While I am still not an advocate for the shoe polish and potato sack over the head cure, perhaps this boy needs to be tested for ADHD. From what you say, this boy's problem is not really with you, but is connected to something bigger.
-----Original Message----- From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] Behalf Of Mara Cushion Sent: Thursday, October 06, 2005 10:38 PM To: horn@music.memphis.edu Subject: [Hornlist] disrespect Funny you should mention HIGH SCHOOL...... This is college. This is a sophomore kid disrespecting a 6th year senior in horn performance. Yeah yeah, I've been taking a long time... We are extremely limited on horns and there is no way I can fire him. There are no challenges and none can be arranged. The band director only knows of the situation from me and unfortunately hasn't heard any of the outbursts. It manages to reach all of the few rows around us and is never enough to reach the director. So I have people in front of me turning around and asking "What the hell is that about?" I have calmly told the 2nd horn not to worry about me and my mistakes, that those are my problems to fix, not his. I have also asked him if something was going on outside of rehearsal or if this was a problem with me and his response was, "Nothing! It's fine!" Of course his behavior wasn't fine, nor did it cease. He is extremely stubborn and has now been coming late to rehearsals. The director suggested holding a sectional with him to see his reaction. Well he tried to get out of it and I think he was so annoyed with being there he couldn't even focus to make the changes I asked of him. And he did claim to be doing everything I told him, which he hadn't done anything. He seems like the type to be fueled by emotions or something. He is consistently angry with me and I really don't understand why. I'm thinking it might be time to have the director talk to him. He said he would, but only when I was comfortable with him doing so. I didn't really understand that... A friend suggested that since he was acting like a child, I should talk to him like a child. And somehow I can't imagine just saying "be quiet" would work. I think he really needs to learn some section etiquette and that may not be best coming from me. Although I do find the idea of playing a trick on him rather amusing. _______________________________________________ post: horn@music.memphis.edu unsubscribe or set options at http://music2.memphis.edu/mailman/options/horn/pandolfi%40deerfield.edu _______________________________________________ post: horn@music.memphis.edu unsubscribe or set options at http://music2.memphis.edu/mailman/options/horn/archive%40jab.org
