Well, I would call the case where "one person realizes the other person was
right" an agreement not a dispute :-) but I agree with the thrust of what
you are saying. Certainly there are interactions among editors that are
helpful, productive and friendly. The question is whether we get enough good
experiences that the occasional bad experience doesn't dint our enthusiasm.
The Clubhouse paper 

 

http://files.grouplens.org/papers/wp-gender-wikisym2011.pdf 

 

suggests that new editors will have bad experiences in their first eits, and
that bad experiences are positively correlated with attrition.

 

Kerry

 

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From: Daniel and Elizabeth Case [mailto:danc...@frontiernet.net] 
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What's missing from this?:

 

>I don't think most disputes get "resolved". I think one person simply gives
up. Maybe they don't think the issue is that important, >maybe they feel
that they don't have the time to argue it, maybe they feel that the other
person involved is too unpleasant to want to try to engage with, maybe
they've found that no matter what they do, they never make a difference.

 

Give up? It's "maybe one person realizes the other person was right, and
does it their way from then on, without any hard feelings." It has happened
to me quite a few times. That's the sort of outcome I was talking about.

 

Of course, I think of these in terms of pure content disputes (should we or
should we not mention something? how should we format this table? and so
forth ...) because that's what most of those I've been involved in have
been. Disputes over someone's conduct are something else entirely, because
it's harder for people to admit they were wrong in that department. And why
I always say it cannot be repeated enough that, when you realize the
argument is no longer about what you were originally arguing about but has
instead become a meta-argument about the argument itself, you should stop
immediately as it will no longer accomplish anything constructive to
continue.

 

Daniel Case

 

 

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