Hi Sheila, That had to be very hard for you and I'm sorry that it happened. I know of another salon here in town that formed when everyone walked out on the salon owner to follow another stylist when she opened her shop. On the surface things seem to be going well for them, as it's been probably 3-5 yrs. ago. But as for the salon owner they left behind.....he's still doing his own thing and I don't know if he ever filled their void or not. His salon used to be THE creme' de la creme' of salons in town; the envy of many other salons. Now you never hear a peep from it. His salon is paid for, so he really doesn't need their income to survive. But what a HUGE financial blow it must have been when they all left at once, as well as a HUGE emotional blow. Can't help but to wonder if the new salon owner ever worries in the back of her mind that a similar fate might be waiting for her somewhere down the road.
>From talking with the stylists that left, they said they addressed their complaints to the owner over several months, but that he dismissed everything that anyone had to say. It became a real point of contention that their concerns were being trivialized and no sort of compromise was even entertained. Their feelings were not acknowledged and they were made to feel insignificant. Basically he came right out and told them that it was HIS shop and if they didn't like the way HE was running things, they could always leave. And so they did. I don't know if there was any of that going on in your situation, but for whatever reasons all those stylists evidently felt they'd be better off NOT working for you. Now you must dig deep within yourself to pinpoint the role you played in it before history repeats itself with your new hires. In most cases (and I've had this happen myself) it all goes back to misunderstandings. Sometimes people aren't clear on what they want or their expectations are unrealistic. When these expectations aren't fulfilled then someone's feelings get hurt. Instead of talking it out with each other, people (mainly women) tend to sulk and hash it out with their girlfriends instead of just taking their gripe to the person who offended them. It's very, very hard to be brutally honest with yourself and admit your faults, but it's essential for healing. We ALL make mistakes. I've made thousands. The trick is learning from them and moving forward. Like Trish said, think strongly about what you want out of life, where you'd like to be in 5 yrs. or 10 yrs., then put pen to paper and list the 'pro's' and 'con's' of owning your salon vs. downsizing. Your answer will be much clearer after that. Personally, I always thought I'd like to manage a salon and even went back to college for a business degree. It was definitely worth it on many levels, but it also helped me discover that I would probably NOT be happy managing other people on a daily basis. I don't have the temperament for all the salon drama, I have high expectations of myself and others around me, and I don't like babysitting people who can't get their act together. I have a tendency to be pretty honest, and in a lot of cases that translates into a bluntness that many women aren't used to. So I'd be the one who's staff would walk out on me:) Jill Wright Bowling Green, KY www.nailtechevent.com On Dec 26, 4:03 pm, Sheila DeLorenzo <serenityspringssa...@yahoo.com> wrote: > Thanks for all the input friends. I am just having a hard time telling the > difference between hurt feelings and wanting redirection. During the past > three months since my "mutiny" occured :) I have come to realize what > everyone told me from the beginning and only trusting completely in your > self. I had the same staff, relatively, for years and guess I was lucky in > that. But when the people closest to you go behind your back and do > devestating and hurtful things, it only takes one time to get put through > something like that and never want to go through it again. My problem is > that although I have hired other people and continued on, I dont know how to > run my business any other way and not get close to people. So, I think until > I can get that feeling of trust or whatever you call it.. motivation??? I > should just continue my work that I love and my clients that I love and lay > low for a while. I have also thought about learning a new > trade.......Teaching has often crossed my mind and I have dibbled with it > before, but I am thinking maybe a whole new field... It just seems so out of > my element for that... I have been a stylist and nail tech since starting > school at 17 and feel like I have experienced, lived and learned so much... > cant believe its been 18 years!!!!! not sure I can be an "indian" after > being a "chief" for so long. lol I have always loved taking a newbie under > my wing and watching them grow and become confident and wonderful techs and > stylists, but after this ordeal I feel like the only way I could ever feel > comfortable teaching is if they never had the opportunity to work for me... > lol.. Maybe I should persue teaching again, only outside of my salon walls. > Grrrr ok.. done whining for the day.... lol.. Chin up! On with it.... > Sheila DeLorenzo > Owner > Serenity Springs Salon and Spa > 719-574-4373www.serenityspringssalonandspa.com > > --- On Mon, 12/26/11, Trish Rock- Nail Salon Success Coach > <nailsonlin...@gmail.com> wrote: > > From: Trish Rock- Nail Salon Success Coach <nailsonlin...@gmail.com> > Subject: NailTech:: Re: To all of my ex-owner "club" friends: > To: "NailTech" <nailtech@googlegroups.com> > Date: Monday, December 26, 2011, 2:21 PM > > Hi Sheila, > > I understand totally and there is absolutely no shame in downsizing. > In fact, if you are more energized by doing this, not only will your > business still be successful but YOU will feel better about it all, > YOU will not lose any more precious time with loved ones and your > dreams can begin to matter to you again. > > This is one of the reasons I do what I do now. Getting priorities, > values and purpose all in alignment from the beginning really help to > stop the burnout and the frustrations over giving your all to the > business while missing out on important moments with loved ones. > > Shiela, sit down and really write down from the heart what it is that > you really want. Include family, dreams, future plans and your > business. See if you can come up with a strategy that will include all > of the important things while still operating your business to the > level you desire. > > As Rhonda said- it will all work out and another opportunity will > present itself to you when you let go and open yourself up to new > possibilities :) > > All the best > Trish Rock > > On Dec 27, 6:11 am, Sheila DeLorenzo <serenityspringssa...@yahoo.com> > wrote: > > > I am in a big dilema friends... For those of you who knew me back when... I > > didnt understand how any one of you that ever succeeded in your dream of > > being a salon owner could ever long for the day of closing your doors..... > > I think I am there. This is my 9th year > > , deptember witll be ten and my lease is up. I have given my heart, soul > > and childrens precious years into it and into the girls that worked for > > me.. This year my whole staff left with a girl that worked for my for 8 > > years... (the others were long term also) . I wont blah blah blah with > > details, but it was devestating to me. I am on my feet as always, but I > > feel like I dont want to be in that position ever again and want to do > > something different. So I think I just need some reassurance that it will > > all be ok if I downsize... or is it downgrading?????? I cant tell. So.. > > help sisters! Just need some cheerleaders I think.. > > Sheila DeLorenzo > > Owner > > Serenity Springs Salon and > > Spa719-574-4373begin_of_the_skype_highlighting 719-574-4373 www.serenityspringssalonandspa.com > > -- > You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups > "NailTech" group. > To post to this group, send email to nailtech@googlegroups.com. > To unsubscribe from this group, send email to > nailtech+unsubscr...@googlegroups.com. > For more options, visit this group > athttp://groups.google.com/group/nailtech?hl=en. -- You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "NailTech" group. To post to this group, send email to nailtech@googlegroups.com. To unsubscribe from this group, send email to nailtech+unsubscr...@googlegroups.com. For more options, visit this group at http://groups.google.com/group/nailtech?hl=en.
