Judy, I appreciate your overture. No, I was not reading any posts for a few days there -- I was otherwise occupied, what with the ER and so on, and trying to take it easy -- and have not been following things religiously since, so I must have missed your post. I did not mean to imply here that you had always condemned me as a person, and in my post to you I believe I said I appreciate much of what you do here, and that includes your overall relationship with me, up until a few days ago. That's why I had opened my heart to you in the first place. I did appreciate your clarification that your responses only applied to specific things I had just said. Nonetheless, their sheer unexpected brutality hit me very hard. And I still don't understand what it was I said that caused you to twice call me the most egregious ego you had ever encountered -- almost a redundancy there, in a way, as every ego is egregious, "standing out from the crowd" -- followed in quick succession by "Bullcrap" and "phony as a three-dollar bill".
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "authfriend" <authfriend@...> wrote: > > DrD/Jim-- > > Rory has apparently chosen not to read my posts, so if I > may, I'd like to ask you to pass this on to him: > > He has twice seriously misrepresented what I said to him. > I corrected him the first time, and he appeared to > understand and thanked me for the "clarification." > > Then he misrepresented me again, the same way. I had to > correct him again, but he didn't respond to that post, so > I assume he didn't read it. > > Now, in his post to you, he's done it *again*, worse than > before. He seems determined to take my comments about two > very specific things he said as a total condemnation of > him as a person, and that's just so wrong. *That* crosses > a major boundary with me. > > Has nothing to do with Rory's "trying to have civil > conversations with Turq and Ravi." That's insulting in and > of itself, especially given that at one point I actually > *defended* him from a nasty remark of Barry's. (I also > supported him on more than one other occasion, but it > seems he's wiped those from his mind as well.) > > This post to you, DrD, will be the only overture I'll make > toward Rory. If he wants to straighten things out between > us, it's up to him now. He's welcome to contact me via email > if he would feel more comfortable talking privately. > > Thanks for your help. > > > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "RoryGoff" <rorygoff@> wrote: > > > > OK, I am genuinely curious, Jim -- I have always enjoyed respectful and > > heartfelt conversations with you, and you seem to understand Judy and Ravi. > > I do get your saying Ravi "has a bug up his ass," but what boundary of > > Judy's did I cross, other than trying to have civil conversations with Turq > > and Ravi, to get anointed with "the most egregious ego I have ever seen," > > twice, followed by "Bullcrap" and "phony as a three-dollar bill"? In what > > way was this speaking my language? Again, on some levels this I find this > > very funny, but on others I do not. > > > > What I have learned from it is to keep them both at arm's length, because > > after having opened my heart to them as true friends, the intense physical > > shock felt like an actual heart attack. > > > > As some of the symptoms persisted over several days I finally went to the > > clinic and they sent me to the ER, but the EKG, blood tests and lung X-rays > > (don't ask me why they felt those were necessary) came back clean, much to > > my and my wife's relief. > > > > Go figure! > > > > *L*L*L* > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, doctordumbass@ <no_reply@> wrote: > > > > > > Sometimes you must speak another person's language to communicate with > > > them. Maharishi said this, meet them at their level of consciousness, so > > > rather than going on and on about compassion and my fellow man, sometimes > > > a good go fuck yourself serves equally well. It is not said in judgment, > > > but rather in context. An attempt at behavioral modification, as would be > > > used on a very stubborn and angry adult child. It shows them immediately > > > that there is a boundary there. Not something one would expect to have to > > > do around adults, setting social boundaries, but some are childish in > > > their state of emotional development. Sorry if it looks ugly from the > > > outside, in, but not sorry enough to stop it, if necessary. >
