--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "RoryGoff" <rorygoff@...> wrote: > > Judy, I appreciate your overture. No, I was not reading any > posts for a few days there -- I was otherwise occupied, what > with the ER and so on, and trying to take it easy -- and > have not been following things religiously since, so I must > have missed your post. I did not mean to imply here that you > had always condemned me as a person, and in my post to you I > believe I said I appreciate much of what you do here, and > that includes your overall relationship with me, up until a > few days ago. That's why I had opened my heart to you in the > first place. I did appreciate your clarification that your > responses only applied to specific things I had just said. > Nonetheless, their sheer unexpected brutality hit me very > hard.
Um, yeah, except that you told me (1) your ego got a great kick out of my kicking its ass. You also (2) thanked me and said "It's (eventually) always a pleasure to see ourselves as others see us :-)", *and* (3) that I might be right about your egotism and that "the thought [filled you] with bliss" (three separate posts). None of those remarks seems consistent with "sheer unexpected brutality" hitting you "very hard." Maybe if you'd showed me how you were *really* feeling at the time of that first exchange, I'd have been more gentle in following up. But you know, Rory, when you present yourself as invulnerable, it sort of acts as encouragement for people to say exactly what they think without having to worry about your feelings. Anyway, now we know that whatever state of consciousness you're in, it doesn't protect you from being terribly wounded by negative opinions of you. > And I still don't understand what it was I said that > caused you to twice call me the most egregious ego you > had ever encountered You could have asked, Rory. Instead, you seemed to welcome my comments. In any case, I never called *you* the most egregious ego, I called remarks you made "the most egregious *display of ego*" I had ever encountered. That you occasionally display an ego doesn't mean that's all you are. > -- almost a redundancy there, in a way, as every ego is > egregious, "standing out from the crowd" -- followed in > quick succession by "Bullcrap" and "phony as a three-dollar > bill". Actually "Bullcrap" was first, referring to--well, you can look the posts up if you're interested. I'm sure you won't, but you really should go back and look at all those posts before your misinterpretations get engraved in stone in your memory (and before you forget about my *supportive* comments). But maybe it's too late anyway. > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "authfriend" <authfriend@> wrote: > > > > DrD/Jim-- > > > > Rory has apparently chosen not to read my posts, so if I > > may, I'd like to ask you to pass this on to him: > > > > He has twice seriously misrepresented what I said to him. > > I corrected him the first time, and he appeared to > > understand and thanked me for the "clarification." > > > > Then he misrepresented me again, the same way. I had to > > correct him again, but he didn't respond to that post, so > > I assume he didn't read it. > > > > Now, in his post to you, he's done it *again*, worse than > > before. He seems determined to take my comments about two > > very specific things he said as a total condemnation of > > him as a person, and that's just so wrong. *That* crosses > > a major boundary with me. > > > > Has nothing to do with Rory's "trying to have civil > > conversations with Turq and Ravi." That's insulting in and > > of itself, especially given that at one point I actually > > *defended* him from a nasty remark of Barry's. (I also > > supported him on more than one other occasion, but it > > seems he's wiped those from his mind as well.) > > > > This post to you, DrD, will be the only overture I'll make > > toward Rory. If he wants to straighten things out between > > us, it's up to him now. He's welcome to contact me via email > > if he would feel more comfortable talking privately. > > > > Thanks for your help. > > > > > > > > > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "RoryGoff" <rorygoff@> wrote: > > > > > > OK, I am genuinely curious, Jim -- I have always enjoyed respectful and > > > heartfelt conversations with you, and you seem to understand Judy and > > > Ravi. I do get your saying Ravi "has a bug up his ass," but what > > > boundary of Judy's did I cross, other than trying to have civil > > > conversations with Turq and Ravi, to get anointed with "the most > > > egregious ego I have ever seen," twice, followed by "Bullcrap" and "phony > > > as a three-dollar bill"? In what way was this speaking my language? > > > Again, on some levels this I find this very funny, but on others I do not. > > > > > > What I have learned from it is to keep them both at arm's length, because > > > after having opened my heart to them as true friends, the intense > > > physical shock felt like an actual heart attack. > > > > > > As some of the symptoms persisted over several days I finally went to the > > > clinic and they sent me to the ER, but the EKG, blood tests and lung > > > X-rays (don't ask me why they felt those were necessary) came back clean, > > > much to my and my wife's relief. > > > > > > Go figure! > > > > > > *L*L*L*
