I just thought about your response. I'm not suggesting that it's unfair and mean that men aren't sexually attracted to older women. I'm just saying that a woman should be recognized for having value after she has lost physical attractiveness.
Intellectually, I think men realize that this should be the case, but I have seen firsthand how quick men are to dole out hugs and affection to an "attractive" woman and an older woman not even be acknowledged. The guy doesn't have to fake attraction or French kiss the old lady, but some token of respect should be given to the lady! And what about this opening doors for ladies bit!? I noticed that when I was pregnant, men stopped opening doors for me. So, at the times when I have or eventually will need assistance (when I get old) the guys are letting the door slam in my face, I assume because there is no perceived (consciously or otherwise) potential nookie exchange. Having had these experiences (of visibility and invisibility), I can easily imagine how my world is going to change over time. I need to find a gimmick for when I get old, so I will still be a recognizable individual. I was toting with the idea of being the town's crazy cat woman, but the smell would get on my nerves, so I'm thinking of only having a few cats, letting my hair grow out and being the crazy, mysterious witch lady that lives on the hill and is rumored to cavort with the devil. liz -----Original Message----- From: [email protected] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On Behalf Of Jason (Memphis) Sent: Wednesday, November 19, 2008 1:54 PM To: Memphis Freethought Alliance Subject: Re: I like this picture. I found it while looking for other pictures Liz, I agree. Attractive women get way, way too much attention. How do me make society give attractive women less attention so ugly women get more or as much attention especially from men? Jason On Nov 19, 7:13 am, "Liz Purkrabek" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > It's not the same thing at all. Being ignored because you belong to a big > family or disinterested parents is not the same issue as being ignored > incrementally based on physical attractiveness or perceived value to > society as a whole. > > liz > > > > -----Original Message----- > From: [email protected] > > [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On Behalf Of Jason > (Memphis) > Sent: Tuesday, November 18, 2008 10:57 PM > To: Memphis Freethought Alliance > Subject: Re: I like this picture. I found it while looking for other > pictures > > Aren't kids in the "invisibility syndrome" category too? I know > quite a few kids that are essentially ignored especially with big > families. It is starting to be less of an issue because many couples > (or singles) aren't having as many children so their one or two > children get lots and lots of attention. > > On Nov 18, 9:09 pm, [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: > > I like old chicks. > > > J. > > > “I do agree with Liz about the "invisibility syndrome". But, isn't it > > cultural to the western world?” – CB > > > One can generalize about any thought. I find that age alone can > > produce a type of ‘invisibility’ for some people. When I was a kid, I > > seldom knew how to relate to the old folks let alone found them easy > > to get to know. Ignoring them was the easiest defense mechanism. . . > > as ignorant as avoidance can be in the long run. > > > On Nov 18, 7:17 am, CrossBow <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:> One theory > is that women go through menopause in order to dump the hormones > > > and switch the ability to produce for focus on caretaking of > grandchildren. > > > Sounds like evolution wants us to be social servants and makes use of > us to > > > further survival that way... > > > > I do agree with Liz about the "invisibility syndrome". But, isn't it > > > cultural to the western world? > > > > I have mixed feelings about losing what beauty I have had. Sometimes > it is > > > a relief not to maintain it. Nice to be needed for something > approaching > > > wisdom instead of my bosom:) > > > > On Mon, Nov 17, 2008 at 4:41 PM, ornamentalmind > > > <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>wrote: > > > > > "Because of the loss of status I feel as I age..." - Liz > > > > > Thanks for the stream Liz! And, this quote of yours is what I see as > > > > the 'crime' of our culture. Historically, age has represented wisdom, > > > > the opposite of a loss of status. And, as I see it, door opening, as > > > > much as I was programmed to do it and still do on occasion, has not > > > > been continued as a 'social grace' in many pockets of our culture > and/ > > > > or has become a curiosity due to the notion of being politically > > > > correct. > > > > > On Nov 17, 1:28 pm, "Liz Purkrabek" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > > > Although I agree that beauty can be more than skin deep, I've > always > > > > thought > > > > > men were likely to respond first to positive visual stimulation. > If, > > > > after > > > > > the attention was caught, then other factors like