These are just suggestions. They are *not*, as some calling for the
reinstatement of posting limits or more stringent "rules" or
"moderation" seem to want, restrictions or demands. React to them as you
will:

* When reading people's posts, think about *intent*, in the Castanedan
sense. What was the *intent* of the post; that is, what did the poster
hope to accomplish with it? Did he or she *intend* to uplift or help
people, or did they merely try to dump on and demean someone? If the
latter, do you really want to reply to what they wrote and thus become a
party to that *intent*?

* When responding to other people's posts, cast a thought or two before
you press the Send key as to what your *intent* is.

* When reading other people's posts, give a thought as to whether
anything in the post is *original*, or has anything to do with the
poster's actual real-world life. Do they share with you some adventure
or spiritual experience they've had *recently*, or are they lost in the
past, or in theory, intellectually masturbating to concepts they've only
read about or heard about, and never experienced personally? If the
latter, what can you ever expect to learn from interacting with such a
person?

* When reading other people's posts, try to discern whether or not the
poster whose post you're reading is trying to "win" something. If they
are, do you really give a shit about the 'war' or 'dick-size contest'
they're trying to "win," or is it all in the poster's head? If they're
the only ones concerned about "winning," click Next and move along.
Leave the fighting of the petty ego-wars to those who believe they
actually exist.

* When someone posts the same tired old putdown post that they've made a
thousand times before, with only the name of the intended victim changed
in its latest iteration, is there any reason to respond? If you can't
think of any, why respond and add to the repetition? Allowing the person
to *demonstrate* their obsessive compulsive disorder is usually more
effective than trying to answer or counter it.

* If a person who has a history of being chronically angry and nasty
seems to get the *most* angry and nasty when the people they lash out at
ignore them and don't respond to or even read their posts, isn't that a
great reason to *keep* ignoring them and not responding or reading?
They've already revealed the thing that bothers them the most -- their
greatest fear, that people will treat them as if they don't exist and as
if nothing they ever say could possibly matter. Seems to me that the
best thing one could do to deal with people who think like this is to
help it come true.

Happy New Year, and happy posting...



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