Kayaknya pemalu syndromenya dr Bowo yg spesialis ganteng lebih banyak dialami oleh rekan yg bekerja di anglo saxon company deh. Hal yg sangat wajar karena pada saat ngomong mereka menggunakan mother language sementara nasional menggunakan second language. Superior dalam bahasa serta kultur anglo saxon yg cenderung dominant dan agresif memang menciptakan banyak sakit hati dan minder bagi nasional employee yg berhadapan dengannya. Beda dgn non anglo saxon company mis: latin atau asia, karena sama sama menggunakan second language maka timbul perasaan lebih sejajar. Paling tidak karena sama sama membutuhkan waktu lebih lama dalam mengutarakan pendapat maka ada jeda yg sangat penting dalam berkomunikasi. Selain itu approach yg lebih soft ( latin itu dibilang kan jawa kolotnya eropa) mungkin lebih masuk ke kultur kita sehingga kadang memang lebih membuai dan menina bobokan dan menimbulkan stockholm syndrome ?. Tapi ternyata stockholm syndrome ini juga punya konotasi yg romantis , mangkanya banyak dijadikan judul lagu ( blink 182, muse etc) dan tema film ( perempuan yg diculik/ disandera tapi malah kemudian jatuh cinta pada penyanderanya ). Sisi negatifnya juga ada seperti kdrt dimana perempuan/pria walaupun sudah diabuse oleh pasangannya tetap tidak bisa meninggalkan/ melepaskan diri dan bahkan merasa sudah memiliki kebutuhan untuk diabuse ( jd inget sama yg kesenangan dijajah sampai puluhan tahun..he..he) On Nov 2, 2012 2:53 PM, "Bowo Pangarso" <bow...@gmail.com> wrote:
> Wah ternyata Oom Ferry ini ternyata jauh lebih progresif dan > agresif........untung ceritanya mas Andang, panggilannya bukan dipanggil Wo > atau Fer.........aman koin....kalau udah tahu siapa...japri ya jangan > lupa...... > > Tapi jangan ketuker ya Stockholm Syndrome sama Ngomong berbusa-busa jadi > pemalu Syndrome..... > > Syndrome yang ngomong berbusa-busa jadi pemalu ini saya temukan pada > banyak keadaan dimana ada expat, baru dateng dari negaranya, ngomong > berbusa-busa, terus si nasional jadi pemalu (baca - > keder).......kadang-kadang saya ditanya sama si expat, kenapa orang > indonesia cenderung diam.....ya saya bilang habis kamu ngomongnya > berbusa-busa sih......... > > Padahal si expat ini ngomongnya aja lancar kayak waterfall.....belum tentu > itu yang benar....... > > ah marilah berakhir pekan...... > > Bowo > "lupa nomer anggota" > > > On Fri, Nov 2, 2012 at 2:04 PM, Ferry Bastaman Hakim < > ferry.ha...@tately.co.id> wrote: > >> Mas Bowo, >> >> >> >> Kalau saya langsung searching di google-nya justru untuk bisa menduga2 >> siapakah senior manager national yg dipanggil ....Mi dan geologist senior >> di MNC tersebut. :) >> >> >> >> salam >> >> >> >> FH >> >> >> >> *From:* Bowo Pangarso [mailto:bow...@gmail.com] >> *Sent:* Friday, 2 November 2012 1:31 PM >> *To:* IAGI >> >> *Subject:* Re: [iagi-net-l] Mengobati Stockholm Syndrome Industri Migas >> Indonesia >> >> >> >> Saya yakin anggota IAGI pasti langsung pada search apa itu Stockholm >> Syndrome, tapi supaya memudahkan juga buat yang malas atau ngga sempat >> mencari, saya copaskan sebagian dari Wikipedia mengenai apa itu Stockholm >> Syndrome. >> >> Intinya adalah satu sindrom dimana si terjajah/sandera/tawanan menjadi >> terikat secara emosional dengan si penjajah/penjahatnya. Rada sadis sih >> kalau boleh jujur.........tapi jangan-jangan memang sebagian atau malah >> semua sudah kena sindrom ini? dimana konteksnya bukan cuma expat vs >> nasional lho ya.......waspadalah.....waspadalah....... >> >> >> >> Lengkapnya disini http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stockholm_syndrome >> >> *Stockholm syndrome,* or *capture-bonding,* is a >> psychological<http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychology>phenomenon in which >> hostages <http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hostage> express >> empathy<http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Empathy>and have positive feelings >> towards their captors, sometimes to the point of >> defending them. These feelings are generally considered irrational in light >> of the danger or risk endured by the victims, who essentially mistake a >> lack of abuse <http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Abuse> from their captors >> for an act of >> kindness.[1]<http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stockholm_syndrome#cite_note-FBI_bulletin-0> >> [2] <http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stockholm_syndrome#cite_note-1> The >> FBI<http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/FBI>’s >> Hostage Barricade Database System shows that roughly 27% of victims show >> evidence of Stockholm >> Syndrome.[3]<http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stockholm_syndrome#cite_note-2> >> >> Stockholm syndrome can be seen as a form of *traumatic bonding*, which >> does not necessarily require a hostage scenario, but which describes >> "strong emotional ties that develop between two persons where one person >> intermittently harasses, beats, threatens, abuses, or intimidates the >> other."