horrible memory consumption

[Jason Terry]

Is there a way I can tell where my memory usage is going in an Apache child?

I have a server that starts with acceptable numbers, but after a while it
turns into this

Server Version: Apache/1.3.9 (Unix) mod_perl/1.21 PHP/3.0.12 mod_ssl/2.4.4
OpenSSL/0.9.4
Redhat Linux: 2.2.13

PID   USER     PRI  NI   SIZE   RSS SHARE LC STAT %CPU %MEM   TIME  COMMAND
9666 nobody    -1    -1   38900  37M  6768    1    S <       0.0        7.5
6:57    /usr/local/apache/bin/httpd
9665 nobody    -1    -1   35728  34M  6240    1    S <       0.0        6.9
5:57    /usr/local/apache/bin/httpd
9663 nobody    -1    -1   35312  34M  6412    1    S <       0.0        6.8
6:11    /usr/local/apache/bin/httpd

Now I examined these children using /server-status and they had all recieved
more than 7000 accesses for each child.

Is there a way I can find out where all this RAM is being used.  Or does
anyone have any suggestions (besides limiting the MaxRequestsPerChild)