There are terms for nonbiological relationships: mother, father, grandmother, grandfather. Where there is a need, these can be modified with the terms "biological" and "adoptive." If my son's relationship to my husband and me is shown in Legacy as "adopted," it would not take much to figure out that his children would be my adoptive grandchidlren. However, I am not going to refer to them or label them as such.
The terms we use for parents are not just genealogical terms. They are family terms, social terms, legal terms. In the family, in society, and in law, an adopted child is simply a child. I love genealogical research. I love to do it as correctly as I can. However, I love my son a whole lot more, and I am never going to do anything for the sake of "correctness" that would hurt him. Sara On 9/18/07, [EMAIL PROTECTED] <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > There is no way that the couple should be regarded as grandparents of > the offspring of the adopted child-period. They should be regarded as > the adoptive grandparents. > > I've said it once and I'll say it again... > family historians need to get their own terms for non-biological > relationships and stop usurping strict genealogical terms for use in > describing non-biological relationships. Then, and only then, will the > confusion cease. > > > > -----Original Message----- > From: ronald ferguson <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > To: legacyusergroup@legacyfamilytree.com > Sent: Tue, 18 Sep 2007 5:11 pm > Subject: RE: [LegacyUG] Adopted Daughter unmarried mother > > > > Whilst strictly genealogically speaking that is accurate, I am sure > that the > adoptive parents would be delighted to know that future children of the > adopted > child would not be regarded as their grandchild even though it has > their name. > > Ron Ferguson > _____________________________________________________________________ > > For Genealogy, Software and Social visit: > http://www.fergys.co.uk > *Over 650 Surnames from 11 Countries* > View the Grimshaw Family Tree at: > http://www.fergys.co.uk/Grimshaw/ > For The Fergusons of N.W. England See: > http://myweb.tiscali.co.uk/fergys/ > _____________________________________________________________________ > > > To: LegacyUserGroup@legacyfamilytree.com > > Subject: Re: [LegacyUG] Adopted Daughter unmarried mother > > Date: Tue, 18 Sep 2007 17:30:16 -0400 > > From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] > > > > Actually, the wording needs to be changed to "This couple had no > > descendants". Then a note added about the adopted child would suffice. > > > > > > > > -----Original Message----- > > From: Sara Binkley Tarpley > > To: LegacyUserGroup@legacyfamilytree.com > > Sent: Tue, 18 Sep 2007 3:35 pm > > Subject: Re: [LegacyUG] Adopted Daughter unmarried mother > > > > > > > > Ahh, but this couple did have a child. They just didn't have any > > biological children. How do you think the adopted child would feel to > > see that his parents had no children? Furthermore, legally it would > > be incorrect to say that the couple had no children. > > > > I show that our adopted child is adopted in the child status, but I > > would be very upset if there were an "A" next to his name in the list > > of our children. > > > > Sara > > > > > > On 9/18/07, Pat Hickin wrote: > >> I'm late getting involved in this discussion -- sorry!! -- got > behind. > >> > >> This discussion makes me wonder about the following situation: > >> A married couple named Smith had no children. And so in the marriage > > info > >> screen you click that button. > >> > >> That shows they have no (known, acknowledged) )bloodline descendants. > >> > >> When they are in their sixties they adopt a son (unrelated). > >> > >> So in the Legacy family view children list it says, "**[This couple] > > Had no > >> children.**" > >> > >> Then you add the adopted son. > >> > >> Withouy even asking, Legacy drops the "**[This couple] Had no > > children.**" > >> entry and puts in the adopted son info. > >> > >> Why can't both appear in the children list: > >> the "**Had no children.**" AND > >> ''John Doe SMITH" (with his status marked as Adopted-- and maybe an > > "A" > >> appearing in in the blank space to the left of his name in the > > children's > >> list) ??? > >> > >> Pat > > _________________________________________________________________ > 100's of Music vouchers to be won with MSN Music > https://www.musicmashup.co.uk > > > Legacy User Group guidelines: > http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/Etiquette.asp > Archived messages: > http://www.mail-archive.com/legacyusergroup@legacyfamilytree.com/ > Online technical support: http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/Help.asp > To unsubscribe: http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/LegacyLists.asp > > > > ________________________________________________________________________ > Check Out the new free AIM(R) Mail -- Unlimited storage and > industry-leading spam and email virus protection. > > > > Legacy User Group guidelines: > http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/Etiquette.asp > Archived messages: > http://www.mail-archive.com/legacyusergroup@legacyfamilytree.com/ > Online technical support: http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/Help.asp > To unsubscribe: http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/LegacyLists.asp > > > Legacy User Group guidelines: http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/Etiquette.asp Archived messages: http://www.mail-archive.com/legacyusergroup@legacyfamilytree.com/ Online technical support: http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/Help.asp To unsubscribe: http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/LegacyLists.asp
