if you spend your time > wandering around in a self-created fairyland. > > If there's a dispute, you can't judge the fairness > quotient fairly unless you can evaluate the fairness > on both sides without bias. You can't make assumptions > that the person in the dispute you like is never unfair > simply because you like him. You have to be willing to > look closely enough to make sure you've got the full > picture. > > Otherwise *you* aren't being fair. I know you pride yourself on your being unbiased. But I also think that your focus on detail means that you sometimes miss the "gist" or bigger picture. And that results in your feeling outraged that others don't see things your way. They see the big picture that you can overlook, you see the errors in details that they overlook. I think it helps to remember that there is not much in life that is black and white, right and wrong, good and evil. There is lots of gray. Maybe your role is to see things in black and white and to be sure details are correct, but it is a tough road to run along. >