[4] <http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stockholm_syndrome#cite_note-3> >> >> Battered-wife >> syndrome<http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Battered_person_syndrome>is an example >> of activating the capture-bonding psychological mechanism, as >> are military basic >> training<http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Military_basic_training>and fraternity >> bonding by >> hazing >> <http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hazing>.[5]<http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stockholm_syndrome#cite_note-4> >> [6] >> <http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stockholm_syndrome#cite_note-5>[7]<http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stockholm_syndrome#cite_note-6> >> >> Stockholm syndrome is named after the Norrmalmstorg >> robbery<http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Norrmalmstorg_robbery>of >> *Kreditbanken <http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kreditbanken>* at >> Norrmalmstorg <http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Norrmalmstorg> in >> Stockholm<http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stockholm>, >> Sweden in which several bank employees were held hostage in a bank vault >> from August 23 to August 28, 1973. During this situation, the victims >> became emotionally attached to their captors, rejected assistance from >> government officials at one point and even defended them after they were >> freed from their six-day >> ordeal.[10]<http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stockholm_syndrome#cite_note-9>The >> term "Stockholm syndrome" was coined by the >> criminologist <http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Criminologist> and >> psychiatrist <http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychiatrist> Nils >> Bejerot<http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nils_Bejerot>, >> who assisted the police during the robbery, and referred to the syndrome in >> a news >> broadcast.[11]<http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stockholm_syndrome#cite_note-10>It >> was originally defined by psychiatrist Frank >> Ochberg <http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Frank_Ochberg> to aid the >> management of hostage >> situations.[12]<http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stockholm_syndrome#cite_note-11> >> >> Recently, in the 9th International Conference "Developments in Economic >> Theory and Policy" held in Bilbao, by the Department of Applied Economics V >> of the University of the Basque Country (Spain) and the Cambridge Centre >> for Economic and Public Policy, Department of Land Economy of the >> University of Cambridge (United Kingdom), the concept of Stockholm Syndrome >> was introduced in economics referring to governments that have been >> "kidnapped" by financial capital because of their need to refinance public >> debt. They are coerced into accepting high interest rates and conditions >> that compromise their sovereignty >> .[18]<http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stockholm_syndrome#cite_note-17> >> >> In politics, the Stockholm Syndrome is the predisposition of a politician >> to feel grateful for harsh criticism from opponents and the public in >> general. In Portugal, the Minister of Finance Vitor >> Gaspar<http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vitor_Gaspar>spoke on Parliament on >> September 2012, praising the huge street protests >> against his austerity measures, and the amazing dignity of the protesters, >> referring to the protesters as "the best people in the world". >> [19]<http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stockholm_syndrome#cite_note-18> >> >> Selamet berakhir pekan, berakhir pekan yang selamet......... >> >> >> >> 2012/11/2 <abacht...@cbn.net.id> >> >> Sori, Mi, tapi tim-ku merah putih, tim-ku bangsa dan negara Indonesia; >> jadi aku lebih memilih untuk mempresentasikan ke BPPKA aspek redundancy >> alias berlebihannya work-program ini yg merupakan pengulangan program >> serupa yg telah sukses dilakukan oleh geologist nasional kita th lalu dg >> biaya yang hanya 1/3 dr biaya menyewa geologist expat ini. Dan aku akan >> menanggung resiko atas kepemihakanku kepada tim-ku tsb. >> >> (Jawaban atas bujukan dr salah seorang senior manager "national" ke >> seorang geologist senior yg kerja di perusahan migas MNC yg dalam >> Management Meeting tdk setuju atas keputusan management untuk tetap >> melaksanakan proyek inventarisasi karakter reservoir seluruh blok dari data >> analog permukaan yg akan dilakukan oleh konsultan bule, 15th yg lalu) >> >> #melawan stockholm syndrome# >> >> ADB - IAGI 0800 >> Powered by Telkomsel BlackBerry® >> >> >> >> >> ------------------------------ >> >> This message is intended only for the use of the addressee and may >> contain information that is privileged and confidential. In the event that >> you are not the intended recipient, you are hereby notified that any >> dissemination of this communication is strictly prohibited. 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