Wendy. Thank you for laying your heart in the field. For engaging in the art of irime, the aikido art of entering. How we enter is important - we all know that moment we step over the boundary and into the center if the circle to open space. It i s a place that demands great consciousness if that entering itself is to be in service of life and not in service of oneself.
Thank you for reminding me of that. Chris ----- CHRIS CORRIGAN http://www.chriscorrigan.com Sent from an iPod, typed with thumbs... On 2009-11-20, at 2:51, "Wendy Farmer-O'Neil" <we...@xe.net> wrote: > In my experience, truth is relative. It depends essentially on my > perspective. The vaster my perspective, the more many-faceted truth > appears. Until the very notion of truth becomes more of a living > process than a static fact. > > I have experienced contraction in the resonant field of OSList > throughout this conversation. To me that signals the presence of > aggression. Aggression can be very subtle or very blatant. Either > way, it stimulates hurt, often in those other than its target. > > I am a student of Aikido, so violence, non-violence, aggression, its > evocation, its arising, and its transformation are my daily bread. > I still have a lifetime’s worth to learn about it. I believe that t > he purpose of conflict is harmony. What I have learned so far, is t > hat aggression is a destructive, life denying vector in that equatio > n. And that clean heart anger is a generative life affirming vector. > > I have yet to hear clean heart anger in this conversation. I have > heard a lot of aggression in a variety of forms and guises. I have > also heard hurt, pain, sadness, confusion, frustration, to name a few. > > I will share what my experience has been in service to transparency > if it serves no better purpose. > > I feel contraction when I hear OS and NVC spoken of as tools because > for me, they have become profound ways of being in the world. > > I feel contraction when I hear pain in Chris Corrigan’s voice when h > e wonders why this conversation needs to unfold this way between peo > ple he cares about. > > I feel contraction when I hear blame, shame and name-calling. > > I feel contraction when I recognize the operation of a poisoned well > argument. > > I feel contraction when I hear someone caught in the steel jaws of > an old hurt. > > I feel contraction when i hear the pain of someone who has had to > fight too damn hard for every inch and breath. > > I feel contraction when I see more unsubscribes in a day than I > usually see in a month. > > I feel care, concern, pain, and sadness when I think of all of you > in this circle who are listening or speaking. It is you who I most > want to speak to right now. > > Here is my hand. > > I offer it in absolute commitment. I will never put you out of my > heart. I will hold space with and for you through it all. Even in > our most shadowed , unloved and disowned places. I’m game to face t > he monsters of the deep. I prefer them to the shallows. > > I will name that the use of violence and aggression cloaked as the > servant of truth has been the strategy of many who would prefer to > silence, persecute, oppress and discredit those whose opinions or > choices were in conflict with their own agendas. It has been the > root of much human suffering. I can feel suffering present on this > list right now. I don’t like it. I won’t support it. I am > saddened that people I admire and respect are behaving this way. I > am requesting that it stop. I am also requesting that the back-chann > el story-telling stop. If you do not have the integrity to air your > complaints directly, at least have the decency not to perpetrate sl > ander. (And I am speaking about everyone involved not one person in > particular, because I’m certain it’s going on in several > directions.) > > I guess we have finally grown up. We are apparently big enough, > brave enough, and ready enough to face a real dragon. Can’t wait to > see what we do with the treasure. > > In deepest respect and with great love for you all, > > Wendy > > > > > > On 20-Nov-09, at 1:12 AM, Michael Herman wrote: > > Wendy Farmer-O'Neil > CEO Prospera Consulting > we...@xe.net > 1-800-713-2351 > > The moment of change is the only poem. -- Adrienne Rich > > * > * > ========================================================== > osl...@listserv.boisestate.edu > ------------------------------ > To subscribe, unsubscribe, change your options, > view the archives of osl...@listserv.boisestate.edu: > http://listserv.boisestate.edu/archives/oslist.html > > To learn about OpenSpaceEmailLists and OSLIST FAQs: > http://www.openspaceworld.org/oslist > * * ========================================================== osl...@listserv.boisestate.edu ------------------------------ To subscribe, unsubscribe, change your options, view the archives of osl...@listserv.boisestate.edu: http://listserv.boisestate.edu/archives/oslist.html To learn about OpenSpaceEmailLists and OSLIST FAQs: http://www.openspaceworld.org/oslist