personality or > > > > > intelligence entered into the picture. I've thought about just > this > > > > subject > > > > > more and more as I get older and realize that with every year that > > > > passes, > > > > > fewer and fewer men stop to open doors for me. Where once even the > > > > > teenagers did so, now just the men about my age and older do. I > > imagine > > > > at > > > > > some point that the few men who respond to me in such a fashion > will be > > > > > doing so out of pity when I am old and unable to open the door > myself. > > > > > > Because of the loss of status I feel as I age (and also for > other > > > > > reasons), I am educating myself and developing myself in ways that > have > > > > > little to nothing to do with the way I look. I don't want to be > caught > > > > > unprepared when at last the body completely gives and the face > sags. > > > > > > I am already starting to see wrinkles that don't go away when I > stop > > > > > smiling, and I never feared wrinkles until I started seeing them. > I > > > > think > > > > > that to become unattractive is much more problematic or even > > devastating > > > > > because it seems as though women become invisible as they lose > their > > > > > beauty. > > > > > > This was sort of a rambling email. Sort of stream of > consciousness... > > > > > > liz > > > > > > -----Original Message----- > > > > > From: [email protected] > > > > > > [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On Behalf Of > > > > > ornamentalmind > > > > > Sent: Monday, November 17, 2008 12:29 PM > > > > > To: Memphis Freethought Alliance > > > > > Subject: Re: I like this picture. I found it while looking for > other > > > > > pictures > > > > > > What is obvious to me, perhaps because of my gender, is that in the > > > > > current US culture, the omnipresence of beauty industry advertising > > > > > along with programs on corporate tv and radio have been fairly > > > > > successful in producing a trance like state within too many women. > > > > > > The 'avarousness' found at the heart of consumerism has been quite > > > > > successful in supplanting a clear view of reality within the female > > > > > brain with one of being born in the 'original sin' of having a > > > > > lack...lack of beauty, lack of the right shape, color, height, > length > > > > > nails, texture of skin etc. > > > > > > My entire life, while I do know how my eye appreciates specific > shapes > > > > > and colors, I find those with inner beauty to be in fact beautiful > > > > > when it comes to human beings. Anyone who has this pure radiance is > > > > > immediately apprehended as being beautiful. > > > > > > Those who do not know this innate and true beauty appear to be sad > and > > > > > have a sad life. > > > > > > On Nov 17, 8:39 am, CrossBow <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > > > > Google and image Tiziano Vicellio > > > > > > > On Sun, Nov 16, 2008 at 9:49 PM, Liz Purkrabek > > > > > <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>wrote: > > > > > > > > I'm not familiar with his works, but I will definitely do a > Google > > > > > search > > > > > > > to > > > > > > > see what else he has to offer. > > > > > > > > liz > > > > > > > > -----Original Message----- > > > > > > > From: [email protected] > > > > > > > [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On Behalf > Of > > > > > > > ornamentalmind > > > > > > > Sent: Sunday, November 16, 2008 8:36 PM > > > > > > > To: Memphis Freethought Alliance > > > > > > > Subject: Re: I like this picture. I found it while looking for > > other > > > > > > > pictures > > > > > > > > Liz, I've long been a big fan of Sandro Botticelli!!! > > > > > > > > On Nov 15, 11:32 am, "Liz Purkrabek" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > > wrote: > > > > > > > > See, ladies could be born beautiful back then. Now it takes > so > > > > much > > > > > work > > > > > > > > and/or surgery... > > > > > > > > > LIz > > > > > > > > > -----Original Message----- > > > > > > > > From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] > > > > > > > > > [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On > Behalf > > Of > > > > BC > > > > > > > > Sent: Saturday, November 15, 2008 1:30 PM > > > > > > > > To: Memphis Freethought Alliance > > > > > > > > Subject: Re: I like this picture. I found it while looking > for > > > > other > > > > > > > > pictures > > > > > > > > > On Nov 15, 8:33 am, "Liz Purkrabek" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > > > > wrote: > > > > > > > > > [The+Wave.jpg] > > > > > > > > > That is a nice pic; but she could stand to lose about a > 20-spot. > > > > > > > > -BC-- Hide quoted text - > > > > > > > > > - Show quoted text -- Hide quoted text - > > > > > > > - Show quoted text -- Hide quoted text - > > > > > > - Show quoted text -- Hide quoted text - > > > > - Show quoted text -- Hide quoted text - > > - Show quoted text - --~--~---------~--~----~------------~-------~--~----~ You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "Memphis Freethought Alliance" group. 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